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how to flirt with girl

2006-01-19T07:41:00.000-08:00

How To Flirt with Girl
On knowing how to flirt with a girl successfully, may in fact be the start of something wonderful, or in the very least, create a night of fun-filled passion with a girl you chose to flirt with. So Here I am going to present you flirting tips for you guys.

Lets start with some Basics. I hope You don't forget normal Cleanliness factors :p
Making a great first impression is highly important when you choose to flirt with a girl. Girls are very intrigued by scent and cleanliness.

Flirting is an attitude: A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!

Smile: It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You will be a people magnet. Try it!

Underhanded Compliment: A underhanded compliment is like giving a compliment and then taking it away from her. Everyone and his dog might be giving compliments to the girl you are trying to flirt with. What we are going to do is.. Give her a compliment and then Take it away. Seduction Guru's Call this "Giving a Neg". Somethings like If she has nice hair, you say "nice nails, Acrylic???" LoL... well of course you just can't use this very line... You need to learn how to give these kind of lines on the spot and be playful

Some guys use some sort of gimmicks like Palm Reading, Magic to flirt with girls. Well these are good resources and methods to get girl into you. Girls like palmisty, astrology stuff. You can hook them easy.

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Tip on Flirting : flirting secrets that you need to know

2006-01-13T05:56:00.001-08:00

Tip on Flirting with women
I am going to give out something unexpected, a flirting secret you might say.

Ok Lmme ask you a ques.
What happens when a guy is trying to flirt with a woman.
9 out of 10 cases He'll be nervous as hell ie. he will naturally tend to talk faster, more abruptly, fidget & move about more, etc when he's with her.
Right...
Of course. This is the effect of women on Men. unless you are One hot star I don't think women will go weak in their knees in front of you.

So What to do about this.
2 things you can immediately Do.
1. Do the unexpected: Do the unpredictable that catches their attention. You do not need to act stupid. well, Lets say you are talking to her and then you notice something funny about her. You just say it out. if you find a fault in her, tell her about it. Hot women are not expecting someone to find out their fault. One thing to remember Do not ACT LIKE AN ASS.

What color hair does she have? If it's blonde, learn some blonde jokes... if it's brunette, learn some brunette jokes.
Is she tall? Bust on her height.
Is she short? Bust on her vertically challenged-ness.

2. Flirting Body Language : It has nothing to do with Stand tall, chin up, chest out body language, flirting has a different feel, a different aura about it.
lemme put it in different way. Imagine you are with your old freind(girl). You two can talk on anything. pull each other legs, make fun of each other, Be totally and utterly comfortable with each other.
Now if you can pull this off in front of girl you are flirting with you might end up with her.

most guys aren't relax when they are talking to a girl, thats where the most problems lies. Even if you don't use bodylanguage and other techniques, you can still get the girl if you just act confident and secure about yourself.

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Dont Let your physical flaw hold you back

2006-01-13T05:56:00.000-08:00

Too many guys are keeping themselves from having fun with women. They think they have an appearance that turns women off. They can't be further from the truth. For them, it's time to turn the tables around.

I'm about 5'10 but I don't have an athletic body at all. Not exactly what women would say they prefer.

But, what a woman says she prefers doesn't really mean what she really wants. It’s like most women would say, they want some guy that would treat them like a princess and do all these nice things for them, but when a guy like that shows up and does everything for her, she's like:

"Ewww, not another one! Run!"

Trying to meet up with women’s expectation is a way to reduce attraction, because you're buying into her frame of her having all the power.

Instead, switch the frame and make her chase you. Now it’s YOU having the power! If you believe that women like you, and act as if, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. They start believing it too!

By the way, you could also do little things to improve your looks. For example, if you are small you could get some boots, adding 2 inches. And growing your hair out by one inch and spike it. It would add up to 3 inches.

Learn How you can Do these kind of turn arounds in life
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free female seduction tip

2006-01-08T23:37:00.000-08:00

There’s a number of ways to get yourself into the right state. And a number of exercises that work well for different types of people. Try these ones on for size – and make a fool of yourself to prove that’s a good way to be too.

Knockin’ it up a Notch

Ok guys, you’ve GOT the basics down now. You are ready.

Time for some more advanced material.

Let’s say you’re still having nerves with your approach. Let’s take a look at a simple exercise to add to your relaxation exercise, which will help push you into playfulness.

The Playful Positive Placer

1. Relax, take a deep breath, and close your eyes.

2. Do your relaxation exercise.

3. Allow yourself to think all the useless negative thoughts that often pop up and sabotage you. Things like “Am I wearing the right clothes? Will she like me? When should I touch her?” etc.

4. Type the words out in your mind. Create a box around them. Put all your negative feelings inside that box. Go wild here.

5. Start shrinking the box as you push it further and further into the distance, until it is just a speck.

6. Erase it. All that should be left is a calm happy state.

7. Now, think all the RIGHT thoughts and the RIGHT questions. “How much fun can I have tonight? What will I find intriguing about the women I’m with? What interesting things might happen?”

8. Type the words out in your mind. Expand them until there is no blank space left, just boundless words and the positive feelings they engender.

9. Dissolve the words into your blank state, allowing that positivity and playfulness to soak into your very being.

10. Count from one to five, saying to yourself “I’m going to count from one to five, and when I finish I will feel much better than I ever have before. 1… 2… 3… 4… 5.”

11. Open your eyes.

Doesn’t that feel good? Try to do this exercise every time you go out to meet women. Once you’ve gotten yourself skilled at it, establish a trigger just like with your relaxation exercise. You won’t have to do the whole exercise each time once that trigger is anchored – and you’ll be able to call on it at the drop of a hat.

That’s huge because, no matter how smooth you are, there’s going to be moments you get stuck, or stumped, or knocked out of your game for whatever reason. If you have an established playful trigger, instead of losing your cool, you’ll be the chill super-stud by stopping, triggering, and handling a difficult situation magnificently.

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The Crazy Playful Walk-up Exercise

1. Pick out a woman.

2. Say sincerely and playfully “Hi, maybe you can help me… I’m lost… can you tell me how to get to (name the city you’re in).

3. This should make her laugh or cause confusion for a moment. WHATEVER she does, stay sincere and playful. YOU decide how to take the conversation next based on HER reactions.

4. If you feel an awkwardness, you can always bail with “Well, it was nice meeting you.” and walk away.

Do this to at least 100 women in the next month.

What? Why?

Silly, right? Stupid, right? WHY, again, am I making you do this?

The reasons are twofold: one, if you can do this and stay PLAYFUL and RELAXED, you’re never going to have trouble approaching women ever again. Ever. Really.

Two, you’re going to be surprised how often this stupid silly thing actually WORKS at getting digits and dates. It’s gonna prove to you that it really doesn’t matter what you say, but HOW you say it.

You’re REALLY going to get it now, buddy.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Avoid these 4 big mistakes with women

2005-12-22T07:30:00.000-08:00

Avoid these 4 big mistakes with women and Learn How to overcome this

1. Being Too needy
Don't be Needy. Act Like You dont need women in your life. You know It's kind of funny thing. Rich people always get richer, Playboys always get the girls. This is the big reason. They don't need women or Money in their life. I used to act quite needy when I realized this, I tried to change myself. It took lots of effort but I become Free from Neediness. and I started seeing the difference with both money and women.

2. Being Indecisive
If you cannot decide where to go, chose a place for your date or Decide between Mexican or chinese then You probably are indecisive. well.. CUT IT OUT. If you cannot decide then it shows that you depend on others for your decisions. It isn't attractive at all.

3. Being Predictable
I don't think I should be explaining this. DON"T BE PREDICTABLE.

4. Being a WUSS
who actually is a WUSS?
Anyone who behaves like a Needy, indecisive, predictable Nerd is a WUSS. LoL.. There are other factors which can come under WUSS. but I think top 3 Covers all bases.
You don't Need to put women on Pedestal.
You don't Need to Give women too much power(in your case I guess you might need to get back some of the power, You are powerless).
In all it's like "Don't hand over your balls".

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How to become successful with women

2005-12-13T00:17:00.000-08:00

Most men want to know their women are beautiful. Most women want to know their men have worth. Learn how to create social value in yourself, and the ladies will become MUCH more attracted to you even before you display any other seductive traits.

Learn the methods to become successful with women

Fame: What’s it good for?

Before dealing with physical strategies, I want to talk for a second about fame.

I know, this really separates me from the rest of the world, but dare to be different I say.

Fame is a major turn-on, for BOTH men and women. Why?

Well, let me tell you, the reasons are ENTIRELY different. For men, fame works if the woman is famous for her BEAUTY. If she’s a famous scientist, say, that doesn’t count. She has to be a universally recognized knockout. Get together with her, and not only are you the MAN for beating out so many other comers, but you KNOW she gorgeous. That’s what made her famous.

For women, it’s the social STATUS that comes from being famous. The respect, the dominance – the fact that you can skip the lines at shows, that you get preferential treatment, that you can show her worlds that regular guys can’t – which is the turn-on. You COULD be a famous politician, ugly as sin, but because you get free tickets to the opera, hey, that’s good enough.

That would never work on a man.

These sorts of things are HARDWIRED into us.
Understand it...
You do not need to become famous like Brad pitt or Tom cruise. You need to become the star of the night where you are.

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The Best Pick-Up Lines to Meet, Date, and Seduce Women

2005-12-04T09:43:00.000-08:00

Do You Make These Suicidal Mistakes With Women?"

* You see a woman you really find attractive, but are too afraid to talk to her.

* You go up to a woman to meet her, but can't think of anything to say, and end up feeling like you "blew it."

* You feel shy and want to meet girls, but don't know how.

* You are able to meet a woman and get her attracted to you, but you don't know where to take it from there, so things fizzle out and she moves on to another guy.

* You befriend a woman in the hopes of turning it into a relationship, but then you get stuck and don't know where to go from there.

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The Power of Looking Great

2005-12-04T09:38:00.000-08:00

So I hit on the importance of just... looking great! Finally I got some nice dress shoes with a casual tinge, so that they go together with blue jeans (the shoes cost me just like $ 15, they're a fantastic imitation, indistinguishable from the $ 200 or $ 400 ones I found downtown).

Together with my stylish black jacket with white stripes and my similar shirt it makes a combination that turns chicks' heads - and I'M NOT KIDDING!!! (Okay, plus there's my skin care, grooming, etc., which was already there.)

So the strategy I adopted was just being aloof - I just knew in advance I'd have great responses. So I just stop the chick, if she's walking towards me, or go next to her if she's standing, and say whatever comes to my mind. Preferably under radar, like "Is there a bookstore around here?" GREAT NON-VERBALS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY!!! Like confident, like "I-could-give-a-shit" smile, look into her eyes, smiling. Thus you slowly raise the heat.

In the meanwhile you build undercover rapport. When she's already your buddy, you start coming out - maybe a comment on her looks, maybe a straightforward invitation for coffee.

Tips on Picking up women

approaching women in daily life

2005-12-01T03:49:00.000-08:00

Waiting for the weekend to meet women? You don't have to. Women, no matter if they are young or old, ugly or beautiful, need to go out of the house at some point. Here is an example of how you can use those daily life opportunities to meet women.

Something I still had difficulty with was cold approaches out of the blue in totally non-flirtatious situations such as supermarkets or train stations, or engaging groups of men and women. Once I get talking, I'm fine, but the Opening itself is the difficult thing.

So I was going through Opening Magic and it works like hell. I tried it out, just during the few minutes on the way to the supermarket today; I opened half a dozen girls on the street without any reason. Once I got started, I came up with more and more ideas... I had only positive reactions, and it spiraled me upward... Man, I got the flu, so my voice sounded like I'm in freaking puberty, but it STILL worked! Imagine if I had gotten the voice right B-)

1.) I found a Canadian cent on the floor, but I'm not in Canada. So I go: “Hey, are you from Canada? Have you lost this?” Etc. spin off conversation. You can just carry a coin in a foreign currency with you and pretend like you just found it. Remember what J O E said: “It ain't lying, it's flirting.” (I like that one!)

2.) Brilliant: girls that walk in the opposite direction. I just smile at them while passing and say. “Hi!” They will be startled and at least look. Then I go up and say “Hey, heeey, don't you remember me?', totally enthusiastically. They start thinking, get intrigued, then they go... '...No...'. Then I say, playfully disappointed '...Me neither... '... Cracks them up gets the conversation going.

3.) Met an exchange student from France, started talking to her in French. “I bet the weather is better there, cause we get all the clouds from France...”; cause it was freaking raining here.

4.) Girl carrying something heavy, I say: “I'd help you carry, but I don't have any hands free myself...”; very positive response, so I took it from there...

5.) Girl standing around, so I stand next to her, say... “You waiting for someone too?” Then I make it like I was waiting for someone and didn't know who, and I pretend like it turns out to be HER!

6.) In the supermarket, to a girl who's looking at the shelves: “Are you lost too? I'm looking for -such-and-such-“;... Then I have her help me find it, and I talk about how women know their way around much better in these practical things LOL. We guys are dorks when it comes to shopping... playfully enough so as to not lower Social Value by it, or even raise it.

7.) At the cashier: I just acted all happy about how much change I got back and how I could now still afford a hot dog and stuff LOL... Got me a very positive reaction and the warmest of smiles ...

No number closes or anything of the like cause no girls above like 7.5 among the chicks, this was just dead-cold-walkup-practice...

Any comments, Further ideas?

PS: If you dont have Opening magic and Nonverbal Sexual Cuing then get it ASAP.

How To kiss women

2005-11-25T07:59:00.000-08:00

I Find these tips in Seduction Science's Personal Forum. They have lots of good advice but the thing is you can get access unless you are a customer. so I suggest you to get Seduction Science 2nd Edition or any other book there to get access

Assuming you've built attraction and rapport with the girl, comfortably violate her personal space, i.e. get close to her face to face.

Tell her you like her earrings or ears and touch them or the lobe. Begin outlining the contour of her ear and tell her how much you like her ear.

When you've done two laps, begin tracing the contour of her face: move to "safer" areas, such as her jawline, chin, then up around her forehead. Tell her how much you admire them, i.e. pace what you see.

If she lets you do this, you're pretty much in and you can really push the envelope. Move your finger down the bridge of her nose until you get to her lips. Outline her lips. Tell them how soft the feel (don't tell her how you'd like to kiss them, keep the tension going).

When you're get done with her lips, make a half circle up to her eyebrows and trace her eyebrows. This will cause her to close her eyes. Go in for the kiss.

Warning though, this routine can be a little tricky because you want to get a good circling rhythm and you don't want to "bump" into anything. I suggest practicing on finding a rhythm on your own face first.

The cool thing about this routine is that once you begin outlining the contour of her face, if she doesn't pull back, she's just waiting--expecting--you to kiss her. So you can kiss her at any time.

stress free date ideas

2005-11-25T07:51:00.000-08:00

Asking a person out can be stressful enough but once you’ve found someone to agree to going on a date with you, you may find yourself under the immense pressure of planning a first date. Planning a first date can be stressful because you want everything to go smoothly and you also want to set yourself up for a second date.

Just think of going to date where you can talk about variety of things.. you can even take your date to Flea-market just for the heck of it. There are so many things there that'll get you in talking mode

No-stress first date idea is the aquarium or a museum. The casual atmosphere alleviates the normal pressures of first dates. There is so much to see and do at these facilities that you will not be lacking things to talk about or do.

another no-stress first date idea is to spend some time volunteering. You can make arrangements for you and your date to spend a few hours volunteering at either a soup kitchen or an animal shelter or any other non-profit organization you like.

the idea is to be different than the last 147 guys she went out with...

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If you are still stuck up with no dates in hands and dunno how to talk to women or start a conversation.. then you need Opening Magic
This is not the book which will land you dates. but it'll help you in understanding the subtle nuiances of social communication. It'll help you get talking to any girl anywhere.
Along with Seduction Science. This will serve you for all situations

Becoming A Natural in picking up women

2005-10-24T20:22:00.000-07:00

You remember youth, right? The magical freedom, no responsibility, all you ever had to do was play?

Sure, the parts we like to remember. There’s plenty of things we’d just as soon forget.

Think back to your first crush. Did it end well?

Probably not. You didn’t know what you were doing, neither did she, and those awkward moments don’t play out in good ways. In fact, whether you know it or not, those initial failures are the true cause of all your future ones. How?

Did you know that most guys who are “naturals” with women lose their virginity young? I mean just about all of them, and just about always by 14.

Getting chicken and egg on you, they didn’t have immediate success because they were naturals. They became naturals because they had immediate success. Invariably, they got incredibly lucky. Some older girl picked them out and made the moves for them.

If they were doing something right, she reinforced it early, and if they were doing nothing, she gave them confidence. They didn’t have the doubts everyone has during their teenage years, they never wondered what was wrong with them. At least not when it came to women.

Guys who had initial failures, they wondered those things. While the “naturals” were walking around feeling like sex gods, everyone else was walking around questioning their entire sexual being.

Fast forward a few years and the men who got lucky (literally fall-into-your-lap lucky) have had tons of positive thinking – they ooze confidence and that sort of thing usually breeds success. So they go from one early encounter to have more, until they simply EXPECT it. They change their reality.

Everyone else walked around with negative emotions – unslaked lust, unrequited love – that build until it becomes what THEY expect. They change their reality too.

The truth is, our inner beliefs have more to do with our outer encounters more than just about everything else COMBINED. Hence, you have a good experience at camp when you’re 12, you become a natural. You spend each night coming up with explanations for why you’re alone, you become a frustrated average chump.

Sure, even AFCs will wander into success now and again – and it can change their beliefs (which is one of the reasons you always have women attracted to you when you’re in a relationship). But when the relationship ends the negative cycle starts up again, usually with even greater force – since most relationships end on a negative anyway.

Some people think that who you become in your early childhood is who you will remain, unchanged, the rest of your life.

Not true.

We all are sets of habits – thinking, doing, whatever – and those habits are set when you are young. But, while difficult, you can BREAK your habits and establish new ones.

Just like quitting cigarettes. Only harder.

So we’re going to BREAK YOUR BAD HABITS. The negative cycles and beliefs you carry around with you, always lurking on the edge of consciousness. We’ll see why that negativity is built on FALSE BELIEFS set by early experience and cultural reinforcement. We’ve got to face them and most importantly CHANGE them.

Just like 12 steps. Only cooler.

In my books, there will be visualization and various exercises we’ll run through. Some things we can change from the outside in – using posture, as an example. Some things we need to get from the inside out. All is covered.

There is work involved here – but not much, 30 minutes a day or so. What is MORE important is COMMITMENT – you can’t just think a new way for a little while every 24 hours and forget about it the rest of the time.

If you want to change your habits FAST, you need to commit to watching yourself. Noting your mistakes and negativity as they happen, and working to change your patterns. This stuff won’t work overnight – well, ok, some of it might (score), but for the most part it’ll take time.

This might sound a bit new-agey, but it isn’t. In fact, most successful people in ALL walks of life practice positive thinking in one way or another. If you are convinced that woman won’t want you, you make it true. If you are convinced she will – guess what, that’ll work out just the way you’re hoping.

Attitude, that’s what we’ll study after getting our little negative demons out of our heads. Having confidence is the most important thing, but your demeanor can only help. Even the naturals needed to learn more before they could go from young luck to mature success (and plenty never make the leap).

We’re going to look inside the heart of women and discuss what they REALLY want – or at least what they REALLY find attractive. From there, we’ll go over ways to create the right atmosphere for you to succeed.

What does that mean? In short, you need a woman to TRUST you before you can hope to go further. Yes, some women love the dangerous types, but even they wouldn’t head to a bed unless they believed they could trust him when it came to HER.

How do you create trust quickly? By creating a relaxed atmosphere.

But that alone isn’t enough. Relaxing by itself might just put a woman to sleep. You need more. You need to be exciting, unpredictable – anything but boring. I call this general concept playfulness – playful because its fun, but clean fun. You don’t want to create negativity – this doesn’t mean you can’t say negative things (they can work well), but you can’t say negative things in a negative way. Fun and playful.

Hence, relaxed playfulness.

You might be thinking that you can be relaxed and playful with that best girl friend you’d love to bonk but never will. Don’t worry. That’s different, we’ll go into the exact differences so you don’t get stuck in the friend category.

For instance, one of the most POWERFUL things you can do is create social value. If you know how to create an atmosphere in which are you important, women sense that. They want to be near it. You don’t have to get the money or the power to get the women – you just need to get the psychological edge those things create.

Even more powerful is sexual cuing. We’ll cover some of this in our inner game and some while working the outer, but non-verbal communication is the basis for ALL our responses from other people, well above word content. And if you don’t know how to cue sexually, you’re sabotaging yourself. You’re begging to be a friend.

Luckily, I know how to cue. And I’ll teach you.

After that we’ll move out into the field. I’ll work you through specific strategies and specific locales, going over the right and the wrong way to approach situations. Some of this stuff will work immediately – and if you can’t wait, you can skip ahead and practice in the field tonight – but most of it will consistently work only if you’ve got the basics of attitude and atmosphere down.

I’ll walk you through each step – the approach, the conversation, the close – until you see the path clearly and know exactly where you want to go next. Most guys are just thinking about how to get a hot girl’s clothes off – and that’s why they fail. If you slow down and think about things as a progression and just try to move to the next step, your success will skyrocket.

Finally, we’ll tie it all up. Taken bit by bit, each lesson we examine will have a small but noticeable effect. Taken together, you’ll see exponential change once you’ve passed a certain threshold. And as each puzzle piece improves, the whole will swell to monumental proportions.

You’ll have your pick of the litter.

I’ve seen ugly men, short men, bald men, broke men have their choice of mate. Some got it while young, others built up a workable system later. And plenty have changed their life by heeding the advice contained in my system. All the things that REALLY work are in my Seduction Science System.

Enjoy.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Getting Her To Initiate Sex

2005-10-19T19:56:00.000-07:00

You know why men are always chasing women and not the other way around, right? It’s because we want it more. Men love sex in a way women never will, and that’s why, always, sooner or later, it’s the man practically (or literally) begging for it while the women tend to get frequent headaches farther into relationships.

Right? I mean, that’s what conventional wisdom has come up with, right? And an opinion thousands of years in the making has to have the truth behind it. We all know that.

Wrong. So wrong. I’m ready to jump through the screen and throttle whoever came up with this brilliant idea. The only thing holding me back is the fact he’s so long dead.

If he wasn’t, I’d want to finish the job myself.

This is one of the greatest fallacies in all of life. Listen, men have one basic kind of orgasm. One. It can vary in intensity, sure, and sometimes it’ll even be stimulated by something other than direct contact, but it’s really just variations on a theme. That’s just how we’re built.

For a woman, the closest thing to our one orgasm is a clitoral one. But here’s the thing: women have TWO MORE kinds, arguably THREE. In addition to the clitoral, they also have the g-spot, the v-spot (deep in the vagina) and the vaginal, if you argue that isn’t related.

All those orgasms produce different feelings – feelings that men can imagine, but we can never truly know. And if a woman winds up having two OR MORE kinds of orgasms SIMULTANEOUSLY, WATCH OUT. During the height of perfect intimacy we can get a vicarious taste of this – or if you’re deeply tantric, you may believe that your feelings literally meld and a guy can get the full affect – but 999 out of 1000 male lives will never come close to approaching the levels of feeling that women can get out of sex. We’re just not built that way.

Almost makes you jealous, doesn’t it? Don’t worry, quite a few women never really explore this, and if you can learn how to help a woman along, you’ll never be alone again. But that’s a topic for another newsletter.

Wait a sec, you think, this is supposed isn’t this supposed to be a newsletter about relationships? Why does it only seem to be about sex?

Ah my brothers, this has EVERYTHING to do with relationships. I just wanted to point out, first of all, that men do NOT have to want sex more than women. They usually don’t. Women are simply more subtle, and also more finicky (blame evolution).

A woman can’t be turned on just like that. I show you a naked picture of Angelina Jolie, within seconds you could be pounding nails with your tool. Show a woman a naked Brad Pitt, and you aren’t likely to get the same reaction.

I don’t mean her nipples will be insufficiently stimulated to drive that same nail, either.

While men tend to be visual, women tend to be cognitive. She needs her MIND turned on before she gets in the mood.

Trust me, she WANTS to be in the mood, almost certainly more than you. But just because you get hard at the sight of her nightie, that doesn’t mean she’s ready.

And here’s the problem. Men get aroused so much faster than women that oftentimes they move too quickly. The woman wants sex, but not yet, and the guy is already moving fast into foreplay or, worse penetration.

For the woman, that’s just no fun. That’s not the lovemaking she wants. If you move too quick she may join in for YOU, but not for her. And this starts to become a pattern. Pretty soon she’s looking at sex as a chore, a way to keep you happy, but all the while she’s not being made happy.

This is when those pesky headaches start to appear.

This is when the man starts getting grabby, pawing, begging, putting himself in the position of weakness.

Now things are getting even worse, because that kind of wussy behavior is worse than nothing, it’s the ANTITHESIS of arousing for a woman. It’d be like if a woman took out her teeth before she started kissing you, EVERY TIME. Or removed a breast. Think of your own disgusting physical turn-off, and that’s exactly what you’re doing to her mentally.

Sex becomes less frequent, and MORE of a bothersome task for her. This leads to the man begging all the more, leading to the woman wanting it less and less, until it basically disappears.

The man becomes distraught, MORE pathetic in his attempts, and suddenly your abstinent. Or dumped. Or – worst? – cheated on.

As Dean Wormer might have said, abstinent, begging, and weak is no way to go through life, son.

So how do you keep from letting this happen? It’s simple. Maybe hard in practice, but simple in theory.

DON’T BEG.

Don’t paw, don’t coyly place her hand on your crotch, don’t plead for a little sweetness. Even if you get it that way – less and less as time goes by – the sex won’t be the kind of passionate embrace it should be.

No, it MUST be.

You’ve got to learn to lean back, ESPECIALLY when you’ve been in a relationship for awhile. You need to turn her on MENTALLY, and let her show you when she’s ready.

Don’t worry about her knowing about you. We have a handy flag raised whenever we’re in the mood.

A woman, though, needs to be turned on more patiently, much more slowly. When she’s ready to move up a level, she’ll certainly let you know, most likely in a physical way.

If you can give her a little then draw back – tease her a bit – then you’ll REALLY start to see something.

You want HER pawing YOU. SHE should be begging YOU for sex – in a playful way, of course, but nonetheless, YOU should be the one holding out longer.

This will help ensure that she REALLY is in the mood by the time you get down to it – which in turn leads to amazing sex.

Much better than a distracted handjob during Conan that she does just to get you to shut up.

Retain the POWER and the CONTROL in the bedroom. There is a LONG history behind this, but the long and short of it is this is a SEXY THING on a man.

Unless you’ve got a dominatrix, submission and pleading is not.

Feel free to play around with this. Some of the most EXPLOSIVE sex I’ve ever had was when I’d built a woman up to great heights, she wanted to keep climbing, and I suddenly stopped, lay back, and said through a knowing grin “No. You don’t want it enough yet.” A woman can get nearly VIOLENT in her passion after something like that, if she’s been built up correctly.

This sort of sexual tension works almost all the time. Of course sometimes, for whatever reason, it won’t. The key then is:

SUCK IT UP.

Go a night without. Don’t pout. Don’t EVER beg. Don’t even cajole. You might get something that moment, but you’re damaging your sex life in the long run. You are losing your attractiveness.

Remember, SHE’S the one who is going to be experiencing depths of feeling outside the ordinary experience of men the world over. If she knows that you can provide those feelings and you don’t do anything to screw up your sexual appeal, she WILL come to YOU.

You know, people DO get REAL headaches sometimes. A lot of bouncing isn’t pleasant. Don’t plant unpleasant experiences in her head when she thinks of you and sex. You want them ALL to be GREAT. Now no one can be on all the time, but even if every single experience isn’t fantastic, most of them SHOULD be, and there should be NO negative ones.

So we all need to be little Fonzies. And what’s Fonzie like? Correctomundo, cool. If the night ain’t right, let it lie.

And if it is, let HER show YOU. Your job is to get her in the mood. After that, making love to her is something you CHOOSE to do for HER, not for your rocks.

Forget about your rocks. Think with your cool, and your rocks will be happy. Let the rocks lead you around, and they’ll wind up blue, sooner or later.

Of course, if you aren’t sure, the best way to turn a woman on to the point where SHE initiates your sexual encounters, you can find plenty of advice in my Seduction Science System. Whether you’ve known a woman 5 minutes or 50 years, her triggers are going to remain fairly constant. If you want to further your attractiveness, check them out.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Stop Dating... and Get Laid!

2005-10-09T19:37:00.000-07:00

You know why most guys can’t get dates?

Because they try to get dates.

You think I’m going to talk to you about some Buddhist you-can’t-get-what-you-most-want thing here, and I am, in a way.

Just not the way you expect it.

Listen, if you set yourself up in a “date” situation, you’re setting yourself up for failure. You’re giving her an opportunity to say no. Even if you get the “yes,” you are setting yourself for an awkward encounter.

Most of all, you’re setting yourself up for judgment.

That’s not we do here in seduction science land.

You don’t want to activate her rational mind – you’re just asking for a whole slew of bad things to happen.

Her rational mind is the one that goes about picking mates. And unless you REALLY like spending months unsatisfied and a large floral bill, that isn’t the way to go.

You can start a relationship with a girl WITHOUT all that if you want… and you can have a purely physical relationship with a girl without all that, if you want. You have to trigger her on an emotional level. An attraction level.

And that means, NO DATES. The world’s a funny place.

So what do you do instead? You go on INSTANT dates.

Let me explain.

If you’re conversing with a girl and everything is going well, LEAD her somewhere. It can just be across the room, but LEADING is a powerful thing. More than you’d ever guess.

Say “Hey, I want to show you something.” Or “I want to tell you something.” Take her hand – if she returns a squeeze you know you’re in – and then have a little nugget ready to legitimize your leading. It can be a silly prop you carry with you, or a charming line you’ve worked out, just make sure it isn’t TOO corny. Be the good boy scout we all know you are, and be prepared for this.

By the way, if you’ve made out a little by this point, that’s a teeny help. As you might imagine.

If you feel a little strange doing this leading, then get her ready to accept it. How? Get her saying yes.

“Do you like to have fun?”

“Yes.”

“Are you adventurous?”

“Yes.”

“I don’t show everyone this, but want to see something special?”

“Yes!”

That was easy, wasn’t it? People tend to feed off patterns, and if you get her agreeing with you, her natural tendency will be to continue.

By comparison, you don’t want to ask too many negative questions.

“You aren’t a weirdo, are you?”

“No!”

“You don’t fly off the handle easily, do you?”

“I don’t think so.”

“Want to see something?”

“Uhh, not really.”

That exchange makes sense too – just not the kind of sense we want to make.

So get her saying yes, and take her to another part of wherever you are – a corner of the club, a table at the bar, a desk at the library. Use physical contact – but slightly undefined. You don’t want to be a schoolmarm about it, but you don’t want to be a lounge lizard either. You don’t want her knowing exactly WHAT it is.

Then, keep going with STEPS. Your goal shouldn’t be to get her in bed, you should try to simply get her to the next STEP. If you say “Let’s ditch the losers you’re hanging out with and have sex in my Chevy,” well, that might work with a few (VERY drunk) women, but for the most part, that ain’t gonna work.

Call it a hunch.

The woman wants to feel that the progression is natural… she wants to be able to tell her girlfriends later “I don’t know how… but it just worked. It just… happened!”

Small steps feel natural.

Sexual propositions in the first five minutes do not.

So once you’ve led her somewhere, lead her again. Take her to a new venue – you don’t need to separate you from her group, nor do you need to diss your buds. You simply need to go somewhere new TOGETHER.

Congratulations. You just reframed the world, and now you’re in it together. Instead of a serious deliberation of whether she wants to go out with you, and her judging the way you play with your jello, you’ve created a bond with her. And you’ve done it in a natural way.

MUCH better.

Next step? Well, usually one place hasn’t cemented the bond, so a second stop is often in order. As the night goes on friends will peel away, but if you’ve created attraction in your target, she won’t.

Yeah, maybe she really DOES have to be up at 4 am to pick up her sister at the airport. Mostly, though, those are just excuses if she’s having second thoughts about the NATURAL progression of the evening. It’s your job to create enough sparks that she will convince herself to stay with you, even if she DOES have a sister coming in on the red-eye.

If the attraction is there, sleep becomes secondary.

Next, you need to get her to your place. Some guys like to “need” a ride since their friends have left earlier, or some like to offer one. Personally, I like to use her car, since it sets you up to arrive at your pad first.

Earlier in the evening, you should have planted a seed excuse to get her inside. Perhaps you’ve talked music and there’s a CD she should borrow… or there’s the video clip you simply must show her… or you could just say “This is fun, let’s keep talking”… whatever it is, it needs to be INSIDE.

By this point in the evening, if you’re expecting to get further, you should have already been physically intimate, probably at the first spot where you met. If you have, once you’ve got her in your dwelling, it should be an easy transition into some serious lurve.

If you haven’t laid the physical groundwork, this can be much more difficult, but it’s still possible. She’ll probably be hesitant to come in (pre-kiss, you’re an assault risk, post-kiss, you’re a guy she’s physically attracted to) but if she does, that probably means she wants to keep going.

This is NOT an excuse to force yourself on the lady. There is NEVER a time that is appropriate… outside SM play, anyway.

That’s not about attraction or sexiness. If you’ve got the chemistry going, she’ll WANT to keep going… and if she doesn’t, that usually means you simply need to step back and build up the sexual tension to a good level.

Get her on the bed. Give her a taste of that massage technique you talked about earlier… that shirt sure does get in the way, doesn’t it? Let’s get rid of that… can you see where this is going?

The important thing is to take everything step by step, making sure she is comfortable at each stop along the way, and most importantly, feeling ATTRACTION. Otherwise, you’ll never make it up the ladder.

If you HAVE got the attraction happening, though, and lead her up a gradual slope with the pinnacle in your bedroom, you’ve just found the way to skip the date and get to the good stuff.

This applies even if it doesn’t occur in a single night – when you meet a woman, you should avoid date situations, and instead go with “I’m doing this, why don’t you come too?” That kind of attitude ALWAYS beats “I’d like to take you out sometime.”

Do it right, and you’ll be able to choose whatever approach you prefer, from pursuing the one night stand to carefully screening the women who MIGHT experience the joy of your bed over a few meetings. Pick your pleasure.

Just steer clear of traditional dates. Unless your goal is an improbable marriage to someone who, for all you know, could be a virgin. Lord knows you’ve never touched her.

If that’s your goal, by the way, stop reading and burn your computer now.

If your goal is to meet a LOT of women and pick one (or more) who are right for you, then keep studying, grasshopper. The above wisdom is useful, but without the proper tools and knowing how to create interpersonal magic with ladies as you choose, it’s a nice dream, is all. If you want to know more about how to create that ATTRACTION and move from sexual tension to bedroom release, you should check out my NEW book, The Blueprint: A Linear Breakdown of Seduction. Take a look, and see how YOU can consider making out on the dance floor just another step on the way to greater rewards.

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Should You Give Women COMPLIMENTS?

2005-10-09T11:07:00.000-07:00

WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE women FEED off of attention and compliments. The more attention and compliments they get, the better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego
boost.

Attractive women get compliments in various forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT.

As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid being mentally slotted into the "average" and "like all the other guys" category at ALL COST.

Tho In Opening Magic, Derek Vitalio does talk baout giving compliments but I don't agree with him completely

My general rule is I don't give out compliments on plate... that's it. specially if I am talking to group of girls. NEVER EVER.

There can be situations where you can give out compliments but if you are tiny bit insincere then it's Poof.. no results.

Lets say if you have met a beautiful girl. unless you are super handsome stud or super celeberity. You aren't any better than her in any way. You need to prove a girl that you are better than her, better than the guys she meet.
You are the biggest fish that she cannot catch. How do you do that?

How can you do that?

well Body language is one thing Like I always says. though you can change your bodylanguage
but you need to know only bodylanguage will not make you winner. tho experts say 95% of communication is in bodylanguage.
You need to learn
How to have better social status
How to be witty?
How to LIVE A LIFE(there is a big meaning in this, trust me not many guys get it)? You know I once told one of my freind and mentor "I want to learn how to get super hot girl" he replied.. well how about "Learning How to get a super life"

seriously.. it's like the Whole Package deal. Take some time and figure out this puzzle. How to get life is the BIGGEST PUZZLE
Spend some time solving it.

10 Sure Fire Tips for Meeting New People

2005-10-09T00:53:00.000-07:00

If you have problems in talking and meeting women then this will help you Opening magic

In order to meet new people, you have to get out and make yourself available to new acquaintances. It’s highly unlikely that you will meet many people while sitting alone in your living room watching television or playing video games. It’s one thing to want to meet new people but it is quite another thing to actually start meeting new people. If you really desire to start meeting some new people try making an effort to go out at least 4 nights a week and engage in an activity that you enjoy.

If you enjoy reading, libraries and book stores are your best bet for meeting people with similar interests. You can spend a weekend day or an evening perusing the racks at a local library or book store. Make sure to spend the majority of your time searching in sections that you enjoy but spend your time people watching instead of reading. You are more likely to meet someone with similar interests if you stick to what you like. If you notice someone looking at a book you have read or were planning to read, be bold and approach them. Using the book as a conversation starter gives you a starting point.

If you enjoy a physical activity such as running, make an effort to visit local stores that sell sneakers in an effort to meet new people. Since running is a subject that you are knowledgeable about and enjoy you may find yourself in a situation where you are able to offer your opinion or advice. For example if you notice someone who seems to be struggling to decide between two running shoes, don’t hesitate to jump in an offer your opinion. If you are knowledgeable about a subject most people will appreciate your opinion so offering advice about your area of expertise is one surefire tip for meeting new people.

Visiting local art museums and taking an interest in a specific piece of art can be a surefire tip for meeting new people. Chose your favorite piece of art and spend a little time lingering near this exhibit. If you spend enough time by your favorite exhibit, you are bound to overhear someone else admiring the art. You can take this opportunity to strike up a conversation about why you like the exhibit as well and offer your interpretation of the piece.

Joining a volunteer group for a cause you support is another surefire way to meet new people. You will meet many people who feel passionately about the same cause and will instantly have something to talk about. Additionally these groups often organize many projects and joining different committees will allow you to not only help out the group but also meet a variety of new people in the process.

You may also meet new people by signing up for a local recreational sports league. Most major cities have leagues available where you can sign up as an individual and fill in on a team that is short a player. While it may be fun to join this league with a group of your existing friends, signing up as an individual is a surefire way to meet new people.

Attending religious services is another surefire way to meet new people. The service itself may just be an hour long ceremony that does not promote meeting new people but religious groups often participate in a variety of other activities and are usually forming committees for many of these activities. Signing up for one of these committees affords you the chance to meet a few members of the congregation on an individual basis.

Becoming involved in local politics may lead to meeting new people. Getting involved in local politics can be a touchy subject because many of the people you meet may feel extremely passionate about their opinions. While this can be troublesome if you meet those with opinions that differ, you are also likely to meet many people who share opinions similar to yours.

Venturing to a nightclub or bar alone can be another surefire tip for meeting new people. Nightclubs and bars are traditionally thought of as places to meet new people but many people who visit these venues have trouble meeting people. The problem is that going out with a large group of friends makes you less approachable. Try visiting a bar alone and you may find yourself meeting more people than ever before.

Don’t pass up wedding or other party invitations just because you don’t have a date because attending these events solo can be a surefire way to meet new people. Many people would decline invitations for a function instead of going along but going alone can be your ticket to meeting new people. You will be likely to find others who are also attending the party without a date and this can be a great opportunity to strike up a conversation and meet some new people.

A final surefire tip for meeting new people is to attend a sporting event for a sport you enjoy. Here you will find many other people who have a similar interest and your common interest can lead to a new relationship. Sporting events also offer fans the chance to celebrate and commiserate together as their favorite team has its ups and downs.

If you seriously want to start meeting new people the first step is to start getting out of your house more often. Once you are out, be sure to make yourself available by traveling solo and making eye contact with those you are interested in meeting. Also, spend time participating in activities that you enjoy and you are much more likely to meet new people who share your interests. Getting out more, engaging in activities you enjoy and making yourself available while also taking a few risks by starting conversations are some surefire tips for meeting new people.
If you have problems in talking and meeting women then this will help you Opening magic

Try Seductionscience.com n test it yourself

Week end pickup

2005-10-08T08:14:00.000-07:00

Well, the weekend is upon us again. Do you have plans for tonight?

Sometimes you can be dreading the weekend because you don't have any plans, so you end up staying at home and not meeting any women.

Or, you go out but end up not meeting any women anyway!

Well, it doesn't have to be this way.

If you really want to have some fun this weekend and meet some
great women, then you should seriously think about checking out my
book.

It will help you find the confidence you need to go out and
approach women, tell you what to say, and take you step-by-step
through the process so going out this weekend doesn't have to be a
chore.

You can check it out here:
Opening Magic : Learn How to talk to women in any kind of situation.

If you are short of confidence then Learn How you can change the situation by using some exercises

I'm pretty much just an average guy, like yourself, but I used to have so many BAD experiences with women, that I just couldn't take it anymore.

I literally GAVE UP on women all together for a time.

It seemed that whenever I saw a woman I really liked, I would just freeze up, and never approach her, thoughts of rejection and failure running through my mind.

When I did find a great girl, she usually had a boyfriend or some loser she was seeing who never treated her right, but no matter how hard I tried, I could never get her to leave him for me.

Then there were the girls I became great friends with and really wanted to turn that into a romantic relationship, only to be greeted with the "let's just be friends" kiss-of-death!

Finally, there were the girls I just ended up settling for.

Because of this, I was never happy with the women I was with.

Does any of this sound familiar?
Well, what if I told you that it is possible to have ultimate power and choice with women?
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10 Great Places to Meet New Women

2005-10-08T05:39:00.000-07:00

If you have problems in talking and meeting women then this will help you Opening magic

There are a lot of great women out there just waiting to meet the man of their dreams but finding these available women can take a little creativity. Sure there are plenty of single women at bars and nightclubs but the competition is also tough with many men also trying to meet women and women are usually on guard at these locations so getting through their defenses can be difficult. Instead of battling other men for a woman’s affection at a bar, try meeting women in new locations. Specifically locations that sport a high female to male ration will enhance your chances of meeting new women.

A woman’s clothing store is a great place to meet new women. Not only is this location filled with women but it is also almost completely devoid of other men. Many men avoid a woman’s clothing store like the plague so if you are brave enough to venture inside you will have an assortment of women to choose from. You can start a conversation by asking a woman for advice for a gift for your sister or by complimenting her on her purchases.

The gym can also be another great place to meet new women. While you may already spend hours a day pumping iron in the weight room try spending some time on a cardio machine or drop in on an aerobics or yoga class. These activities are typically dominated by women so engaging in these activities increases your chance of meeting women while at the gym.

Another great place to meet new women is in an adult continuing education class. Many community colleges offer night classes on a variety of subjects. Try signing up for a class or two and you may find that you meet a variety of new women. The key to choosing a class is to not only choose a class that sounds interesting but to also choose a class that is likely to consist of mostly women such as cooking classes or pottery classes.

The Internet is always an option for meeting women. You can try placing a personals ad online or join a dating service to read profiles of available men. There are so many personals sites available that it would almost be impossible not to find a suitable match. Just be sure to exercise caution and not give out your contact information or agree to meet anyone in a secluded location.

Hobby and craft stores are also excellent places to meet new women. Many women enjoy activities in arts and craft and often frequent these types of stores to purchase items for craft projects. More importantly though this is a hobby that does not attract many men so you will most likely be one of only a few men in the store.

Tanning spas or salons can be great places to meet new women. Again, these locations aren’t frequented by men so you are most likely to be one of the only men present. If you are attracted to women who put a lot of effort into their appearance the salon is definitely the place to go. Here you will find women who are committed to their appearance and who will appreciate you for your ability to understand that a manicure is just as important to men as it is to women.

If you are in search of a woman with interests similar to yours, a bookstore might just be the place for you. Try visiting a bookstore and only searching sections of the bookstore that interest you. Forget about attempting to determine what section might attract the most women and stick to the sections that hold your interests. You might be pleasantly surprised to meet a new woman who shares your passion for restoring old cars.

Sporting events can also be a great place to meet women who either share your love of sports or are in search of men themselves. You may attend a baseball game and wind up meeting a woman who shares your love of sports or you may at least meet a woman who is trying to meet a man. Sporting events are typically well attended by men so it’s possible that the women you meet at a sporting event are trying to put the odds in their favor and use this opportunity to meet men.

Another great place to meet new women is the theater. Women are typically drawn to the arts and if you begin attending local theater productions you may find the opportunity to meet a variety of new women. Not many men take in plays or operas on their own so doing so will help you to stand out from the crowd and single women are more likely to notice you.

Finally a grocery story is a great place to meet new women. Women make up the larger percentage of grocery shoppers so as one of only few men the odds will be in your favor. Also, women typically are experienced shoppers and you can take this opportunity to ask for their assistance in picking out produce or choosing a pasta sauce. Women will be flattered by you asking their advice and may be open to inviting you to their place for a home cooked meal.

While bars and nightclubs are certainly full of available women the likelihood of meeting a woman at these locations is slim to none. Although many women frequent nightclubs and bars in the hopes of meeting a man, these are also locations where women feel vulnerable and are likely to have their defenses up making them unapproachable. Try frequenting other locations and you may have an easier time meeting available women with interests similar to your own.

If you have problems in talking and meeting women then this will help you Opening magic

understanding yourself to become more attractive

2005-10-08T04:18:00.000-07:00

Your beliefs, the things you hold to be true, are VERY important
in this game, as they will invariably affect how you come across
to the women you're interacting with in any given situation.

With that as a given, what exactly is "truth?"

In ordinary life, truth is what really exists, what a person really knows. Whereas in set it consists of something that is not actually in existence but which could happen.

For example, when you go in and you ASSUME ATTRACTION, you go
in holding the belief that she is already attracted to you, when this may or not be the case.

What's significant here is the reality of the inner life of the person, and his belief in that reality.

We're not concerned with the actual naturalistic existence of
what surrounds us when we're out doing pickup, or the actual
reality of the material world!

That is of use to us only insofar as it supplies a general
background for our feelings.

When you have a strong belief in your internal reality, this is
what we're talking about when we say you need to maintain a
"strong frame."

In other words, you need to have an unshakable belief that your
perspective is the "correct" one, the one that corresponds
with "objective reality," even if outside circumstances seem to
indicate otherwise.

What you have to do is put life into all the *imagined*
circumstances and actions that you must go into set with (i.e.
assumed attraction and rapport, "alpha" status in set) until
you have completely satisfied your sense of truth, and until you
have awakened a sense of FAITH in the reality of your
sensations.

Truth in set is whatever we can believe in with sincerity,whether in ourselves or in our wingmen.

How to bring out yourself?
The best thing is to relax your mind, your mind gives unnecessary reactions. so You need to learn To relax your mind. There are many ways shared in Seduction Science.
I have my own way of relaxing which I'll share later. another thing is to do is change your body language cue's. it can be learnt thru Non Verbal Sexual Cuing

Picking up women

2005-10-06T21:02:00.000-07:00

I've got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loath it?

If YOU know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success
with da ladies.

If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big
trouble.

But DON'T worry, my friend, because you're in the same position most men are.

Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so.

If you, for example, frequent the bar or club scene you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear
and loath men hitting on them.

But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs.

But they don't.

They, instead, wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.

I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment.

But before I do, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole.

No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital
Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump."

The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.

Having this belief will cause a man to fear and loath hitting on women.

He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."

If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in permanent red ink: "I'm so
scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants."

This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men who are a Prize they've gotta win over.

Okay. I think I've convinced you of how wretched this belief is. How it will pound any future opportunities with beautiful women into jelly.

But you might be having second thoughts.
Maybe you're not fully convinced.

So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: "The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap."

If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal saying: "100% Certified B.S."

Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars?

Because they want to be hit on.

There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women."

I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation.

In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.

Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her.

If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter.

Or, even worse, people thinking she's a power hungry rhymes-with-witch.

Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets.

Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquire and Star. Almost everyone talks about how stupid these publications are and claims to have never picked one up.

This is B.S.

If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.

The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket.

A lot of us have too much pride to admit it.

But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.

Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them.

But most women love it. They can't get enough of it.

But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little secret.

When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it
lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.

If YOU believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women. All you've gotta do is learn the right way to hit on women.

You could go out and experiment. And if you're willing to put in a lot of work, you probably will become successful with women. But it's going to be a lot of work.

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The Secrets of Body Language

2005-10-05T20:54:00.000-07:00

The Secrets of Body Language

What do you say when you don’t say anything?

Everything.

We dance around this topic all the time, but it’s ready for the spotlight: body language. This is the most important thing not just when dealing with women, but with communication period.

Nothing else even comes close.

Wonder why that thick-as-a-post jock got all the women when charming funny nervous sitcom-character-in-waiting guy got nothing in high school?

Body language.

Why James Bond got his pick of the litter and the brilliant Q got more quality time with gadgets?

Body language.

Why that homely busboy at the corner Italian restaurant takes home all the gorgeous patrons and the handsome maitre-de takes home doggy bags?

Garlic. The busboy stank of it and THAT is a huge turn-on.

Just seeing if you were paying attention.

All those other things you THOUGHT did the trick were just extra fuel for the fodder. Body language is the key to EVERYTHING.

Why? Because it is the symptom that tells you everything you need to know about the INSIDE of a person.

It clues you in to the person’s confidence, their openness, even their sexual skills. And if you send out the wrong signals – which most people do – then you’ve given yourself a SERIOUS hole to dig out from.

Conversely, if your movements say the right things you are on top of a BIG mountain that you’d have to work to screw up.

The unfortunate thing is you have a CHOICE about what you say, and most don’t realize it. Or they choose to ignore it and remain “themselves,” as if we are static representations of an image that never changes.

WRONG. WRONG WRONG WRONG! If there was a hand near me, I’d slap it. Good thing I type with my feet.

People are dynamic, and ever-changing. In fact, we are NEVER the same as we were in the past. Those changes show up in our body language, but that doesn’t mean we should abandon control.

If so, we wouldn’t bother with school, riding a bike, and everyone would still be a virgin. After all, we were all virgins once, weren’t we?

Look, there’s a difference between being UNAWARE of something, and being INDIFFERENT. Unaware just means we don’t know what we’re doing with ourselves. Ignorance may be bliss, but it’s not helpful.

Indifference is when you know what’s going on, but you choose to ignore it. WRONG! Where’s that hand!

You can’t be passive all your life and expect things to come to you. The world doesn’t work that way (my apologies to all silver-spooners I’ve offended with this blanket statement that merely applies to 100% of all living things, rounded to the closest .00000001).

You need to be ACTIVE. You need to TAKE CHARGE of your life, and that means taking an ACTIVE role in the changes that happen to you.

They’re coming either way. Personally, I’d rather have a vote.

So no whining about the walk you’ve developed and how that represents YOU as you are now. If that walk doesn’t work, kill it. Time to get a new one.

And there’s a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world.

It also can change your inner one.

Seriously, this works. The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind, and a clean one, a clear one. The outer world touches our inner one, and when you change the way you move, you also change the way you think.

Don’t believe me? Try it. Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. Your feet, butt, shoulders, and head should all touch the wall, exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). Now walk away from the wall, but hold the pose for 5 minutes.

How do you feel? Right, like someone stuck a pole up your ass. Just what we were going for.

It’s going to feel weird for awhile, because it’s different and new. Keep going, though, and eventually it won’t feel weird. In fact, it’ll start to feel GOOD. You’ll find yourself with this new CONFIDENCE that wasn’t there before and doesn’t seem to have much of an explanation.

Except that you are standing like you are confident. Cause and affect get blurred, and you wind up FEELING a certain way just because you are ACTING that way.

Either way, you look better standing straight, and you project confidence to all comers. Women find you more attractive, even if they aren’t self-aware enough to know why. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem… DIFFERENT.

Congratulations young Jedi, you’re on your way.

Standing up straight is about as basic as it comes, but non-verbal communication goes much deeper.

When you walk and lead with your head, not only are you hunching and sending out uncomfortable self-conscious shrinking vibes, but you’re also telling people that you tend to THINK a lot. Maybe more than you should.

Lead with your stomach, it speaks to your appetites and emotions.

Lead with your pelvis, and it says you are sexually experienced and confident.

This might sound like a lot of new-agey crap, but try it. Walk around for awhile leading with different parts of your body, and notice the changes that happen in your head. It’s real, VERY real. And there’s no reason bad chairs in abandoned classrooms should have more of a say about how you feel than you do.

Those nervous tics, those fidgety hands? Lose ‘em. Every button you finger while talking to someone – especially an attractive woman who’s trying to make a snap judgment about you – is a negative. Every fast jerky motion says you have low self-esteem – it’s like you have to get it done before some stronger guy comes along to stop you.

It’s like the beta wolves trying to feed before the alpha wakes up and wants more – complete with herky-jerky looks to check for his approach. This shit runs deep.

When you make eye-contact and drop it first. Oh god no. In our part of the animal kingdom, this is strong supplicating behavior. There are monkeys which tear the arms off other animals – including humans – if they don’t drop gaze first.

So if you are looking at a woman and look away before she does? You’ve just said she’s in control, and her chances of becoming attracted to you pretty much disappear.

That’s not to say you stare from a far distance. That’s stalker behavior – when far enough away betas get bolder – and she’ll think you a freak. This is about close quarters, the moment before a conversation starts.

Crossing your arms? Stop that. You’re telling everyone to stay away, so don’t be surprised when they do.

Leaning in to your target? Why not just say “I want to have sex with you.” That’s exactly what you’re doing, and most guys do it so early that it’s a major turn-off (unlike once she’s primed, in which case it can start speeding things up).

Standing in her personal space (which for most people is about 18 inches to 3 feet away)? You’re triggering her to run away, which is NOT a feeling you want linked with you. Standing right on the border of her personal space? This can be golden if you do it right, creating a certain tension in her mind although she probably won’t know what from. Much like really needing to piss can lead to a boner, this tension can become sexual.

Standing well outside her personal space and not directing your body at her, remaining somewhat detached? Now that’s good – she’s gonna want to know why she doesn’t have your attention, and might start working to get YOUR approval. Don’tcha love that?

There are thousands of little cues we give off to each other, and the BEST way to learn them is to see them in action. Go out and find some guys doing well with the ladies. Watch them, see what they’re doing with their bodies, and what responses they are getting. If you think you’ve identified a non-verbal communication that signals confidence or sexual prowess or just general alpha-ness, go practice it. Try it out. Odds are you won’t get it the first time, but don’t let that discourage you. There is no better way.

The second-best way, though, is by studying the subject using the material iny my course Non-Verbal Sexual Cueing, now available in audio CD. Everything contained in this newsletter is covered in much greater detail, as well as hundreds of other helpful hints and techniques that will correctly adjust and fine tune the nuances your body language.

Until next time.

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Defeating Shyness

2005-09-30T21:12:00.000-07:00

You weren't BORN shy.Shyness is not an inherited trait.
It's something that is LEARNED.

It's a skill that is DEVELOPED over time.In short: Shyness is UNNATURAL!

Human beings, by nature, are social creatures. We're raised by
parents, have siblings, etc., so it's natural to desire contact
with other human beings.

Any feelings that make you act contrary to this desire are contrary
to evolution.

They are DANGEROUS!

They are trying to deprive you of a basic human need -- contact
with others.

When you fall back on the crutch of being "shy," what you're really
doing is training yourself to do something that's inherently
HARMFUL to you!

Being afraid of others is the equivalent of having an irrational
fear of food. Food is something you NEED to survive! And if
you're afraid of it, you're going to suffer.

In this case, if you were dying of hunger because you're afraid of
food, would you rather die of starvation, or would you prefer to
FORCE yourself to eat, despite the fear, in order to survive?

This is the same dilemma you must face when confronting shyness.

Would you rather suffer emotionally from loneliness and fear?

Or would you rather force yourself through the fear and enjoy human
companionship?

I'm hoping you choose to FIGHT the fear.

And I'll help you do it.

Do you want to know the single best way to overcome shyness?

You can do it by simply MEETING PEOPLE.

Keep reading, because I'm going to tell you, step-by-step, what you
have to do.

Go out EVERY DAY to meet 10 women. It doesn't matter what they
look like, how old they are, whatever, as long as they are WOMEN.

Walk up to them and say:

"Excuse me, can I ask you a question? It will only take a moment."

If they say "No thanks," just shrug it off and say "Well, thanks
for your time."

If they say "Yes," respond:

"I need some female advice on something. My little cousin's (or
niece, or whatever) birthday is coming up, and I need to get her a
gift, but I don't know what little girls would like. Can you give
me a recommendation?"

Then when they give you the answer, say:

"Thank you very much. My name is (your name). What's yours?"

When they give you their name, end it with:

"It was a pleasure meeting you (her name). Thanks for the advice."

And then WALK AWAY.

That's right. You don't have to hang around and chit-chat. You
can just walk away.

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Breaking Social Barriers

2005-09-26T09:43:00.000-07:00

You know what, on average, people are most afraid of? It’s not death. It’s public speaking. As Seinfeld once said, most people would rather be in the coffin than giving the eulogy.

That doesn’t make much sense, does it?

By now you should be getting used to humans not making much sense.

This all comes from social pressure. No one wants to look stupid. Everyone wants to be the coolest guy in the room. And when you stand up in front of people, you give yourself the chance to FAIL.

Winston Churchill once said something like “I’d rather keep my mouth shut and be thought a fool than open it and remove all doubt.”

He also said “Madam, I may be drunk, but I’ll be sober tomorrow, and you’ll still be ugly.” Feel free to use that one.

Anyway, most people feel like Winston. When it comes to the fool quote, I mean. Almost everyone is so scared of doing something dumb that they end up doing nothing. When opportunity arises they flash back to a bad experience from junior high, all these negative emotions come flooding, and they freeze.

It’s understandable. I mean, the emotional pain of embarrassment and – worse – rejection is very real. Most guys prefer physical discomfort to social awkwardness. So eventually you just avoid situations where things can get awkward or embarrassing or – worse – rejecting.

STOP THAT!

Time for some tough love. When you’re on your death bed – should you be so lucky to have a bed – it isn’t going to be the things you tried and failed that you regret.

It’s the things you HAVEN’T TRIED. Always. Because you never know what might have been.

I remember once when I was a young kid – maybe 14 – on the beach and some girls walked by me and said “Hi” with these salacious smiles.

I froze.

And I REMEMBER THIS! I rue that moment. I’ve approached thousands of women since, and especially in the early going, I wasn’t always successful. I got shot down my fair share of times.

And I don’t remember them much at all. Certainly not in a painful way. At the time it might have hurt, but with practice you can learn to deal with that pretty easily.

It’s like breaking through the burn in a serious exercise regimen. It sucks while it happens, but once you’ve made it through it doesn’t seem so bad – in fact, you get to kind of enjoy it. Why? Because instead of avoiding the burn with fear, you push yourself towards it, and you get great results. You wind up feeling good, and pride comes that you pushed yourself through to the reward.

Guess what? Approaching women much like that. It is EXACTLY like that.

When you see a beautiful woman and those nerves come, that’s normal. Everyone gets that. Even the best of the best still get that occasionally, and those are guys with AMAZING success rates.

EVERYONE is scared of looking like a fool, and a beautiful woman can do that to you better than most. Hence, approach anxiety.

DEAL with it.

Most men don’t fail with women because of some fatal flaw in their being. It’s because they never put themselves into a position where they can succeed. And when by luck they find themselves in that position they don’t know what to do because they’ve rarely been there!

Thus, they screw it up, receive more negative feedback, and avoid such situations even MORE in the future. This is what psychologists call a negative feedback loop, and it’s an ugly thing. Tough to deal with too.

So what’s a guy to do?

BREAK THE LOOP.

I’m not going to lie to you. When you approach women – especially to start – you’ll have some negative interactions. You’ll be nervous, and although most women will be much nicer than your dark fantasies, they probably won’t respond the way you want them to.

Even a nice brush-off is a brush-off, and it still stings.

Plus, there will be some women who WON’T be nice, WON’T humor your awkward attempts, and will blow you out of the water.

Ouch.

Of course, after your first good workouts, you shouldn’t be able to lift your arms above your shoulders.

Ouch.

The point is that you are BUILDING to something. The more practice you get, the less nervous you’ll be, or at least the less nervous you’ll act (which is just as important). As you gain confidence, you won’t have that fear ruining everything.

The butterflies will remain, but YOU will have control of them. One day you’ll get a cold response, and you’ll stay so inside yourself and confident through it that you’ll actually TURN the tables and have women respect and LIKE you for it.

You’ll have passed a test, and you’ll get great reactions. This is when you start to – wait for it – ENJOY these socially charged moments. There will come a point where you SEEK THEM OUT because you end up having POSITIVE responses. Either from the get-go or, more powerfully, when you deftly deal with a situation most men RUN from.

Break the negative loop, and you find yourself in a win-win place. That’s not to say ALL women you approach will fall all over you – they have their own lives and issues to deal with – but you won’t ever feel that it was YOUR fault.

If you’re friendly, open, and confident, either she will open up to you or she will have a personal reason why she doesn’t.

You don’t have to have that naked-in-the-locker-room junior high feel.

How do you get there? Start with these exercises.

Tomorrow, go out and talk to 10 people. Any 10 – men, women, children, grandmas – just get used to TALKING with strangers. Get comfortable doing it. Talk about books in the bookstore, music in the CD shop, Columbia in Starbucks – anything, so long as you try to do it NATURALLY.

More than likely some of the people you talk to will be women, and more than likely some will be hot. Great. Treat them the SAME as everyone else. Remember, you’re just practicing the natural connection with humanity, something most people can’t do around strangers.

Got it? Good. Now do the same thing for 10 days. That’s right, 100 people.

Just do it. Don’t tell Phil Knight I said that.

At the end of those 10 days you should feel a lot more relaxed approaching strangers and conversing with them. So the NEXT 10 days you are going to talk to beautiful women.

This doesn’t mean to ignore everyone else, but if you see a woman that you’re attracted to, MAKE yourself talk to her. Ok, if she’s at a restaurant spoon-feeding her grandparents, you’re excused, but if the situation is REMOTELY acceptable, you’ve gotta talk to her. Period.

If you want, you can simply say “I usually get nervous talking to beautiful women, so I’m practicing talking to them in a relaxed way, staying in myself. Thanks for the help.” Most of the time the response will be better than you think – she’ll be flattered, and you might provoke a little nurturing instinct.

Don’t stop there, of course. Try to talk for around 5 minutes without getting flustered. After 10 days, odds are you’ll be pretty good. Some women might even volunteer their numbers.

But we’re not finished. The NEXT 10 days you are going to go out and ask 10 women a day for their numbers, emails, even instant dates (like moving on to a coffee shop). Remember to stay relaxed and talk to them as you talked to everyone else. DO NOT change your approach – she’ll know if you do. Keep cool and confident – the rest will come.

At the end of this month, you’ll be a new man. A more confident man. And, likely, a man with enough numbers to keep you busy for the next month.

You’ll be starting to ENJOY those social pressure moments, because you know that good connections come out of them. You’ll have a positive feedback loop. You’ll be ready for the next step.

Getting numbers is, after all, only the first step. There’s plenty more to know if you are going to have full success and find yourself satiated at the end of the night. If you want to learn more about the REST of the game and the knowledge and tools that can take you bliss, check out my site, Seduction Science. On it you’ll find all sorts of resources about each step of the way and what you need to know to be successful.

Until next time.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Biggest mistake with women you can make

2005-09-21T20:02:00.000-07:00

It's a mistake you're probably making that is destroying your
success with women.

And you know what the worst thing is?

YOU PROBABLY DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU'RE MAKING IT!

Do you know what it is?

Like most of the big mistakes out there, its so simple, you're
going to go "duh" when you hear about it.

I'd like you to imagine for a moment...

You're out on a Friday night at your favorite place, and you see a
drop-dead beautiful woman.

Seriously, this is the type of girl you've been searching your
whole life for.

Instantly, you get that nervous feeling in your gut.

Things start racing through your mind, like:

--What do I say to her?
--What if she's here with other people? What do I do then?
--What if I get rejected?
--What if people are watching me and I fail?

You finally work up the courage to go over to her and use one of
your openers to start a conversation with her.

Things seem to go well, until you ask her for her number, at which
point things go wrong.

Maybe she doesn't give you her number.

The most dangerous mistake you can make with approaching women is: FOCUSING MORE ON YOURSELF THAN ON HER.

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Fear of Rejection

2005-09-21T04:09:00.000-07:00

I read this peice of advice and thought I should share this here.

What they REALLY seem to be asking me is, “How do I handle this in such a way that I WON’T… BE… REJECTED?”

Human beings are always looking to “save face”. And we’re always looking for a guarantee.

But here’s the thing with “rejection”:

You only fear it because you reject YOURSELF. Nobody can reject you except YOU.

I know… It sounds like corny “love yourself” advice from the pop-psychology gurus. I know! I resisted that advice for YEARS.

I also resisted the advice, “Be yourself.”

I thought, “Fuck that… I want to be COOLER than that! I want to get laid like a rock star!”

But now I finally get it. I finally understand that “The world is your mirror.”
Not just intellectually, but I know it’s true in my heart.

GetSeduction Science and improve your relationship and love life

2005-09-20T18:46:00.000-07:00

There once was a man named Adam. He was a nice enough fellow – he didn’t really know any better – and he had a woman, food, plenty of sex and nudity, more pets than a zoo, and lived an idyllic life.

Only one thing – he couldn’t eat one particular fruit. Other than that, he could do whatever he wanted. So what’d he do?

Obviously, he ate the fruit. Thus begat a looooooong tradition in all humanity; we want what we can’t have.

Psychologists have a name for this, given us by that early Adam. It’s the forbidden fruit complex, and almost everyone has it to one degree or another. Women have a name for this too. It’s called playing hard-to-get.

Now, some significant time later, there was another Adam. The poor guy didn’t really know what he was doing with women, and he rarely had successful dates. Finally, through blind luck, he found himself in a relationship. Overnight the world changed – ladies smiled at him, some chatted him up – in general, he became this much more attractive man.

He became the forbidden fruit.

Only it’s much more complex than that. Most of the women didn’t know he was dating someone else. Part of it perhaps was he was happy and confident, but he’d been happy and confident alone before, without this change coming. What was going on?

The forbidden fruit is the obvious and easy little trick we can watch humanity fall for. But there is an opposite corollary; we don’t want what we can have.

I know I know, we’re all stupid shmucks. We deserve lonely nights for that kind of mixed-up thinking.

That doesn’t make it any less true.

Theories for this abound. Some people think it’s because our unconscious mind is triggered to think ourselves BETTER than those who are desperate to be with us. Some people just find it boring – where’s the thrill? The chase? The get-to-know-you game?

Maybe it smacks of self-consciousness and a lack of confidence – why do you NEED me so much? What’s wrong with you?

Maybe it’s the insult of skin-deep lust. Hey, some women enjoy one-nighters as much as the next guy, but outside of the porn industry, few women want to be viewed as just a body. And if you want it SO BAD in such a short amount of time, well, you don’t truly know her so we know what you REALLY want. Pig.

Maybe it makes no logical sense at all, and it’s useless to analyze.

What we CAN do, though, is recognize it for the pattern it is, and learn from it. Just as you were turned off by that nerdy girl in high school who had the crush on you, attractive women are turned off by drooling dorks (who again are dorks BECAUSE they drool).

But now we’ve got a problem. If women don’t like men who obviously like them, and we only want to be with women we like, who don’t like us ‘cause we like like them… this quickly turns into a Wonder Years nightmare scenario of hopelessness.

This paradox is probably the cause of something like 95% of the world’s loneliness. It’s a pity our emotional brain – the part of the mind that is responsible for attraction – is such a mess. But that’s the way it is.

I guess we should all get used to it and prepare for a life of marriage to someone we settle for, not someone we want. Right?

OH GOD NOOOOOOO! Here I come to illustrate a point, and I leave my readers suicidal. Not good. Understand this is the way it USUALLY happens. It’s not the way it HAS TO happen.

We’ve said before that attractive women assume as a matter of course that all men want them. It might not always be true – maybe not every bum sitting outside the library with an upside down hat in front of them wants your quarter – but it’s true enough that it’s a useful rule in her daily life.

She knows how to deal with men when she knows what they want.

So what do you need to do?

NOTHING.

You don’t need to tell her how much you want her. And – more importantly, since most people don’t open with “I want you” – you cannot SHOW her.

Really, this is the definition of cool.

You may think you’re playing it cool and not telegraphing your intentions, but guess what – if the intentions are there, you probably are.

There are literally THOUSANDS of physical clues that set off a woman’s radar. You lean in too far or approach too close, you fidget with buttons, you laugh about things that aren’t funny, you awkwardly get in position for a hand-hold.

And about 2000 more.

If you were a yogini you might be able to approach a woman with her attractiveness front and center in your brain and control all the little tics that give you away as a bundle of nervous sexual energy.

Of course, if you were a yogini, you probably wouldn’t be interested in this, but that’s another story.

No, there is a much easier way to deal with this, to eliminate all the signs that say “I want you.” The simple answer is RELAX.

The longer answer is DON’T TRY. Pretend she’s your sister. Pretend she’s an episode in Grand Theft Auto. Pretend she’s a practice conversation for some imaginary future.

Whatever you do, DON’T think about going back to your place with her. Really, you don’t need to pretend – you can simply MAKE the conversation practice.

With every woman.

From now to forever.

You just CAN’T show a girl your cards early on. It’s death to attraction. It transmits all the wrong things. Sure, you might get away with it now and again, but not usually, and NEVER with extremely attractive women in high demand.

And until you realize that, you should treat all women as practice with that bit of knowledge. Because it’s never going anywhere otherwise.

Once you DO realize it, you’ll see that you just need to do what you’ve been doing, treating a lady as a practice conversation with NO aim.

Like a cat, if you try and pet her, you’ll never catch up to her. But act chill around cats – even ignore them – and you’ll have them crawling all over you.

This is the way of life. It is one of the most important concepts you’ll ever learn when it comes to attraction and dating. Act with ulterior motives and she’ll know, guaranteed, and you’ve lost all hope with her.

Act with no expectations and it’s a fair bet she’ll see a bit of the forbidden fruit in you.

THIS is what people mean when they say to just be yourself. No wonder you never got before, right? Seriously, if you can simply enjoy being YOU and living YOUR life around women without chasing them, it works. It says you are an interesting confident guy who might ENJOY being with a particular woman, but you don’t NEED that woman. Powerful.

Unlike modifying your behavior around her, which smacks of insecurity and weakness.

So do what you need to do to ELIMINATE every yearning in your interactions with attractive women? Convince yourself you’re too busy for her anyway. Or – better yet – too good for her. Or only talk to women within areas that have easy access to cold showers.

Whatever you need to do to get yourself in the right frame of mind, do it.

Remember, she’s just practice. In fact, if you TELL her that when you first start chatting – something like “I’m practicing talking with attractive women so I can become more comfortable around them.” – it actually can work very well.

But dear God, go out and PRACTICE practicing. This is a simple concept, really, but hard to put into, ahem, practice. You’ll probably hold your head well for a bit before a situation turns promising and you think you’re in, and the magic ends. You lose it – just for a second – and you may never recover.

Of course, just standing around not wanting women isn’t enough. You need to know how to go up to them, talk to them, trigger attraction in them, and eventually seal the deal. I spent years figuring the necessary steps and body language out, and I’ve put it all into my ebooks, Opening Magic and http://www.seductionscience.com. Check them out.

Until next time.

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

How To Pass A "Shit Test"

2005-09-19T06:04:00.000-07:00

I read this email.. and It does makes sense. DOn't you think...

This is something that’s been bugging me for over a year now -- this idea that women supposedly test men in order to determine if they are “worthy”.

SHIT TEST: -- noun: a question, demand, or hostile comment made by a woman intended to gauge whether a man is strong enough to be a worthy boyfriend or sexual partner.

Now, debating on whether this theory is “true” or not – that’s not my intention.

There is an old saying, “Follow those who seek the truth, run from those you claim to have found it.”

I am going to attempt to point out the unhealthy nature of viewing the world in this way, and I am going to attempt to update this model known as a “shit test”.

Here goes…

What I want to point out is that if you buy into this “shit test” model of the world, you’re setting yourself up for short-term success with Barbie’s and long-term DISASTER with women of heart.

Because as soon as you attempt to “pass the test”, you are subcommunicating that it’s okay for her to test you!

So many guys (and women) ask me how they can fix their messed up relationships. And it breaks my heart because they don’t realize that they CHOSE THIS.

If you’re in a messed up, hostile relationship, you created that reality.

The way I look at it, THE MOMENT, the exact moment that a woman is overly rude to me is the moment I wish her “all the best”.

The thing is, if you’re sitting there, trying to think up clever cocky funny ways to pass her supposed tests, YOU’RE TRAINING HER TO TEST YOU.

People treat you the way you TRAIN them to treat you.

Now, it’s interesting to me that if you change the lens by which you look at people, the people you look at change as well! Read that again J

The seduction community has taught people to stop thinking with their penis, and to start thinking with their analytical mind instead.

But I’m telling you, “No. You went too high up in the body. Go back down a couple feet and start thinking with your heart instead.”

Now What to do?

Well If you are following a Alpha Method... I mean if you act like Alpha Man then You do not have to face this. Like in this article it said... People treat you as you train them to treat you.

You can become Alpha Man from just changing your Body language
and Also you can learn How to get women from
Seduction Science

cologne for going out

2005-09-19T01:54:00.000-07:00

well if you are a MAN, then you should be prepared for every thing. Now now How coudl we forget about cologne right??.

Nightclub Cologne

--> D&G Masculine - by Dolce & Gabbana
If you're hitting the night scene with the boys and want to make an impression on the ladies, show 'em your masculinity with a cologne that'll arouse the wild woman in them.

Key notes: lemon tree leaves, thyme, basil, clary sage, peppermint, fig wood, musk

--> Touch - by Burberry

Thanks to its woody undertones and floral overtones, this cologne lives up to its name. Make "Touch" part of your clubwear, and you'll heighten the sensual senses of the women in the room. Question is, can you handle it?

Key notes: violet leaves, mandarin leaves, cedarwood, nutmeg, white pepper, white musk

I'll add more info on other cologne depending on your goals. like wat to wear in an evening date, or in office.. to leave lady killer impression :p

btw you can take Derek vitalio'sSeduction Science Book to Up your chances with women. It's the best book. You'll know about how to handle different situation, and lot of other stuff

Online dating tips

2005-09-18T06:22:00.000-07:00

Try this for your personal ads for unlimited seduction:

Headline: What Would Happen If....

Me: I'm a (insert nationality) male living in _______. I love traveling, dancing, biking, hanging out with friends, and just having a good time. I'm self employed and looking for someone special to enjoy my free time with. Although I don't mind writing emails, my fingers hurt after awhile and would rather meet face to face, in a place that's comfortable for both of us, if the connection we feel is strong enough for us to take action on this.

Her: More important than just measurable qualities, like height, weight, etc...is that sense of connection...that timeless link that you feel when you know that you're really attracted to someone...a signal that your body and your mind communicates to you that lets you know that this person is someone whom you can explore adventures and experiences with.

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

Picking up women

2005-09-17T21:27:00.000-07:00

By Derek Vitalio
Have you ever met the ice queen? The closer? The Top Gun foxy lady who seems like she could shoot down any and all comers – and generally does so before things get so far as ‘hi?’

Me neither.

You can learn a lot from these women. They are generally beautiful, very sharp, very confident. Chances are they are successful in their chosen field. Chances are most men wet their pants in a combination of desire and fear just being near one.

Chances are also great that, if you can get past the initial frost, you’ll find a COMPLETELY different person underneath.

As a matter of fact, I’m giving you an assignment. Next time you see one, go up to her and say this: “Excuse me, I don’t want to bother you, but I know you are a warmer and sensitive person underneath your harsh exterior. I’m not trying to pick you up, but I’m trying to learn; why do you present this face to the world when you have a much friendlier one?”

If you can do that, congratulations. You already are gutsier than 99% of the men out there, and that kind of gumption will eventually be rewarded.

Just probably not this time. That’s alright. This is a LEARNING mission – and you’ll do better if you consider MOST of your interactions with ladies the same way. It takes away the hard sell. It tends to relax women.

Oh, there’s a chance you’ll run into a lady who simply is a born bitch, in which case look out. More likely she’ll quickly size you up, and decide whether she wants to talk or not.

If the initial gambit is enough to get past her guard, you’ll learn some interesting things. She’ll likely complain about men ALWAYS PESTERING her, ANNOYING her, and generally getting in her way.

She just wants to live her life, but it keeps getting interrupted by these ANNOYING guys who say things like “Gosh you’re beautiful” and expect a date and more in return.

So she developed a technique. She put on the ice mask, and most men get intimidated and turn heel. If she feels an uncomfortable stare, one glare can reduce a man to shoe study. Sure, sometimes it gets lonely, but she has a close group of friends who made it through her guard either because they were bold, exceptional, both, or caught her at the right time.

You know what, I’m probably not telling you anything you haven’t thought about yourself. But getting it from the horse’s mouth, if you can pull it off, has a special quality.

Something you might NOT know, though, is that ALL beautiful women have the same guard up. They all dislike being annoyed by men, although many don’t go to the extreme of trying to shut out the world.

She might smile and laugh little patronizing laughs and SEEM open, but if you aren’t penetrating her skin and creating ATTRACTION, she’s just being polite. It’s not going anywhere.

At least the ice queens are honest about that.

When women are approached by men and they find it annoying, yes, some of that comes from being genuinely annoyed. But MOST of it comes from BOREDOM.

They’ve been approached by hundreds of guys the past MONTH and most of them say the same safe things over and over. “You’re stunning.” “Can I buy you a drink?” “I’d like to take you out.” “Is your father a thief?”

It’s flattering at first, and does continue to be in a way. But it gets OLD in a hurry. So ALL women – even those less than gorgeous – come up with a system for disqualifying guys from the mate category in a hurry.

Some just try to cut all contact to a minimum. The ice queen.

Some nod and smile appropriately while thinking about what they’ll wear tomorrow, waiting for the right moment to extricate themselves. The polite send-off.

Some play a game with men, enjoy using them for whatever they can get, with no intention of getting romantic. The player. Or tease.

Some actually try to stay engaged with everyone. They invariably go insane, as anyone would.

There are plenty of other types of beauties as well, but they ALL have a guard to protect them from the swarms of horny boring men that plague them.

Why am I telling you this? It’s not to get you scared of all beautiful women, although that might be a natural reaction.

I’m telling you this because there IS a way to never deal with the guard, to bypass it or bring it down before it really ever revs up.

There is a way to get noticed.

Think back to our hypothetical conversation with the ice queen. What is that she hates? The ANNOYANCE of intrusions by BORING men that waste her time.

Simple then isn’t it? DON’T BE BORING.

There are thousands of ways to not be boring. You can challenge her, make her laugh, delve into psychological truths that she doesn’t know she transmits… anything.

The KEY is not to say things she hears EVERY DAY.

Better yet, if you can tell her something she’s NEVER heard, you’ll get her attention.

Remember the opener we talked about for getting an ice queen to open up? The surprise and jolt she’ll get from that approach will often be enough to get her talking to you. And she WOULDN’T talk to you if she didn’t find you in some way INTERESTING.

Interest and attraction are brothers of one another. They are drinking buddies. They are inseparable. Sure, you might occasionally see one without the other, but it’s the exception.

Say that you’ve got an ice queen opening up a little bit. You then say something like “I know it can be very lonely being a beautiful woman, having to shut yourself off, protect yourself.” She MIGHT get defensive. More likely you’ll discover a COMPLETELY different woman. One who just melted. One who is ready to SEE you.

That’s what I said. So often a man gets discouraged because he feels a woman rejected him, but she never actually SAW him. He never said anything to distinguish himself from all the other men a 10 has had to deal with over the years, so he’s nothing but a category. He’s an attempt, a pick-up style, a CLICHE.

If you can grab her attention early, you can separate yourself from that pack. THEN, if you can be funny, confident, relaxed trigger her attraction in more conventional ways, well, you just might have a relationship with a model on your hands.

There is no such thing as a woman that’s out of your league, or at least there doesn’t have to be. It’s men’s limiting belief in the myth of leagues that creates the reality, as they get uptight, insecure, and play it SAFE whenever they work up the nerve to approach a knockout.

In other words, they get themselves so worried about shooting high, they shoot themselves in the foot. That’s why when you were younger – and maybe even now – it’s always the women you aren’t attracted to that are most attracted to you. You aren’t playing for them, and you probably aren’t playing it safe – you’re being INTERESTING.

Not every Lyle Lovett will marry a Julia Roberts, but PLENTY of AMAZING women date men that, from photos or brief encounters, aren’t particularly impressive.

Don’t see that as frustrating. See it as inspirational.

For most women, it doesn’t MATTER that much what you look like, what your job is, or all the other qualifications our conscious mind uses to construct an ideal mate.

What MATTERS is if you trigger attraction in her limbic brain. And the only thing that can really stop you is if YOU cement a woman’s guard by being BORING.

Boring is worse than insulting. Not that I suggest it, but you can dig yourself out of a hole created by being insulting. All it takes is some well-placed humor.

But there is no recovery from boring. You won’t get the hottest girl. You won’t get many at all. You might get the mousy librarian, but she’s likely too imaginative for a snorer.

If you can be INTERESTING, though – that means NOT playing it safe, NOT tiptoeing around women, but letting your WIT FLY – then that whole ‘league’ myth disappears. You’re in the big leagues now. There are none higher.

Of course you might be worried that you AREN’T very interesting, or aren’t particularly witty or funny. DON’T.

EVERYONE is interesting if in the right context – you just need to learn how to create your context. Humor, contrary to popular belief, can be learned (that’s why little kids aren’t usually very funny, at least in a laugh WITH way). Wit can start out as nothing more than good preparation.

If you want to learn how to be the intriguing gentleman that all the ladies want to know more about, you can spend years of trial and error. Or you can go on a month-long expedition to mount K-2 and figure out how to weave a good tale out of your experiences.

Or you can learn a few simple techniques that I’ve developed over years of my own investigations into attraction. For less than the cost of one nice date, I can share my own experiences and what I’ve found works best in different situations. I’ll help you develop your confident, relaxed, INTERESTING and WITTY side. Check out my site,
Seduction Science, and see which ebook or audio CD feels right for where you are in your relationships.

Until next time.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

The art of conversation and breaking the ice

2005-09-13T18:11:00.000-07:00

Ok, remember in some of my past newsletters I’ve told you that there are no magic bullets – there are no amazing pick-up lines that will get you the girl?

Good. I mean it. I really do.

Now let’s work on those lines.

Seriously, WHAT you say isn’t half as important as HOW you say it. Still, it can only help if you are PREPARED.

When you first start working on your flirting, unless you are Joe Cool, you are going to get NERVOUS. That’s alright, it’s just a fact.

Even the best sometimes get nervous in front of a beautiful woman.

The difference between the best and the rest, though, is a man in control knows how to, you guessed it, CONTROL his nerves.

That takes practice, scores of rejections, hundreds of dates… and even then you’ll feel the nerves kick in now and again.

THAT’S why we are going to work on some lines. It’s not the words that are key, it’s the RELAXED CONFIDENCE that comes from knowing you have some good things to say. Knowing that if you’re stuck, you’ve got an out. If you’re nervous enough to froth a cappuccino with your touch, you’ve got a witty something that will escape your brain lock, get her laughing, and get you relaxed.

Plus, funny as you might become, not everyone can riff like Conan O’Brien. And even HE has prepared material.

So, what sort of thing do you want to say to a woman? What are the emotions that you want to get her feeling?

Think about it. Write down your thoughts. Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Done it? NO?!! Look, I know this stuff, this is for YOU, and you aren’t getting ANYWHERE without some effort. Screw “I’ll do it in my head,” there is something much more permanent and lasting about a thought committed to paper.

And I’m not just talking about having it on paper. When I was in school, I found that something I took notes on I remembered – without needing the notes afterwards – while things I planned to “just remember” always got forgotten. That extra effort now makes a big difference later.

So if you’re serious about improving your game, then get a pencil, because you’ve got WORK to do in this newsletter.

Don’t worry. The pay is great.

Now, I’ll wait one more time, write down what you think a woman WANTS to feel, what feeling will create ATTRACTION in her.

If you’re a regular reader of this newsletter and not a lazy sloth, you’ve probably got something about humor on your list. Why?

Laughter feels GOOD. It shoots seratonin all over your head. It’s a complex reaction – as near as we can tell, only humans laugh – and it integrates many parts of the brain. It also RELAXES people and allows them to relax their GUARD.

There is a reason laughter can be called DISARMING. There’s a reason it’s often a reaction to an uncomfortable situation, and that we have dark or gallows humor. Laughter is a RELEASE.

If you get a girl laughing, you make her feel better than she did a moment before. Her world gets sunnier, her defenses descend a smidge (at a time), and she associates that good feeling with YOU.

That’s a powerful combo.

But it doesn’t end there.

I was always a funny guy, but before I figured things out I WASN’T good at attracting women with it. Oh, women LIKED me, they just weren’t ATTRACTED to me.

My humor had two problems that we need to stay away from: one, I was sometimes TOO funny, too GOOFY, and that’s death. Two, I used my humor in such a disarming way that all the tension in conversations was gone. Everyone was happy, relaxed, and completely devoid of that magical TENSION that sexual emotions thrive on.

It was very frustrating. I can feel a lot of nodding heads out there; you aren’t alone.

So I had to come up with a way to keep the tension IN, and USE THAT in my humor.

One day, after enough trial and error, I realized you need some ARROGANCE in there. If you have just the right amount of alphaness it changes your humor from DEFLATING a balloon of tension to something that PUMPS IT UP even more.

When the balloon is ready to explode, look out. You’ve got a wild woman on your hands.

A GREAT way to let that arrogance come out is gentle mocking of whomever you’re talking to – or even anyone nearby, although ironically you are at greater risk of looking like a jerk by mocking people nearby than if you OPENLY TEASE the girl you’re talking to.

Also, you can’t be afraid to use SEXUAL humor. Most guys are scared of it because, done wrong, you look sleazy – and most of us have made some errors of judgment in our drunker moments.

But done right, sexual humor increases sexual TENSION exponentially, and makes you look like a confident, experienced stud. The biggest key is making it funny and natural. We’re not looking for crude, we’re looking for sophistication.

Ok, enough theory, how about an example.

Say you’re at a bar, and a woman walks in wearing a dress that’s only over one shoulder, flowing, it almost looks like a toga.

Maybe you say “All you need now is a blindfold and a scale, and you could get away with that dress.” She’ll be surprised, maybe even shocked – most men don’t talk that way to her, bonus for you, you’re separated from the pack already – but if she’s got any humor in her, she’ll dissolve into a smile or laughter.

As the interaction continues and if you’re both still playing with your opener, you might follow up with “Wow, I barely know you, and already you’re bringing blindfolds into the relationship? You are a kinky one. I’m sorry, this just isn’t working out, you move too fast for me. After all, I’m more than just a sex toy. I need someone who loves me for me, not just my astounding physique.” (This is even better when you obviously DON’T have an astounding physique.)

At this point, she’ll be enjoying herself, you’ll be making her laugh, you’ll stand out from the crowd, and you’ll be building the sexual tension to an incredible degree.

Or say you see a knockout, you’re talking for a bit, you get her smiling, and then you ask “So what’s it like?”

Her: What’s what like?

You: Well, being a beautiful women, you must be able to get all the guys to do whatever you want. What’s that like?

You: (after a shocked pause or a knowing smile, depending on the girl) And what’s it like being with me, knowing that won’t work?

I’ve personally used that one to great affect – it becomes a funny topic for the rest of the evening. Sometimes I send the woman out on missions to get other guys to buy drinks to give to me! It blows my mind that these guys can see this all happening and they’ll still buy the drinks, thinking somehow that’s impressive.

It’s not. Relaxed confidence is impressive. As is wit.

Later in the night she might be beaming at you after you’ve said something arrogant and playful, and you deadpan with a serious face “You love me.” Or “I hate you.” Or “You’re not one of those stalker ex-girlfriends, are you?”

Are you feelin’ this? Good.

Get that pen out. It’s sweatin’ time.

I want you to think of five places where you see lots of women. Create a page for each place – if you are keeping an attraction journal, give each one a page.

Now, brainstorm cocky funny things you can say in each situation. Try to come up with five each. Play with them. Take them out for test drives. Get the delivery right – say these sort of things incorrectly and you could sound like a prick. Say them right, and you sound like a stud.

Get a stable of remarks that you feel comfortable with, and that you know will get a good response most of the time. Perfect them. Make sure you refine your list with responses to comebacks that sharp women will throw at you.

When you’re comfortable with them and can use them to good affect, add more. Your list should keep growing, until one day you outgrow it. With enough practice, you won’t need to think of witty things to say, you will simply BE a wittier person.

REMEMBER though, it isn’t the words as much as the delivery. The right words can help your delivery, and having a ready list can help your confidence. But it’s HOW you say it that matters.

One of my favorite ex-girlfriends I met at a party without ANY words – we had a playful drama using nothing but facial expressions while I waited to use the bathroom across the room. She couldn’t wait to give me her info.

It’s HOW you say it. Sorry to repeat myself, but that is really the key to it all.

HOW. Ok I’m done.

Of course, if you want to know more about HOW to come across as the confident man that women find attractive, you should check out my Seduction Science program. It’s full of tips to improve ALL aspects of your approach, from the deep inner game to the most extreme outer game, like what lines work best for breaking the ice. Check it out.

Until next time.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

fastest way to lose women

2005-09-07T22:31:00.000-07:00

How many of you were older brothers? Or how many of you knew guys who were, back in middle or high school?

What was the biggest complaint about the younger kid? If you had a standard relationship, the biggest strain was ALWAYS that your younger sibling hung around too much.

There you were, trying to play video games, and he was always butting in, usually being embarrassing for some unplaced reason. You wanted to go to the movies with your friends, and she wanted to come, and your mom made you take him.

It was so ANNOYING! You had this clinging human that you couldn’t get rid of, you couldn’t get a MOMENT for YOURSELF!

I mean, why didn’t he hang out with his OWN friends? Why couldn’t he GET HIS OWN LIFE, and just leave you alone?

Guess what. You are your younger brother.

Many guys make the CRUCIAL error of opening themselves up too soon to new women in their life, ESPECIALLY very attractive and sought-after ones.

You’ve been there. So have I.

Everything is going great, and one day it’s so great you can’t help yourself. You feel the NEED to SHARE these strong feelings with the woman. You are so HAPPY you can’t contain yourself.

And then it all goes wrong.

Maybe she just seems to cool and slowly lose interest. Maybe she gives you the dreaded friend treatment, or she might even just blow you off completely.

And it doesn’t make any sense. Everything was wonderful, and then suddenly it wasn’t, and you have NO IDEA WHY.

Guess what. You are your younger brother.

The SECOND you open yourself up like this to a lady, she’s thinking “Here we go again.” Even if you haven’t yet, she’s been through this before.

Of course she has. Attractive women have guys crawling all over them every day, and she has to know how to get rid of the rejects quickly. Usually she can tell the weak and self-conscious a mile away, but every once and awhile a guy sneaks past her defenses.

She enjoys her time with him, he seems cool and in control, and then he has to tell her how he FEELS.

Not a trait of the strong confident type. That by itself isn’t what does the relationship in, but it’s what often FOLLOWS that a girl will avoid like a Roseanne bikini collection.

The guy CHANGES overnight from the confident man she enjoyed her time with, into a needy wussy over-sensitive puddle of spongy goo. Probably at least ONE of these guys in her past turned into a STALKER after she lost attraction and gave him walking papers.

Not to say YOU will – God I hope not – and if you’ve got a patient lady she may wait to find out which guy shows up the next few times – the confident man she fell for, or a self-help sensitive whiner who isn’t happy without constant affirmation.

But you spill the beans too soon, and she’ll start thinking of ways out.

This isn’t to say you can never express how you feel; there’s a time in every relationship when it’s appropriate. It’s just that most guys skip ahead WAY too early. And it gives the girls the heebie-jeebies.

Just like it would you.

One time I was dating two women, trying to decide which one to have a deeper relationship with, if either. One of them, on our second or third date, crawled between my legs when we got home and begged me to MARRY her. I mean pleaded, cried, everything.

Guess how long it took me to drop her? Whatever you just said, it wasn’t that long.

She FREAKED ME OUT and I started thinking about all the ways she must be damaged to be that needy. It’s not attractive at all. I went from pitched-tent to frightened turtle in negative 8 seconds.

And you KNOW you’d do the same if someone you barely know said something like that to you.

Start telling a girl too early how much you like her – sometimes even just saying how much you like your TIME together – and the lady has the same reaction.

She goes from snowy-morning pert to steam-bath smooth in the same negative 8.

Not to mention, even if she reacts well to it, the thrill is gone. The mystery is dead, the chase has ended, you’ve got NO power in the relationship anymore and she knows it.

Like with your kid bro, she might evilly give you little missions just to see what kind of power she has over you, just to get the rush and the giggles out of it.

That is NO way to go through a relationship.

Now if, on the other hand, things are going well and she’s starting to want to hear some committal words and you HOLD BACK, the tension and mystery just increases.

I remember one girl I absolutely adored said something shocking to me after a tiff – she said she was very insecure around me because she didn’t even know if I liked her at all. And she LOVED that excitement.

Talk about an eye-opener.

I’m not advocating you play with the lady’s emotions – at least not much – but I AM saying that it’s a LOT better to wait too long than to speak too soon. You retain that sexy control, you have the power in the relationship, and she finds you more attractive that way anyway.

Certainly compared to all the Mr. Rogers clones she’s had to avoid all her life.

Plus, it says all the right things about YOU and your time – that you have a fruitful independent life outside her presence, that you like being with her (or else you wouldn’t be there) but also that you’re ok on your own.

No woman wants to be a mom. She wants to be a LOVER, not a babysitter.

And now, this next part might take some getting used to: it goes against most of what you’ve ever been taught.

DON’T COMPLIMENT HER.

Oh, the occasional comment is alright, as long as it’s sincere and not forced. It’s also alright to use as an ice-breaker when meeting ladies – before she knows who you are, the cocky humor has to be very delicately balanced or you come off like an a-hole.

But when a lady I’m seeing is fishing for a compliment, I usually deflect that away in a funny style.

Say you’re getting ready to go out and she asks “Do I look fat in this dress?” I will often answer with “I wasn’t going to say anything, but…” and get a laugh, a slap on the arm, a free pass on the most dreaded question in datingdom and a turned-on woman.

Take the other route and do the usual cave, saying something like “No, you look great” or “You look great in everything baby.” and it sounds like she FORCED you into that answer.

She can control you. She doesn’t want to be able to control you. She wants a MAN, dammit!

Again, far enough along you can get away with giving a random real compliment – even in response to a fishing question – if you’re independence is strong and what you say sounds – and IS – sincere.

Just don’t overdo it.

On a similar line of thinking, DO NOT go out of your way to buy expensive dinners and presents early in the relationship. If your first dinner is at Spago, she’s gonna feel like you’re reaching to impress her.

Or, worse, that you’re trying to buy her.

That’s not to say you can’t have a first date at Spago, but if you do, it needs to be CLEAR that you were going there anyway, and she’s welcome to come along if she likes.

If you go out of your way for her, she’ll know it, and she won’t like it.

Unless you have millions of dollars to play with. Then it MIGHT work, with certain women.

Otherwise, you’ll just come off as someone desperate for her attention that doesn’t have anything but gifts to offer. Doesn’t make you look like the most attractive puppy in the litter (ironically, puppies that take women to Spago invariably do very well).

So in short, DON’T BLOW YOUR LOAD TOO EARLY. It’s worse than premature ejaculation, if you can believe it.

Of course, to get to the stage of WITHOLDING that inexorable urge to tell the woman everything you feel about her, you have to get the woman first. You can get lucky now and again, or you can slowly learn the mistakes that everyone has to make, you can skip all that by learning the skills from someone who’s ALREADY made the mistakes and now knows what to do to get past all the tests women throw at men.

Yes, Henry Kissinger finally has a dating guide.

Ha, I’m talking about me. You can learn literally HUNDREDS of secrets about the psyche that women take into dating, and how to make them work for you by reading my books Fastest Way to Lose a WomanThe Seduction Science System, 2nd Edition, or any of a score of other books available on my website with enough tips to make Don Juan take notice. Until next time.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio

http://www.seductionscience.com

Talking to the Hottest of the Hot Women

2005-09-05T21:42:00.000-07:00

Another great informational newsletter by Derek Vitalio... amazing
read it..
Picture this: you are out, say at a grocery store, and a beautiful woman walks down your aisle. I mean a stunner. The kind of woman who inspires sonnets and starts wars.

And she doesn’t notice you. She’s just shopping.

You stand there, stunned, scanning your mind for some way to talk to her. You run through all the ways it won’t work, how she’ll think you’re a jerk unless you can say just the perfect thing, but you CAN’T THINK because you’re so scared of SCREWING IT UP. You want to do something but you’re FROZEN.

And then she’s gone. All you got was a clean-up call on aisle 3 so no one slips in your drool.

Sound familiar? It should. It’s happened to EVERYONE at one time or another. Even to me.

The fact that it’s happened shouldn’t embarrass you. But if you keep LETTING it happen, day after day, then you need to do something different. Because that ain’t gonna cut it.

Listen, those ladies have very active social lives. And guess what? They met everyone – including their various boyfriends – as a stranger. Ok, sure, your buddy Lucky is dating a 10 that his sister introduced him to. Goody for him.

You can’t count on that. Women that are sought-after don’t fall into your lap. If you don’t get proactive, you have ZERO chance of ever being with someone like that. And if you’ve got an ADVANCED case of wussy-boy lockjaw, you won’t be able to meet ANYONE worth meeting regularly.

You’ll have to get used to your only best friend, your hand.

Let me tell you something interesting; most women are approached by men all the time, but many of the MOST beautiful women are LEFT ALONE. That’s right, guys are so intimidated by them they class themselves out the competition before it even begins. The 10s in the world are sometimes the loneliest ladies on the planet. They are dying for someone to say something interesting to them.

And you’re going to deny them? Because you’re scared of negative scenarios you thought up that are A THOUSAND TIMES WORSE than any real encounter between real people? How selfish.

The truth is most women will NOT think you are a jerk just for talking to them. They might not be available to talk – maybe they are in a hurry, maybe they have a jealous boyfriend, maybe their dog just died – but a woman will NOT be offended just because you want to talk.

Oh, she’ll know you are trying to pick her up. She’ll assume that just by EYE CONTACT when you notice her, or the way you lean in near her, or the way you are suddenly fascinated by the can of peas near where she’s standing.

You don’t have to approach her for her to assume you’re interested, you just have to notice her.

So, the gig is up, your cover is blown by virtue of the fact that you’re a man. If you keep your mouth shut, all you’re doing is telling her you’re a weak wussy-man with balls of jello that Hanz and Franz would like to pummel until you piss jello ball juice the rest of your life.

Though not in so many words.

So what’s a jello ball man to do to get balls that shoot lightening whenever they clank and rub their brass bravery together?

For starters, you can stop worrying about all the bad things that you think will happen. They won’t. You have to basically TRY if you’re going to get slapped, and she’s not going to call you out in front of your friends.

About the WORST thing that can happen is she won’t be interested in talking and will give you a chill reception.

And that’s about TEN times less likely than you getting some sort of positive response. Even if she can’t talk or isn’t available for whatever reason, she’ll probably act sweet or appreciative anyway.

After all, you just paid her the compliment of ATTENTION. And almost everyone loves that.

If, on the other hand, she IS available, and you manage to avoid saying something insulting (trust me, it’s not hard to avoid), you are VERY likely to get a positive response.

If you say something INTERESTING, if you are PLAYFUL and RELAXED, then you are almost GUARANTEED to get her info.

But on the first approach, that isn’t even necessary. Just avoid saying something like how you want to suck all the milk out of her, and you’ll do fine.

I know a guy who goes up to women all the time and delivers some variant of “Hi, I’m practicing talking to attractive women without being nervous… so how did I do?” Usually that piques their interest. Because his nonverbal sexual cues are so good, he gets the numbers of quite a few of them.

Sounds unbelievable, doesn’t it? All this time you thought there was a magic key, but the truth is you can say almost anything to start a conversation! More important is HOW you say it, WITHOUT NERVES.

So now we come to homework time. Think about situations where you tend to see attractive women. Now think of various things you can say to start a conversation. Relaxed is best, and if you can mix some playfulness in there, you should be golden.

For instance, back in the grocery store, you can make some comment about the products on the shelves. If you can get a laugh or a smile out of her, get her number or go out on a date with her right there.

It’s that easy.

If you can’t think of anything funny, you can always ask for advice. Especially if you need a WOMAN’S advice.

For example, say you’re in a clothing store and a lovely lady walks by. You can say something like ‘Excuse me, but I’m thinking of buying a shirt to go out in this weekend, and I want to look GOOD. Which do you like?”

It’s that easy.

In fact, it’s much easier than you’d believe. Women will give out their info A LOT more easily than you’d imagine. This is true in basically any situation, save funerals, unless you religiously believe in The Wedding Crashers.

Really, the only thing you need to do is get your confidence up and just TALK TO HER. So this week, go out and talk to 10 girls. Once you’ve started you’ll see how easy it can be and want to talk to more, but consider your first 10 practice, just to get yourself conversing with them in a normal way.

The more relaxed you are the better, so the more women you approach the better you’ll become (surprising, isn’t it). Have a list of playful openers read to go and memorized to get yourself started.

Of course, getting email and numbers is only the FIRST STEP, and doesn’t guarantee you’ll get where you want to go.

If you want to get better at ALL aspects of your dating life, check out some of my ebooks or CDs at
Seductionscience.com, like Opening Magic, or The Art of Sexy Talk, where I cover everything from the opening to how to turn her on so much in the bedroom that she’ll be begging YOU for more.

Until next time.

Regards,

Derek Vitalio
http://www.seductionscience.com

becoming a sex god

2005-09-03T23:13:00.000-07:00

Yup. I was wondering about it... You know in any relationship... sex plays an important role.
If you are good in bed... then you can have any girl interested in you
You need to know how to kiss a girl
You need to know what kind of thing arouse your girl.
YOu need to know what's the Key to make her go wild in bed.
Man there is so much things you need to know...
I started out with some videos I could find on net but techniques doesn't matter THAT much. I learnt its more in psychology.
I came around these 2 boooks and I knew I was rite in my thinking.. Its about psychology.
Get
Legendary Lover
and
Dirty Talk/Bed Room Talk
In these books you'll find unconventional wisdom not found anywhere.

Tips for Meeting women

2005-09-02T01:54:00.000-07:00

Tips for meeting women

You know it doesn't matter how tough you are, How many times gf's you had.. but when it comes to meeting new women, It becomes different Story...
Let me tell a short story..
I was talking to a freind of mine. He's quite popular.. but he's still shy in talking to girls, He's shy in taking the intiative.
anyways he asked me "How you can just go out and talk to women?"
Well I never gave much thought about it... but seriously Its a matter that most guys never understand. Most dating sites, dating coaches says that You gotta live thru it or You have to do it.. or You wont' die just by asking a girl out.. bla bla bla..
but It's nothing like that...
If you don't take the intiative then you'll never be able to get the strength and talk to the girl you want.
So how do you take the intiative.
Well I think there are 2 important parts of this.
1. Being Social
2. Habit
Now If you have a Habit of being Social. You'll be able to pick out the best women and date them. Socially people Vibe on different level. A nerd or geek(not involve socially) will vibe in different level.
Again vibing comes from going out and meeting people. Where you learn to appreciate the surrounding and people. Try this.. Go out clubbing 7 days a week for experiment. Try to chat up everyone. Dont be limited to girls..
You meet some guys who are cool and great. You might get invited to some personal parties too.
Well your day 1 will suck.. as you are not used to meeting people.. so day 1 you'll be talkin to guys only.. may be about soccer or baseball or watever you feel like(avoid Hurricane katrina topic) . Chill out relax.. if possible talk to girls too..
and again next day.. repeat... make as many freinds as possible. be-freind the Bouncer dudes, barmen/girl. etc.. make sure in 7 days you talk to at least 50-70 people...
You'll see and understand what kind of vibing I am talking about..
You need good bodylanguage from day 1
Bodylanguage tip
1. Head up.
2. chest up.
3. deep breathing.
4. No sudden gesture.
5. No shifty eyes.
6. Walking and moving slowly.
For more info on correcting body lanugage I say you get NonVerbal Sexual Communication or Cuing
For Removing Shyness I suggest Seduction Science

Don't Let your Physcial Flaw hold you back

2005-08-31T18:04:00.000-07:00

You know what I love most about supermodels?

They are INSANE.

Seriously, what else would you call it when one of the world’s most beautiful women obsesses about some perceived physical flaw?

That’s right, it’s so well known it’s axiomatic, few people worry more about their appearance than those who have the least to worry about.

Of course, if your butt size was worth $3.5 million in endorsements, you’d worry too.

But that’s not the point. These loveliest of ladies have been worrying about their looks since WELL BEFORE their first Guess ad. Before they knew they’d make their money by wearing lingerie. Most beautiful women have worried about their appearance since, well, they got their first mirror.

I have a friend who once dated an absolute knockout, but she was so concerned about her TOES and obsessed in such an annoying way that it contributed to their BREAKUP.

Think about that.

Of course, when your greatest asset is your looks, it’s natural to pay it excessive attention, for good and ill.

But that’s not the real story. The point is, EVERYONE is self-conscious about something. Sometimes even our GREATEST STRENGTHS.

So now, one time only, take out your hanky and group-hug all the rest of the world in the knowledge that you’re not perfect. And you never will be. Even Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise have problems. ESPECIALLY Tom.

The thing is, your problems are not the problem. It’s when you are NERVOUS and INSECURE about them that things go wrong.

I know hideously ugly guys who are great with the girls. There are guys who can’t tie their own shoes, yet get their pick of ladies. Why?

They have CONFIDENCE. And that, friends, is extremely sexy. In fact, it’s probably the most attractive attribute any man can have. It can trump any and every flaw you have.

Ok, take a moment now and think about what personal flaws YOU obsess about. Write them down. Study them.

Now realize that NO ONE cares about them as much as YOU. Except for a few lucky oblivious people, we are always our own worst critics. Not to mention the harshest.

Admit it, you can enter a negative cycle of thinking from any of these flaws faster than Paris Hilton can embarrass herself. You’ve probably used them as excuses for past failures.

Not probably, you HAVE used them.

Well, it’s time to grow up. Your flaws are not the problem, it is your associated behavior that sabotages you. If you spend your time imagining how a foible will cause you to fail, you’ve done nothing but prepare yourself for failure.

Listen, women hate weakness. And few things stink of weakness like a guy who can’t believe in himself.

There is no quick fix for this, since your BODY LANGUAGE will give away your secret insecurity. Women are MUCH better at reading your gestures, and most of the time we aren’t even aware we’re using weak body language.

For example, fidgety hands playing with zippers or buttons are a dead giveaway. So is constantly touching your face – in fact, ANY extra movement will be read as nerves.

And in the greatest ironic knife-twist, the more we like a lady, the more our nerves act up.

So what’s a guy to do?

I thought you’d never ask.

There are two angles you should come at this problem from, the inner and the outer.

The outer is easier, but much less important. This involves moving slowly and deliberately (but not stiffly). Being able to give a relaxed smile at the right time, not pressing to impress. Holding yourself erect, shoulders back, hips forward, head high. Walking smoothly, having each action look natural and effortless.

Easy to describe, hard to do, right? That’s why the inner game is more important. The outer will follow.

What do I mean by the inner game? You need to feel comfortable in different situations, feel comfortable as yourself and believe that you are one hell of a hunk, flaws and all (one more group hug, anyone?)

One way to do this is to actively improve yourself in areas where you feel lacking. Think you’re overweight? Hit a gym – you might not have a six-pack, but you’ll feel better about your body and things in general. Simply being proactive can change your attitude in a hurry.

Feel illiterate in intellectual waters? Read some books, take a class, do something to improve your confidence.

Of course, not all things can be changed. Unless you’ve got some cool Disco Stu goldfish-filled platform shoes, a short guy will always be short.

The real key to all of this is remembering that your shortcomings JUST DON’T MATTER AS MUCH AS YOU THINK. It’s your nerves that do you in.

Simply knowing that everyone has something they are self-conscious about is the first step. Hell, Tom Cruise is, what, 5’4”? Sean Connery is bald. Everyone is something.

The attractive man JUST DOESN’T CARE. This can take many different forms, and you should experiment to find one that’s comfortable for you.

Some guys go with self-deprecating humor to show they’re comfortable with it. You can actually turn a perceived weakness into a strength.

Still others are so comfortable with themselves that they don’t even think about it, thus avoiding a self-made stumbling block.

Just like every unfortunate birthday victim you’ve given a toaster to says, it’s the THOUGHT that counts. Picture failure, and you fulfill it. Picture success – picture yourself at your best – and you create a confident atmosphere which others will find attractive.

It’s homework time. Check out your list from earlier, and now make another list of ways you telegraph that insecurity. If you need to, go out and try talking to five women while thinking about it. Let yourself obsess. It’s your last chance (and it’s good practice for avoiding attachment to any one woman). Notice how the ladies react.

Now go out and talk to 10 women, while trying some of that self-deprecating humor. It might take more trials as you’ll likely have nervous insecure laughter to begin with. You can’t do this as compensation for ‘shortcomings’, and the only way to get past that stage is to PRACTICE.

Try to look at yourself from an objective standpoint. Do this until you can SINCERELY laugh about your ‘faults’ without letting them concern you. And keep the playful attitude flying high the whole time if you want this to work.

Finally, if you feel like you’re comfortable with yourself, try talking to 10 more women without self-conscious thoughts in your mind. If somehow the conversation gets to a sensitive area, see if you can make a natural funny comment, and notice the reaction of the people you’re talking to.

During this little exercise, also notice your BODY LANGUAGE. If you feel yourself acting nervy, practice relaxing. Learn to breath deep. Control your motions.

After doing this, you should have a solid understanding of how your own beliefs affect the reactions of those around you. Remember this is YOUR movie, and YOU can control it. Keep the playfulness going, and watch the difference between each group of ladies you’ve conversed with and teased about their OWN faults (but be funny!)

With enough practice you should be relaxed in your own skin, and ready to show off that shiny relaxed confident attitude that all the most successful people have. Get the attitude, and the rest will follow.

And if you want to learn more check out The Seduction Science System 2nd Edition!

Picking up a woman - an example

2005-08-28T19:32:00.000-07:00

if You want to learn more about exactly how to talk to women and what to say, check out Derek's Site
www.seductionscience.com
Here’s what you do: Scope out the girl in the group who seems kind of shy, who’s looking around for attention but can’t seem to get any because her girlfriend is dancing on the tabletops or just being really loud and boisterous - and being hit on by every guy in the place.
Go up to your shy girl and say, “I just can’t believe it.” She’ll say, “What?” “I can’t believe why everyone is making such a fuss over your friend when there’s such a beautiful woman sitting over here in the corner. We need to do something about that. Can I join you?” She’ll be very flattered, and thankful someone noticed her! Ask her name, give her yours, and offer to buy a drink.
Make sure you don’t say anything negative about her loud, flirty friend – this will turn her off. Give her the attention she’s been craving, tell her she’s got beautiful eyes.
Ask her about herself, what she does for a living, where she lives – women love to talk as much as they love compliments, and they love it when someone takes an interest. And after seeing her friend be the one to get the spotlight all night, she’ll lap up the attention like crazy.
Tell her you enjoyed meeting her and would like to take her out sometime, then get her number. She’ll be all too happy to give it – handing over a phone number will show her friends that she’s getting male attention, too!
She’ll be thankful you saved her from sitting unnoticed, and you’ll be on your way to one very hot date with a very grateful gal!
If you’ve found this free tip interesting and want to learn more about exactly how to talk to women and what to say, check out Derek's Site
www.seductionscience.com

dating a woman

2005-08-28T05:36:00.000-07:00

First of all to date sexy women, interms of advice on first date is concerned, when you say "let's go out for a drink" that puts you in the dating frame and it raises alarm bells for women. You should be able to seduce her when you're having lunch or coffee with her, NOT when you're having drinks. And besides, if she doesn't want to do it, STOP pushing it on her it will only repel her away from you.

Also, it sounds like you've been pursuing her for while now and she may be putting you in the "friends" category because you're not seducing her quickly enough. If too much time passes you're sunk.

All you need to do is have lunch with her and be playful and non-pushy. To date sexy women focus on bringing her through a series of good emotional states, as there are examples in the books. Also, don't beg her to go out with you. It looks needy. So just have lunch together. This will shatter her conception of the situtation and wonder why you've stopped chasing her. The "I have something to tell you" is a curiosity hook.
If you’ve found this free tip interesting and want to learn more about exactly how to talk to women and what to say, check out Derek's Site
www.seductionscience.com

Regards,

Learn how to pick up woman

2005-08-28T05:33:00.000-07:00

How to pick up woman, How to pick up any beautiful women
Pickup in the Park Using Your Dog

Check this out – You want hot babes dying to give you their number? Hell, yeah, you do! Tired of always having to chase after them? Of course you are! So why not get them to come to you?
There’s a simple trick that has the babes flocking to you. It’s as easy as a walk in the park – if you bring a dog along for the stroll, that is.

Yeah, you’ve heard about dogs being a babe magnet – because it’s true! Time to start believing it and try it out for yourself. And if you don’t have a dog, be the nice guy and offer to take a friend’s pooch for a walk once in a while. The dog doesn’t have to belong to you to have that same magnetic effect on women.

It works like this: Woman sees man with cute, furry dog. Woman can’t resist going up to pet and talk to dog. Woman is feeling all warm and fuzzy and friendly and starts asking man about dog. “He’s so cute! What’s his name? What kind is he? Can I pet him?” All you have to do is be ready with the basic info. Like, “Thanks, his name’s Butch. He’s no kind, just a mutt, aren’t ya boy? But he’s a sweet mutt. Go ahead; he loves to be petted by beautiful women.”

From here, ask if she has pets, learn about them, what kind, their names. If she doesn’t have a dog now, ask if she ever did. Find out about it, then ask her advice on your dog. Like, “Since you used to have a dog, maybe you’ll know this, but Butch wants to bark all night long. Any idea what I should do?” This doesn’t have to be the exact question, just pick something where she can give advice and an opinion. She’ll feel needed, and you just have to act interested and impressed with the advice. If she never had a dog, share a fuzzy story about the dog and why they make good pets. Then say, “Ya know, Butch is really digging you. He never takes to strangers like this. I think he’d be really disappointed if he didn’t get to see you again. Care to join us here for a picnic tomorrow?” Now you’ve been sweet and flattering and funny in one fell stroke, and the woman will be eating out of the palm of your hand. Get her number, set a date. Just pack some wine and a blanket with that picnic basket, and you’ll be ready to rock!

If you’ve found this free tip interesting and want to learn more about exactly how to talk to women and what to say, check out Derek's Site
www.seductionscience.com

get the women of your dreams

2005-08-26T22:45:00.000-07:00

I was talking to my friend other day, and was shocked by what he told me…

Over 99% of all men use ineffective methods to approach and seduce women. The methods most men use actually INHIBIT their ability to seduce women! Most men don’t have a clue what it takes to interact and seduce a woman. No wonder so many are frustrated at their lack of success! They don’t know what women want.

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dating tips for men : picking up girl with your buddy

2005-08-26T03:58:00.000-07:00

Talking to a girl can be really scary.. if she's the HOTTY.

I am going to share some awesome pick up strategies that you might have not seen or used ...
I've learnt this art from Opening magic book.
Want to pick up women? Get a friend to help you out! First, stand or sit a few feet away from a woman or group of women and seem to be having a light-hearted, joking disagreement with your pal. “You’re wrong!” “No, you are!” “I’m telling you, you don’t know what you’re talking about!” Then keep talking, but a little quieter so that the girl probably won’t hear, then say, “Fine by me!” Remember, don’t act really angry, act like a couple of friends jokingly disputing a small thing.

Now, go up to the woman you like (if she’s with a friend, either your buddy can try to pick up her friend or he can play wing man and keep the friend occupied while you hit on your babe) and say, “Excuse me, but we’re trying to settle a bet and we really need your help. We have agreed to let you settle the argument, and we’ll abide by whatever you say.” Now you’ve really got her attention, because she’s dying of curiosity to know what the bet is, and she’s flattered that you’re putting her in charge of casting the deciding vote for the argument. Then ask something like, “Ok, my buddy here says Marsha was the oldest daughter on The Brady Bunch, but I know she was the middle one.” Your pal can jump in here and say, “No way!” You don’t have to use The Brady Bunch, just pick some show that was a huge hit within the last 20 or 30 years that people still talk about and joke about, and that’s still played in reruns on TV. Don’t pick anything obscure – go for something that everybody knows the answer to. Other choices might be shows like “Cheers,” and you can bet that Norm was the name of the postman, while your friend thinks it was Cliff. Just pick something that for your age group and where you live, everybody is going to know the answer. If you pick a current show it won’t work as well, because it will seem like a set up if you don’t know the name of the biggest star on the biggest hit show on air now. But people do jokingly argue about things in older shows, and the nostalgia value of a show you loved growing up can get you – and the girl you want – laughing at the memory.

So now she’ll say something like, “I hate to break this to you, but your friend is right. Marsha was the oldest daughter.” Act a little shocked or let down, like, “Ah man! Are you sure? Well, all right, a bet’s a bet. It looks like I’m the one buying the next round,” you say this last part to your friend, making sure to smile and shake your head, maybe patting him on the shoulder – real friendly and casual. The woman’s probably laughing about the whole bet over a cheesy TV show – but that means she’s also entertained and enjoying herself. Now turn back to the woman and say, “Thanks for helping us out, we could’ve argued that all night. Seriously, we are that crazy! Let me pay you back, what are you drinking?” When she tells you and you order the drink, say, “Do you mind if we join you?” Since you’ve already made her laugh with your funny bet and you’ve bought her a drink, she won’t refuse a seat at her table. Make very sure that while you’re “arguing” the point with your friend before you talk to the woman in the first place that you don’t mention specifically what the bet is about – someone else may overhear and jump in to offer the answer, blowing your plan.

The great thing about this conversation starter, though, is it can work lots of places – it doesn’t have to be a bar. You can do this in a coffee shop and offer to buy a cup of coffee, you can do this in a fast food restaurant and say you owe the pal a beer or a coffee, then ask the ladies to join you (this may mean moving on to a coffee shop or bar, which is just fine!), and you can even do it in a park. There you’d say the bet was for a drink or snack of some sort from a street vender (if there is one in the park), or that you were heading to the coffee shop around the corner, and get her to come, too.

The next question is, If you have a situation different from this one what would you do?
well the easy answer is this book . This will tell you step by step to open a conversation with women. It tells you the format why it should be said in specific way.
Moreover The author is giving you assignment which is really a step by step manner. starting from easiest...

Oh one thing more if you think you are not confident or any other excuse then I suggest you better get your hands on The Seduction Science System, 2nd Edition.

The process of un-shying yourself

2005-08-25T18:58:00.000-07:00

Do you remember grade school?

C’mon, the dirty knees, possibly a little nap time, the strange recess games?

And, likely, your first crush.

I certainly remember MY first crush. I spent months thinking about her, envisioning doing… well, I didn’t know yet, but pleasurable things with her, maybe even kissing. She was a friend of mine, but I was so consumed by love that she never fell from the perfection of a fantasy.

One day I finally told her how I felt. In a rudimentary love letter I professed undying affection, stars and moons and green clovers, if she wanted them.

The next day, my crush crushed me. And it was two years before I tried again. A year later I even turned down a girl who asked ME out I was so lovelorn and traumatized.

Ah, what I wouldn’t give to slap my young self around.

At least I learned something, something that many men never pick up on, at least in today’s date-phobic world of one-night stands and steady serious relationships. Something so simple, it has it’s own tired trite ex-pression hammered into every English-speaking human’s head.

You can’t put all your eggs in one basket.

I’m not advocating cheating on anyone, or avoiding commitment, or any of the other possible nasty things you could extrapolate from that phrase. I’m merely saying, unless you are in a serious relationship, you need to keep your options open.

Let’s examine that. Pretend I’m me, many years after my first failed attempt at love. I’ve never learned the lessons, and I keep focusing on one woman at a time. What’s wrong with that?

First, I’m cutting myself from all the dozens or hundreds of other women I could be meeting at the same, women that might be even better than the one I’ve targeted. Women I might find myself attracted to, or women that might be attracted to me… they are all thrown out the window.

Chances are, by the time I’ve resolved everything with my current crush, the moment of truth with the scores of other women will have passed. I took myself off the market for, what, a hope? And sadly enough, that hope is rarely realized.

Second, I stagnate. Look, attracting women is a SKILL, and like any skill you need to PRACTICE A LOT before you can get good. Scott Rolen takes more grounders a day than most people take in their life. Every day offensive linemen hit pads more times than you’ll hit the pillow this decade. And Ernest Hemingway wrote more words before breakfast than most college educations demand.

The world often assigns the label “genius” or just “brilliant” when what we really should be celebrating is HARD WORK. PRACTICE. Good old Edison said genius was 10% inspiration and 90% perspiration.

Well, attracting women is a similar breakdown, with 10% being uncontrollable things like physical appeal and the other 90% being skills mastered by PRACTICE.

If I fixate on one girl, I’m not going to get much practice in.

Lastly, and most important, THAT FIXATION IS NOT ATTRACTIVE. In fact, YOU WILL SCARE HER AWAY.

That’s why special crushes rarely work out.

Even if, after all I’ve just said, you think you’d feel more comfortable pursuing one lady at a time, YOU CANNOT ACT LIKE SHE IS THE ONLY ONE.

That’s bad territory. That’s stalker territory. That’s I’m-a-desperate-loser-who-needs-you-to-save-me-and-make-me-feel-good territory. That’s about as UNATTRACTIVE as it comes.

Not to mention humans, in general, most want what they can’t have. There’s a reason people play hard-to-get. Because IT WORKS.

Most folks imagine men are messed up because they want the one girl who doesn’t want them.

Don’t worry, men aren’t messed up that way. EVERYONE is. And you know it.

That’s also why most men face the same problem – wanting the women they can’t have, and yet being liked by those they don’t find attractive.

Use those logic lessons. It’s not just a giant coincidence that EVERYONE faces.

No one likes a desperate anything, and when you focus on one girl… you tend to make your feelings real clear. And it feels desperate.

You may THINK you hide it, you can play it cool.

The truth is, even if you are conscious of the whole game, your body language gives away the truth. You can play it as cool as you like, but if you’re fixated on one girl, your body never lies.

She’ll know it.

And she won’t like it.

Maybe you’ve gotten away with it once or twice, maybe you will again, but in general you SABOTAGE yourself by – consciously or not – coming on too strong.

So, now, let’s go back to me, years after my brutal lesson. I’ve learned it. I’m past crushes. WHAT do I do?

“Next.” That’s the key word. When I’m out looking for ladies, I remember that there are thousands in my area, a number of which are looking for someone (and a number of which aren’t), and I KEEP MYSELF OPEN TO THEM ALL.

When I meet a girl I like, she’ll know that I’m interested. I mean, I’m a guy, she’s assumed it before I say a thing.

What I need to LET her know is that I DON’T NEED HER. My life can be perfectly fine without her – I’m going to have a good time no matter who I’m with, because I’m a fun interesting guy.

If it’s with her, great, and if it’s not, that’s fine too.

I figure that, of all the women I meet, maybe 75% will be unavailable for whatever reason – boyfriend, bad breakup, stress in life, things NOT related to me – and I’m ready to move on if any one isn’t working out.

I am always ready to move on. I am always ready to say NEXT.

I’m saying, when you’re dating, you should be open to dating many women.

There’s nothing dishonest about it, unless you make it so.

You don’t need to hide from anyone. In fact, I find most women get MORE attracted to me when they know I’m dating other women simultaneously.

I know. Humans are strange.

But if you think about it a certain way, it makes sense. It tells a woman that not only am I NOT desperate and clingy, but I’m successful and DESIRABLE.

It also activates that primordial COMPETITIVE gene all people have.

One other bonus I’ve discovered is they tend to RESPECT and TRUST you more.

Isn’t that crazy?

Most women assume men are whores who will sleep with anything given half a chance. If you are forthright about dating many women and DON’T TRY TO HIDE ANYTHING, you come off as the hero. The only honest guy they’ve ever met.

THIS is one of the reasons why jerks attract women. They do all this and it becomes a self-sustaining cycle.

The difference between the jerks and you is you don’t have to do it in a mean or cruel way. You can have fun with it. And she’ll LOVE you for it.

The other big bonus goes back to something we talked about before, PRACTICE.

No one knew how to ride a bike at first. Everyone almost crashed a car in the early learning. And we got through that to eventually learn to do both.

But most guys, hit with a rejection or two, abandon a method, or even abandon the concept of approaching women.

They become SCARED of the rejection. It’s only natural. You’re scared of falling off a bike too.

But you can’t take each FAILURE as a PERMANENT way of being. What didn’t work on one woman may work on another. If something CONSISTENTLY fails, you can tinker and discover where the problem is.

And if something that seems to work some of the time fails a couple times, you need to KEEP your CONFIDENCE and get back on the bike. Remember, most times when an approach doesn’t lead to digits or dates, it has nothing to do with you. It’s an issue the girl has.

With that in mind, it takes A LOT of attempts to figure out what works best for you. Better not to even think about getting the girl as your objective. Instead, treat each approach as a chance to learn HOW TO BE ATTRACTIVE.

Do that, and you won’t focus too much on any one girl, and you’ll be able to speed your learning curve.

If you want to speed that learning curve up even more, you can use the exercises and techniques I’ve learnt from the books- just click here to take a look. Try them out, find what works for you, and you’ll be on your way past the tragedy of the one-basket man.

Getting that one girl..

2005-08-25T08:37:00.000-07:00

I've caught her looking at me from far away but up close she only looked at me once for a long moment then she looked away.

You know most of times people are so much hooked up with the Fantasy girl(the one) that they forget that they have other options too..
Now now..
I am not being mean or anything at all..
lets say you like this girl.. and you noticed her noticing you...
now wat???
well.. Go ahead and talk to her.. that's wat..
If you think you can just wait and wait and then some more.. well.. More power to you.

If I like a girl I'd go ahead and talk to her... If I get blown off or Humiliated so be it...
Rememeber "You miss every shot You don't take"

well if you are wondering how to start talking to a girl then you are in luck.. you should be using this book to study more..
Learn How to talk to Women anywhere

This book talks about lots of things like
How to deliever a compliment to a girl without sounding like Loser/chump
How to talk to girl even when she's with freinds?
How to talk to girl who's walking down the street and busy with her own little world.. and much much more
Try this

How to ask for a dance

2005-08-23T22:16:00.000-07:00

How to ask her for a dance when she's already dancing with somebody else...

-. Have a good sense of humor. Don't be afriad to be BAD.
-. When you see the girl you want just come to the pair and interrupt them by taking over from the male partner and jsut start dancing with her. usually, the girl won't go anywhere and it'll take just a couple of seconds to feel the rythm.
-. After 30 seconds you can jsut turn around and paste a good soft smile.
-. pick up some light conversation on her looks and dress(personally I'd say it's better to say something than nothing but complementing a girl is an art in itself, which I feel deserve a whole post)
-. Finally, draw out the girl, gentlypull her a few feet away. and continue dancing with her.

well If you are a shy ma or should I say shy guy then these tips are very good.. but I'd say you should invest in chaging yourself from shy guy to MAN.
Note : Man is what attracts women... guy doesn't.
How you can do that?
well you can get Seduction Science and Sexual Cuing.
Why I suggest these..
well Seduction science will teach you how you can remove your shyness with some amazing mind exercises and steps...
and Sexual cuing will teach you how to Use your body language to attract the women you want.

Romantic ideas

2005-08-23T06:18:00.000-07:00

I don't give out romantic ideas in this blog but for today I am going to do an exception...
This is an idea for folks who are in love... it's Highly Highly Effective.. read it and you'll know

Let me give you an idea which will blow your partner away... This will have your woman melt in your arms in No time.

If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodygaurd to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.

Romantic's Guide To Popping The Question -- How to create a marriage proposal that will blow her away!

Perfect Love Letters -- How You Can Quickly & Easily Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.

300 Creative Dates -- The World's Most Romantic, Unique and Fun Dating Ideas.

Love Letters & Poems To Send Right Now -- Do You Want The Woman of Your Dreams to Fall *Head Over Heels* In Love With You?

Dating Russian Women- Tips and Techniques

2005-08-22T06:54:00.000-07:00

The Shocking Truth About Russian Women -- Discover the Truth About Your Russian Bride and avoid costly and painful mistakes.

Sex & Love With Russian Women -- Know How To Dramatically Improve Your Chances With Russian Women!

Russian Women Roller Coaster -- Discover the secrets of Successful Dating with Russian Women - over the Internet and in real life - from a happy couple that met online, cut through the red tape and got married!

Sex advice and techniques

2005-08-22T06:51:00.000-07:00

Sex Advice And Techniques

Killer Orgasms -- How To Have The Best Sex Humanly Possible!

Cure Premature Ejaculation Permanently -- Cure your premature ejaculation quickly and satisfy any woman.

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets -- Increase Passion and Intimacy Through Great Sex.

Sexual Mastery --What Every Man Should Know About Sex!

Orgasmology.com -- How To Have Sex For Up To 7 Hours (If YOU Want To) And Make Your Partner Have Multiple Orgasms On Command – Even Without Your Penis!

Kissing 101: Your Essential Guide -- Discover Step-by-Step PROVEN Kissing Techniques That Will Give You a Reputation for being a Wonderful Kisser and Make Your Partner Beg For More!

The Sexually Skilled Husband -- How To Dramatically Increase Your (And Your Wife's) Sexual Pleasure And Satisfaction-Immediately.

Hot Sex -- How you can literally make any woman talk herself into wanting you!

Make overs for men

2005-08-22T06:44:00.000-07:00

Image is no longer solely a concern for women. Today's man is taking it upon himself to make a concerted effort to look - and feel - his best! This has never been more apparent than in today's singles scene - where competition for the ladies is at an all-time high, and women are demanding more from their suitors.

"Forget vanity - we're looking for a man who just cares enough about his appearance to stimulate our sex drive," says Tiffany Taylor, author of The Single Man's Guide to Great Women.

Men can no longer wait to find a wife and expect her to choose his shirts and ties - or nag him to shave and shower on the weekend. These days, men have to go out on the town proving they can take care of themselves before a woman will even show the slightest bit of interest in him.

At GuyGetsGirl.com, Taylor delivers a motivating eBook that dishes on what women are really looking for in a man - and she shows them exactly how to transform themselves into a superstud - no matter what kind of man they see themselves as now.

"It's not about a big bank account or a full head of hair," Taylor points out. "Women today want a man who oozes self-confidence, and sometimes that does mean you have to play games to get what you want."

In The Single Man's Guide to Great Women, Taylor walks men through the ABCs of what it takes to look and feel their best before they walk up to a woman. She betrays her gender and teaches men how to manipulate women to get them to fall for them - or engage in a one-night stand.

Not only are beauty salons now offering facials and massages for men - along with pedicures, manicures, and hair styling sessions - but Taylor believes men should take lessons in how to overcome self-doubt that often plagues even the best of mankind.

"You can become Mr. Right as soon as you learn how to make us happy," Taylor quips. "We're looking for a sharp appearance, but that doesn't mean you have to break the bank." Taylor's lessons fit all income levels, and focus on the simplest of ideas to transform men from hideous to handsome.

The Single Man's Guide to Great Women also teaches men how to exude confidence, flirt with flair, and tame wild women into serene seductresses clamoring for your undivided attention. Taylor believes it's time men had the upper hand at dating = and this time, we agree!

The Experimental Mind

2005-08-18T05:48:00.000-07:00

Meeting and seducing women is a glorious EXPERIMENT.

And the guys that succeed best are the guys who have the Experimental Mind.

To be successful with women, you should have your mind in a learning mode.

Even if you totally bomb out with a particular woman, it is not a failure. Rather, it was a grand experiment that didn't end the way you wanted it to. But it is still a LEARNING EXPERIENCE. Take what you learned about the experience and use it to YOUR advantage for next time. No harm, no foul- a big experiment, that's all.

You have to be OPEN to feedback from your experiments. Both the successes and "failures" -- and there are no failures-- will teach you what works and what doesn’t work.

There is an old saying, "NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES."

I have a buddy who used to have mojo and chicks falling all over him. Well, the years passed on, he lost the mojo, and life left him behind. His great retirement plan now is to... win the lottery!

Yup, it IS as absurd as it sounds... but put your opinions of mastering the art of scoring the hot chick under that same template. Will YOU live life WAITING for some miracle to happen?

Or will you CHASE that dream up and down until it HAPPENS for you?

MOST guys are going to sit around and wait for the "mojo fairy" to knock on their door and anoint them with some funky chick-magnet Austin Powers powers.

You, though, are NOT most guys... you have tools and techniques that when practiced with dedication and an experimental playfulness, WILL get you the honey next door and the playmate in your playground.

I have another friend who wants to race dirt bikes. For the last six years, he’s been telling me he will race when he feels he's good enough to race- in spite of the fact that he practices with a top five racer.

What in the hell is he waiting for... an invitation?!!! But my friend is not alone- there are thousands of people who WANT good things, PRETTY things in their lives, want things for themselves, and yet make no forward moves to MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Wanting to become a racer won't make you a racer, RACING will. NO ONE wins their first race out... but WINNERS all have to start somewhere.

NO ONE is a Casanova right off the bat... but even Casanova started some place too.

And START you must- right here, RIGHT now.

But knowledge alone is not enough. You must put that knowledge to use and put it to the test.

You have to bounce back from unsuccessful attempts to receive the benefits of the practice you put in. By CONSISTENT forward ACTION, you will break down your own limitations and barriers and soon after, be breaking her furniture apart with YOUR MOJO.

Because if you don't have an attitude of EXPERIMENTATION, you will invariably hit a wall, and sooner rather than later!

Many a pro sporting team have been stuck behind in the game but by taking everything into consideration and getting BACK INTO THE GAME, have rallied back to win and win by bigger margins than they were losing by.

Whether on the field of battle or scoping the field at the local bar, real WINNERS don't think in terms of "win or lose," but rather in terms of LEARN and LEARN MORE.

I have another friend who quit a good paying police force job to pursue his dream of being a Hollywood movie producer. He made a ton of mistakes on the way and while the going is sometimes slow, major players in the movie business know who he is now.

He didn't wait for someone to make it happen for him, he set about to MAKE it happen.

You too have to STUDY SUCCESS. You too can become success’ student by constantly testing, experimenting, and having the Experimental Mind.

That's exactly the point Derek emphasize in Opening Magic, my book on opening and meeting girls in any situation, anytime, anywhere, with a cool, relaxed, playful confidence. Opening Magic takes that attitude of the Experimental Mind, and shows you exactly WHAT TO SAY to meet a beautiful woman. Opening Magic, used with the right mindset, makes for a killer combination- click here to learn more about it.

Sexy, gorgeous women are all around you, every day, everywhere. Practice, practice and more practice- and you WILL become a SUCCESS too.

Are Women Prudes or Sexual Monsters

2005-08-16T21:47:00.000-07:00

An article by Derek Vitalio
Check it out: Your belief systems are a lot like your dress and your breath, and any other outward item of appearance, for that matter.

Here is what I mean.

You cannot expect to play seduction without the proper beliefs. Not if you want to play seduction well and reap the rewards. So this is point number one:

You need the right beliefs to play the game.

The problem is you might have the wrong beliefs and NOT EVEN KNOW IT.

How frustrating would it be to approach a woman, not even realizing your beliefs were holding you back? That you, time and time again, think you are doing everything right and yet keep getting shut down?

You can give an opener, you’ve got a nice smile; you’ve GOT skills, but for SOME reason you keep failing to score?

You are playing with faulty beliefs and don’t even know it.

Here is point number two: (pay attention, now, because this is very important)

You can change your beliefs!

There you are, about to approach a woman, and the whole world freezes. You can move around, like in the MATRIX training programs, but everything else is frozen.

Now here comes your angel wingman and whispers in your ear a half-dozen tips specifically about this woman. He disappears, and the world starts moving again.

NOW you are ready to play. Feel better?

Well, good, because guess what- I’m your buddy, and I’ve just shown up in the nick of time to help you change out your faulty mental equipment, give you a boost of relaxed confidence, and let you in on a few secrets to bring your seduction game up to the level of the pros.

Here is a big faulty belief right away: “Women don’t like sex.” This is a belief that you have been miss-taught by everything from movies and TV to your own parents.

Just to be clear…

WRONG belief: Women don’t like sex. Women have to be convinced or tricked into having sex. Women don’t like/think about/talk about sex as much as men.

RIGHT belief: Women like sex. (Notice that ended with a period. “Women like sex” – PERIOD)

You can’t avoid the woman’s magazines in the checkout stands. Every one of them, from Redbook to Young Miss, have glaring headers that scream article topics like...

“The Best Sex You’ll Ever Have” and...

“Booty Food: How To Sizzle In The Kitchen” and...

“Ten Steps To Pleasing Your Man.”

Did you notice that last example? “Ten Steps To Pleasing Your Man.” Not only do women LIKE sex, but they are CONCERNED about it and they want to be BETTER at it. They want to please their man.

Women are just like men, in other words. Just like YOU.

Now, if women were not interested in sex, those magazines wouldn’t be advertising those sex-help articles like they were the answer to world hunger. If it didn’t cause issues to fly off the racks and put bucks in the publisher’s pocket they wouldn’t print it.

Why is Sex and the City so popular, if not for the fact that so many women watch that show and wish they could have such adventurous, worry-free sex lives?

Women like sex. They want to meet men who turn them on, who make them feel good about themselves, who make them feel okay about sex.

Recently I met a girl who is super sweet to all of her girl and guy friends- yet in bed she has orgasm after orgasm, constantly wants sex, and loves it when I talk dirty to her describing her fantasies of group sex. But you would never guess she was a sexual monster just talking to this "super sweet" girl over lunch!

Now that you know women like sex, don’t go rushing out like a jerk and expect the first woman you talk to go home with you. It’s not going to happen like that.

First of all, when they first meet you (which means pretty much anytime you open a woman), most women are NOT comfortable talking about sex right away. They have been raised in a way to think that to do so is being forward and un-lady like; NOT a good girl. All of which has lead you to believe that you had to CONVINCE women to LIKE sex (which as we now know is untrue).

Ever asked for a raise from your boss? You’re trying to convince him to give you more money, right? How did you feel? Probably a little (or a lot!) unsure of yourself, a little afraid, a little hesitant. Your boss certainly picked up on that, which did nothing to make him feel confidence in you to grant you that raise.

HMM… Uneasy, fearful, twitchy and hesitant… not the best way to approach a boss OR a woman, is it?

But if you KNEW your boss WANTED to give out a raise… that’s a different story! You know you are a good employee, you know you hit all the things your boss cares about, and you know your boss wants to give SOMEBODY a raise; you are going to go to that meeting FULL of confidence, and score that raise!

The same thing applies when opening a woman. Get it in your head that the hottie you are approaching likes sex, and would just love to meet the right guy to have sex WITH. And hey, you’re the right guy, aren’t you? Just like in your review with your boss, where all you have to do is show him that you’re the guy for that raise, you just have to show this woman that you are the guy for her.

Get your head in the right game.

Women want sex… get used to it!

Now to really super-charge your belief systems, you need to work yourself from head to toe- and you can only get that through my complete system found in the Seduction Science System, 2nd Edition and my other books.

With me on your side, you'll have a whole new life ahead of you- one full of sexual adventure, beautiful women, and most importantly, FUN!

Regards,

Derek Vitalio

How to increase your success rate with women

2005-08-15T18:38:00.000-07:00

“There is no spoon.”

Oh yeah? Then why do you feel like you’re GAGGING on a spoon every time you approach a woman?

Simple, really; you haven't yet TRAINED your BRAIN.

Back to that in a moment, first, you need to understand three factors of success with women.

#1 Relaxed Confidence

#2 Relaxed Confidence

#3 Relaxed Confidence

Woman can smell relaxed confidence. I'm not talking about arrogance; that is something else entirely.

No, I'm talking about smooth, playful, nothing phases you, relaxed confidence.

I wonder who it was that said, “Perception is Reality?” Well, I guess it doesn't really matter WHO said it, the fact is- it’s true.

How you perceive your reality affects the reality around you. When you have relaxed confidence, women treat you completely differently.

Back to your brain…

You know, sometimes old-timey advice pays off. The old “X is as scared of you as you are of it” adage has something to offer when approaching a woman.

Now, I know it doesn’t FEEL that way. That’s okay, because we're grown men, and we have control over our feelings, right? Picture it now:

You are facing down a rattlesnake and you hear your dad's voice in your head.

Your Dad: “Don’t worry, son, that rattler is more scared of you than you are of it.”

You: “Thanks, dad, but if that son of a bitch bites me, that pearl of wisdom isn't going to suck out the venom, is it?”

All right, so sometimes fear gets the better of us. The trick is not letting that stop you. It’s okay to feel fear, but if you let it stop you, then you’ve hit a wall.

Funny thing about fear; the more you whoop it, the less power it has over you.

Think back to the last time you stood up like a man with relaxed confidence in the face the adversity and made things work in your favor.

No, not the last time you dragged yourself to a bar in spite of yourself and smiled to a woman across the room. I mean something where you had relaxed confidence and SUCCEDED.

All right, get it in your mind. It doesn’t have to be an experience with women- it could be any moment in your life. For example, entering a big test with relaxed confidence or walking onto the sports field for a big game with relaxed confidence- or directing a project with relaxed confidence.

Remember how that made you feel?

Well, you need to feel like that BEFORE you approach a woman.

We’ll come back to this memory. We'll call it your “Good Times” memory.

Most things are like that, by the way. The more you work at them, the easier they become. It’s called PRACTICE. But here is a funny little short cut:

You don’t need to actually physically practice at something to make your brain think you are good at it.

The lump of grey matter in your noggin is super-sophisticated computer, and one if its main functions is to do what you tell it to do.

If you tell it what it wants to hear, it always follow directions.

Say you are sitting across the room from the girl you want to approach, and the standard pre-approach arrhythmia comes over you. Try this little exercise:

Think back to your “Good Times” memory. Take your eyes off the woman you want: scan the crowd, close your eyes, whatever. Just focus on that memory and the way it made you feel. Relax. Keep replaying your “victory moment” over and over again.

See? You ARE a winner.

You’ve just hoodwinked your brain. See, all those times before, when you wanted to approach a woman, you've set yourself up as a failure.

You keep recalling what it felt like to fail and all the little things that go along with it.

And, because we like to torture ourselves, we imagine extra badness; like all of her girlfriends mocking us, or the guys at the bar shaking their heads.

We probably had a bit of toilet paper stuck to our shoe as well.

It’s because our brains like to give us whatever we ask for, even unconsciously. So when you are approaching the babe at the bar, somewhere in you is the thought, “I can't do this.”

This thought triggers the brain, which goes, “Hey, right, he can't do this. OH NO! What if he tries? I have to stop him; quick, I'll flood him with all the horrible things that could happen to him!”

But now, using the good feelings and confidence brought on by your “Good Times” memory, your brain is thinking “Wow, he sure is a winner. Didn't he look good when he stood up like that and won?”

Before you know it, your body is being flooded with feel-good stuff, which in turn makes you relaxed, which in turn boosts confidence, which in turn alerts the brain to release more feel-good stuff…

See where I’m going?

Here is another little secret- women don't like to feel uncomfortable any more than men. So when a sweaty, twitchy stranger approaches them and stutters out a greeting, guess what THEIR brain is doing?

“OH CRAP! This guy is getting ready to HIT on me!”

Now what if, instead, this woman looked around and saw a friendly, smiling stranger who smoothly walked up and confidently said, “hello” with relaxed confidence?

Woman’s Brain: “Hmmm. Who IS this guy?”

Which reaction would YOU rather get?

Me, I’d go for Relaxed Confidence over Freaked Out any day.

ACT relaxed and your brain THINKS you ARE relaxed. It releases serotonin, relaxes muscles, and regulates your breathing. Then you start to feel MORE relaxed.

ACT confident and people TREAT you as if you ARE confident. Then your brain notices this and (always following orders) continues to make you FEEL confident.

If you FEEL relaxed confidence, then you HAVE relaxed confidence.

And guess what happens to your confidence level when you score that phone number?

Now having relaxed confidence is the FOUNDATION state you want to have. But there are many other "helper states" you can program into your mind for yourself - like playfulness for example.

Relaxed confidence combined with helper states like playfulness make a killer combination that women find irresistible and sexy.
You can get this state with this systemThe Seduction Science System, 2nd Edition

The secret to attract women

2005-08-03T07:32:00.000-07:00

Check out The Seduction Science System, 2nd Edition
Read more
Would you want just any woman?

Of course not! You want a woman who is going to meet your criteria on beauty, personality, and the coolness factor.

Guess what- women feel the same way.

Choice is good, whether you are scanning a box of Valentine chocolates or deciding which girl you are going to be taking out on a Friday night, you want to have some options.

What if I told you that, there was a way to virtually GARUNTEE that every box of chocolates you bought in the future only carried your favorites?

Crazy idea? Maybe.

You have about three different scenarios when it comes to the playing field.

ONE: You can’t get laid to save your life.

TWO: Sometimes you score, but it’s hit or miss and not with quality girls.

THREE: You have a wide variety of women who fit in every category you can imagine to choose from, and you are so far ahead of your “competition” that the women come looking for YOU.

Now, HOW do you get to option THREE in real life?

Now, hold on. We’re not talking about having the better car, more money, or Schwarzenegger-biceps (PREDATOR Schwarzenegger, not Governor Schwarzenegger.)

Those things can help, no doubt. But they are not NEEDED in order to get the kind of women you want.

Work on Your Inner Self

Work on your inner self.

Your inner self is your mental state that builds character, gives you control over your fear, and increases your internal power.

Who you are has a direct impact on the woman you attract…

…the way you think about yourself, the way you carry yourself…

…how good a day you are having.

All these factors affect the way you approach a girl, the way you behave on a date and the impression you give.

Think about it another way: what attracts you to a woman?

Her looks, for sure. But what else?

You’ve heard of “Animal Magnetism” right?

This is the kind of woman who has your heart racing and your mind reeling with a few words, a touch, a look. She has animal magnetism; she has that inner self that just OOZES desirability.

Wouldn’t you want to have the same effect on women?

If you want to meet quality women, the kind of women who fit your expectations, then you need work on your inner self.

Would you expect to be drafted for a professional basketball team if you couldn’t hit a three-pointer?

Do think a stock-car team will let you race their baby if you pop the clutch?

Would you score a role as the next action hero if you couldn’t act?

Would Donald Trump invest a million dollars in your business idea if you’ve never run a business before? (The Apprentice doesn’t count.)

Starting to get the idea? Pretty stupid to expect those kinds of things happening if you are neither qualified nor have put in the effort to deserve them.

About as stupid as approaching women without living up to your own potential, and then being surprised when that quality gal shuts you out.

If you’ve mastered those techniques that allow you to get past the first couple of seconds with a beautiful stranger and end up with her wanting YOU, I have a question for you; how’s your INNER self?

If your underlying core being is nervous and unsure, then all your techniques are going to fall flat.

When you are OUT there, in a bar or at a bar-b-q, and you are face to face with the prospect of approaching a gorgeous woman that every other guy in the area has crashed and burned with, your arsenal of techniques will be much more effective if you are at the top of your inner self.

Let me give you an example.

I’m sure this will be a familiar story: You see a woman you’d like to approach having a few drinks with friends. At the very thought of walking up to her, you break out in a sweat. Your heart RACES and you start feeling like a FAILURE.

You see, the human brain is designed to protect its owner. When you crashed before (and lets face it, EVERYONE has crashed before), it hurt; your brain remembers this. When it suddenly realizes what you are up to (“Oh, CRAP! I can’t let him do that again!”) it tries to stop you in order to keep you from feeling the same kind of pain.

So it floods you with a dose of the pain from the past memory:

Brain: “Bad! Hot! Don’t Go There!”

The good news is you can turn that right around.

With tools like the negativity annihilator exercise, you will hamstring that bad memory. In fact, you will be able to turn that bad memory into a GOOD memory! How’s THAT for weird science?

Here is how it works, in general. You see, your brain can’t tell the difference between a REAL memory and a FALSE memory. What you need to do is set yourself up in a nice, quiet, peaceful place and relax.

While you are relaxed, you summon the bad memory with as much detail as you can. Relive it. Go on; better to feel the pain and humiliation in the privacy of your own place than right when you are about to get a girl’s number.

Alright, got it? Now, you are going to change this memory into a good one. Start it over, but as you approach the place where things started to go wrong, switch them up.

Change your behavior; you are smoother, and calmer. Change her behavior; she is more receptive, she laughs at your jokes, she touches you while you talk.

Notice how the new version makes you feel. Hey, you can talk to this girl with no problem, and she’ll talk back. Why? Because you ALREADY DID IT in your head.

Brain: “WOW! This guy is smooth!”

Keep replaying the good version in your head until it completely tapes over the old one.

Then, next time you approach a girl in the field, your brain won’t freak out on you- at least not as much.

Brain: “Oh, hey, this stuff is easy. We’ve talked to girls like this all the time. No big deal.”

When you are relaxed, your mind is calm, and in turn it regulates your breathing, your internal temperature, and your nerves. All this regulating in turn is sending signals back to your brain: “situation normal.”

Now when you approach this woman, you are ready. You know what you want to say, and you know what you want to get.

Which state of mind is going to help you get there: freaked out that you might screw it up, or casually confident and playful?

Killing negativity is just one example of inner self techniques that you can use.

The point is, when you build up the man you are on the inside, you are going to able to perform a thousand times better.

If you are a better man, you will see an increase in the number of women who are attracted to you. The quality of the women will skyrocket as well- they are all going to want a piece of YOU.

With the right seduction techniques, you can score big, absolutely. But if you have not built up yourself as a man, your techniques are only going to get you so far, and only so often.

Working on your inner self is like making sure your engine is greased and clean and tuned, your tank is full, you have the right amount of air in your tires and your warranty is up to date. With The Seduction Science System, 2nd Edition

Dating advice and tips

2005-08-01T02:20:00.000-07:00

I was reading a forum and there was this guy who posted something like this.

"I am in touch with this one girl from last 2 and 1/2 yrs(online) and of course we like each other and we decided to meet n get in touch... but at that moment she told me she likes muscular guys.. I m not at all muscular"

comments : O boy.. This guy should be bitch slapped n then should be left for pigs only... I knew wat wat coming when I saw "I in touch with a girl for 2.1/2 yr online". I just knew.. My guts told me not to read further... but it was on fitness related so I need to check it out... sigh... poor guy.. He'll never get a girl.. 2 n 1/2 fukcin years n he still havn't met her...
O boy O Boy...
If I m chatting with a girl(which is rare cuz I don't do pick ups online) I ask for her number in the v first meeting.. n talk to her that v same day.. if I feel like I m getin good vibes then I go ask her to meet...

I mean this can' be TTHAT tuff.. is it.??
whatever this guy is in desperate need of these books
Seduction Science and
Nonverbal sexual communication.
Learn how to talk

You cant talk to girl

2005-07-17T18:49:00.000-07:00

You can't talk to girl even if your life is depending upon it?
I know about it. I have told you about it.. It used to happen to me too. I started out talking to lots of people. People from every age, ethinicity, country. I talk to toddlers, I talked to their mums, I talked to grandpa on the road. I talked to bus conductor . I Just talked...
Somehow I improved.
well After learning about this skill I come accross this book
I was sad.. U know why? cuz If I had gotten this book when I needed it most I would have saved hundred of hours... But I m happy now.. Cuz you can read this book and don't need to go thru the orderal I went..
This book talks about lots of things like
How to deliever a compliment to a girl without sounding like Loser/chump
How to talk to girl even when she's with freinds?
How to talk to girl who's walking down the street and busy with her own little world.. and much much more
Try this

Learn how to make a girl fall in love with you

2005-07-17T18:41:00.000-07:00

How to seduce the girl you want and make her love
I am going to give you some important resources.
1. Palm Reading:
2. Non verbal Sexual communication.
3. Sexy bedroom talk:
1. Palm reading : it's a must. Every chic I know digs this kind of thing. and this topic provide instant fodder for you to talk to girls you never tried. You are not scared here thinkin "what should I talk to her about". Just read her palm in the fashion n you'll hook her into you.
But You need to have this Ebook for this

2. Non Verbal Sexual communication: I have talked a lot on this topic. If you are not confindent about your body language then girls might not think that You are DA MAN. so You need to improve your Body language and have girls love you for it.
Trust me it's more than Puffed up chest. Chin high. stomach inside kind of thing. You need to understand the subtelelty of this art. Learn with this

3. Sexy Bed Room talk : Now this is Last chapter. You have won the girl over. You are having sex with her. This Ebook tells you about How to talk to her manner which unleashes her Wild beast. You'll thank me for this Ebook. She'll never want to leave you. Not many men talk in bedroom. They do.. Ah..uh... ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ LoL. Read more on this

armed with these 3 skills You'll change your Dating Life forever. PERIOD

Dating For Shy Guy

2005-07-12T06:21:00.000-07:00

Continuing from previous post.
How Indifference to Outcome can multiply your success...???

NOTE If you want to Learn all the right methods to change it and Learn How to Increase your dating Experience then I recommend this Seduction Science and
Nonverbal sexual communication. Ehance your Dating Life. Learn to Talk to women

well indifference to outcome is not worrying about the results. Now u see a girl and when u approach her you don't care less if she likes u or not... Now it can b double edged sword.
You know Indifference is one thing which makes girls wonders.. "why isn't he acts like others? does he like me?" and how the girls know the difference. Well most of the girls are very intuitive without knowing.. they might say "it's gut feeling" but most of times girls intuitiion is rite on spot

anyways It can also fire back when a girl start thinking "he doesn't like me or wants me". in these situations it can happen in split second. It's like walking on very thin rope...

You need to act indiffrence and Yet show them that You like them...
wow How confusing is that??

Told you. women are confusing creatures. we men doen'st work that way..
well How'd u do that.. I give you an opportunity to find that out yourself first. In future posts I might write about it..

Remember my tips not only increase ur dating experience but also you overall life. Dating is not about Just dating girls. but also about the understanding of ones life and this whole universe. If you want Learn How to Increase your dating Experience then I recommend this Seduction Science and Nonverbal sexual communication. Ehance your Dating Life.

Dating Tip : Shut Down you Mind

2005-07-12T06:04:00.000-07:00

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Nonverbal sexual communication. Ehance your Dating Life. Learn to Talk to women
You'll learn much more than what I describe here.

You know I was talking to my freind.. and he said something which made me thing about dating in different prespective.. He told me that "I've noticed that you can be totally cool n collected and who you are talking to doesn't matter. You are just on ur own. How can you be so calm?"
Now thinkin about this, normally I didnt have noticed it.. but I believe I've gotten over the fact that I cannot please everyone. and I stopped trying to do it.
So when I am talking to people I am What I am. I do not need to remember What character I've idolized in front of them.
well the question is How do I achieve this state??
There are 2 things
1. Indifference to outcome :
2. Shuting down the Mind :

Ok first thing I have been meditating since I was 14. So the meditation helps me a lot. When I want I can stop my mind, Blank it out.. and get into the moment. Now how this helps
You know we think a lot faster like million miles per sec.
Lets say you see a cute girl.. and the moment you feel like "wow I should get to know her", the moment you mind says "errmm.. Ur waisting is hanging out from ur pants" or "ur pockets is empty " or "u r not dressed for occassion, such a fine girl should not be touched"
and the worst of all "I do not deserve her kind of cute girl"
Whao...
We need to shut out those thoughts before it shuts...
How you can do this?
Well let me ask you to meditate dialy... Wat to do?.. just sit down in cross legged posture and Do Deep breathing. Breathe In thru nose, Breathe out thru nose. DEEEEEEPPPP.. for 10 minutes in morning 10 min in evening.
and when you got into situation where u mind is talking too much. Just say "Calm Down" and do many deep breathes.
another thing is.. Approach the girl no matter wat happens... No matter if you got shot down..

well I'll talk about indifference to outcome in next post
NOTE If you want to Learn all the right methods to change it and Learn How to Increase your dating Experience then I recommend this Seduction Science and
Nonverbal sexual communication. Ehance your Dating Life. Learn to Talk to women

does looks matter in dating

2005-07-02T06:10:00.000-07:00

well I just thought I should write on this...
This is the question that puzzles both guys n girls.. and trust me it has simple asnwer...
and the answer is Yes...
Now now.. before u speak, I can tell you want to give me example of X girl with hidieous guy.. right??
anyways before jump down on my throat.. hear me out..
You know I m very much rite when I say looks matter,..
but iit isn't the only factor which decides on your dating life..
and in fact you can do so much about your looks that You can look really attractive.
Let me give you 2 example of my own life.
Example 1 :

I was at one of the hip market about couple of yrs ago.. I saw this awesome babe.. being the babe hound I am.. I just pounced on the chance... well this girl cud see that I m coming for her. while I was walking I just felt something n looked from corner of my eyes.. n saw another girl(who was nuthign in comparison to 1st girl).. but there was something about her..
I stopped dead on tracks.. even tho she was not beautiful but she was way too attractive than 1st girl...
There was so much aura about her. that almost every guy stopped dead and 1st girl was puzzled about this situation

Example 2 :

I m not big of a hunk... when I gained weight.. I didn't look attractive at all.. I used to be fitness junkie and when I stopped working out.. I gained lots of weight... well anyways I worked out n lost all the xtra pounds.
Now whenever I go out, I always noticed girls checking me out.. and whenver I talk to some girl.. they start flriting with me rite on...
I was like dumb... wondering whats happening it never happend to me before even when i was fit earlier.

anyways if looks didn't matter then why I m giving you 2 different examples. Listen as I said earlier Looks aren't the only thing in part of euqation.. and I even talked about it in earlier posts
they are
1. Social situations
2. Money
3. Confidence(leading ability)

In both the cases. Me annd 2nd girl were both Confident and had ablility to lead.. we were so confident that we were projecting the aura that normal people doesn't have.
I was super fit after losing weight.
and the girl was also super fit with amzing body...
know wat I forgot how the 1st cute girl looked like but I can vividly describe 2nd girl... this is the kind of effect she had on me.
she had boobs to die for.. arse to kill for... argghhh... awesome...

anyways wat can u do abotu looks
well
1. Get Fit
2. Dress well.
3. change anything that can be fixed(yellow teeth, too much hair)

if you can't do this much then you don't have the confidence to live your life to fullest.. Your dating life will suck forever
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Nonverbal sexual communication. Ehance your Dating Life. Learn to Talk to women

Overcoming Shyness

2005-05-17T09:00:00.000-07:00

Games Are For Children

2005-05-15T18:50:00.000-07:00

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Nonverbal sexual communication
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I run a blog (http://gamesareforchildren.com) where I discuss the topic of the many games people play in the dating arena. I've posted hundreds of articles, many of which point out many of these troubles. Even if you haven't read the blog, you probably are aware of some of these schemes. While I wish it were easy to sum everything up into one neat, overlying problem, it's not that simple. Let me point out just a few of the issues.

For one, there's a definite lack of respect in dating nowadays. People don't even care about their partners enough to treat them as they deserve to be treated. Gossip, ridiculously high expectations, and rejections by ignorance are only some of the examples in this area. Grandparents are always carrying on about how today's generation has such a lack of respect. They talk about how, in their day, people cared about others and banded together through difficult problems. Why do they talk about these things? Because they're right! Through every activity in which I've been involved, I've encountered this problem. I'm tired of working for a hundred hours on a video project when the president of the organization receives but doesn't bother to even reply to your E-Mails asking him to review it. I'm sick of being ostracized from groups because I don't care to participate in their petty disagreements. And I'm exhausted after people expect me to work to death in volunteer organizations!

There are always exceptions to this rule, and I'm sure that there are many people who do have a great deal of respect for both their peers and their elders. Unfortunately, the majority, or at least the majority with the most influence, simply don't care.

Second, nobody is honest with themselves, let alone anyone else. Dating has turned into a torrent of backstabbing of which even Mark Burnett would be proud. Asking someone out is nearly impossible, because the gossip about it has already spread to a thousand people before you make the move. Then, when a rejection occurs (even if it's not rude), the rejector spreads rumors around to all his/her friends that cause them to completely ignore you, refusing to invite you to parties or even to initiate conversations with you. The biggest insult is that even if you asked point-blank, you'd still never get a truthful answer as to why such harm was directed towards you.

As if what occurs after a rejection isn't enough, people attempt to steal others' girl/boyfriends. One day, things are going well, and the next you find yourself wondering what happened to the relationship that was forming - that is, until you notice that person spending a lot of time with who you thought was your best friend. No explanation is offered, not even a "good-bye."

Third, people are not looking for someone who spends his or her time working to get ahead instead of getting flat-out drunk, who doesn't curse at or ignore his or her mate, and who actually makes time for whatever is occurring between them (whether it be a full-fledged relationship or just plain sex). They say they're looking for these things, but in reality, they're attracted to people with the attributes described above. "Confidence" is not the answer to the equation. Assuming they both possess the same level of "confidence," the above-described person would win every time over the "warm, caring, and intelligent" (wo)man that people claim is the ideal mate.

The list of problems goes on. You might be intrigued to hear that while the problems seem innumerable, I propose they can all be rectified with the simplest of solutions. There's no danger involved, nobody has to lead radical changes, and it doesn't involve an "impossible" fight against biology.

I simply propose for men to stop asking women out.

Not for the rest of your life, but for just a short time, say, a month. It's not impossible, and you won't have to do it as much after the month passes. While there are a few (rare) exceptions, the vast majority of women don't ask out men 50% of the time. Women do have the advantage in dating, and it's time to level the playing field. Sure, talk with women as friends, and if someone initiates a conversation with you, then definitely reciprocate. However, let the woman ask you out if she's interested, no matter how attractive she is to you.

Some women have never asked anyone out in their lives. It's no wonder why these women continually treat men like they're lower beings. If they had to put up with the rejections that most men do all the time, I guarantee that they would have more respect for men. Women would no longer put up with moving from guy to guy based on who was interested in her at the moment. And spreading gossip about potential romantic interests certainly isn't going to help one's prospects.

People need to realize that humans, for all their ancestry, are not monkeys or horses or rabbits. They're humans, who can think and act for themselves.

Men have so much more capacity in the dating arena than constantly looking for sex at all costs, if they would only exercise it. It's time to stop being prisoners to so-called "biology." Women have the same urges men do, and they should do half the work, not 10% or 20%.

There are a lot of "seduction communities" on the Internet that teach men how to "seduce" women. I don't know of any similar organization that teaches women how to impress men with the same fervor.

There's my proposal. I don't think it's hard to implement. Imagine if all the men even at one corporation or university decided to ban together. Laziness won't be a problem, becausenobody even has to do anything. It's time to change our distorted culture. All I'm suggesting is to promote equality. Is that such a bad thing?
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Nonverbal sexual communication
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Belief system

2005-05-13T08:04:00.000-07:00

Why most guys can't talk to girls ?? or why do they get nervous around girls??
I think most people have this fear of rejection..
it's not the rejection you might get from a girl but it can be anything deeply rooted in your belief system...
I had this sort of Belief where I supposed that I need to WORK HARD at it(anything) otherwise I won't be winner or I wont' achieve my goal...
so If I need to get a girl.. I might need to impress her royally to win her heart or something like that..
it's like shooting in the foot...
You need to change this.. you need to believe that you can get things in easy way too.. and you deserve it..
Man its so much deeply rooted in belief system that it kills your own success...
I suffered from it for many years... just last yr I had this relevation... and started working on it..

PS: If you want to Learn all the right methods to change it and Learn How to Increase your dating Experience then I recommend this Seduction Science and
Nonverbal sexual communication

Dating For Shy guy

advice on physical attraction

2005-05-10T19:53:00.000-07:00

Glad you like the books!

1. Prepare to be playful, fun, ask her about herself. This cues her for physical attraction. Sound like you have a good set up so far. Do the trance exercise where you practice the whole scenario in your head before you meet her.

2. Ignore boyfriends. Throw them out of your mind. Just approach the seduction just as if she didn't have a boyfriend. A lot of girls are looking to leave their boyfriends anyway or you may be a better guy for her. Let HER decide. Do not make the choice for her physical attraction.

3. She's OPEN to you. She has rapport with you. So you should be becoming more sexually open with her.. sexual innuendo and talking about sex in general. Elicit her values. Ask her about herself. DON'T be overly covert and cautious. This seems to be a theme in all of these. You are too covert and cautious, too afriad to take risks and it is really slowing you down.

Forget about making an impression. Women LIKE sex and powerful physical attraction. Don't forget that.

Regards,

Derek
PS: If you want to Learn all the right Rules and Learn How to Increase your dating Experience by Derek then I recommend this Seduction Science and
Nonverbal sexual communication

Be her best lover

2005-05-10T06:42:00.000-07:00

Be Her Best Lover
To be her best lover, be aware that women's sexual inner selves are harshly repressed by society's expectations of the roles she has to play - the roles of being a daughter, worker, wife, and mother.

Women fantasize about the Best Lover because with him, his sexual dominance, he allows her to totally release herself from the mundane limitations of her life, paying careful attention to her inner most fantasies and desires and then artfully fulfilling them.

The Best Lover pays attention solely to her pleasure, knowing that if he satisfies and pleasures her, he will get his...again leading to this concept of sexual dominance, for lack of a better term. He gets away from his own needs, wants, and desires, paying complete attention to the individual needs, wants, and fantasies of the unique woman right in front of him. Sexual dominaced is not far from you, if you really put your mind into this.

PS: If you want to Learn all the right Rules and Learn How to Increase your dating Experience then I recommend this Seduction Science and
Nonverbal sexual communication

Dating For Shy Guy

how to increase self esteem

2005-02-25T07:43:00.000-08:00

This is so very important for dating arena...
http://www.nlpweekly.com/index.php?p=70
read this... this is powerful tip...
I m NLP guy and I can tell you...

PS: If you are looking for something that can fill you with Confidence and Self Esteem this is one thing I recommend Confidence MAX

Dating For Shy Guy

Dating Tip

2005-01-01T01:28:00.000-08:00

Ok guys I m again... talking about Dating tips...
Actually today I'll talk about some rules which you should follow.
I don't follow any rules to heart... but You should because you are starting ;) lol
basically these should be follow in day to day life generally

1. Always end the communication first, be it call or date or watever.. if you are in touch with girl. always end your communication first.
2. Don't be Needy... I know it's hard to do when you have seen girls nude only in porn... but try it.
3. Dont' take shit from others. this is something which is misunderstood... if somebody treats you badly, you just don't listen n laugh at them... like you are their bitch !!!..
4. Be cool and social in general life... Don't hang around your girl forever.. get a life..
5. Always Dress according to situation.

I know these are simples but people are needed to remind often

PS: If you want to Learn all the right Rules and Learn How to Increase your dating Experience then I recommend this Seduction Science
Dating For Shy Guy

communication tip

2004-12-27T21:42:00.000-08:00

It's not exactly a tip, but a correction..
You see English was never my first language, so I need to work a lot. and More when I was shy... sometimes words are in my throat stuck... if you feel that way... this tip will help you lot more..
you know whenever I want to go out and meet new people... I do this exercise...
I pick up a newspaper, or couple of pages of text. I read em out aloud... It clears your throat and starts projecting your voice rightly...
I do this exercise if I m about to call someone(insider info : I was shit scared of talking on phone, I did this exercise for quite some time and it helped me a lot)

DO you know from where I learnt this exercise?
well ... Na... na naaaaaaaaa... I ain't telling my secrets...
ok ok kidding man...
Non-verbal Sexual Communication. Seriously guys Non verbal communication is 95% or more than in any game...
Dating For Shy Guy

How to do it step by step.

2004-12-27T19:29:00.000-08:00

I told you guys about scripts... Now first time I'll give you some scripts... oh well... only one for today...
Most of my scripts are based on simplicity...I once decided to talk to 10 women per day for a week... and just using the same lines, same stories.. to almost every girl...
The Big Idea?... Practice telling stories and analyzing how women behave.
I used simple line to open :
"Heyyyyyy...... I jsut saw u sitting/walking/watever she's dong... and I just knew I wanted to talk to you..."
simple chit chat... ie. I m X(for not so bright ones, X is your name).
"I need to go.. I would like to talk to you.. write down your number"
that's it.. it took me about 2 minutes(or less) and talking to 10 women per day is like total of 20 minutes..
Out of 10 I got around 4-5 number.

The major thing is about attitude... I have this attitude...
"you are lucky to be with me, now give me ur damn number"... LoL...

Now after taking numbers, I called the one I really liked... met them for whole week... for 15-20 minutes Coffee date.. it's cheap. it's easy.. and if you get bored or get stuck... u r only stuck for 20 minutes at max. if it goes right, still stick to 20 minutes...
it'll build anticipation in her(remember the sarcacity principle I discussed??)

Now can you go out and meet 10 women and do this exact script???... I dare you.. No I double Dare You :p
Anyways This is one book you should check out.. This will give you all the right reasons Why I follow this structure in detail and it's called
Situational Opener Technology. Get it... It's Highly Recommended
Dating For Shy Guy

How to Get a Life?

2004-12-27T05:57:00.000-08:00

ok I told you... It's important... Get this attitude...
You are FUCKING Important to this sucky world.

Why I am saying this? listen it's attractive, becuase people like these are leaders... Hey I told u earlier in my posts that People like to be LED just like sheep.

So How can you get a life?
1. Create a new hobby(as I said, Social Hobby).
2. Meet new people and become freinds with them.
3. Create a new goal for yourself in shorter or longer version of life( ie... xtra 10,000 $ in a year, or become multi-millionaire before age of 30/40 or watever)

getty???
Now next step is Enjoy what YOu are doing?... I met so many people who are whinners. they whine how theydon't like the job they are doing? then why the fuck u r doing it? get a real job. If for some reason you can't then Enjoy wat you are doing...
because Watever is your reality about ur life You project it and make it happen...
U ever heard the saying "Beware what you wish for, you might get it"
it works both ways... If you wish good things, you'll get good things, same for bad things

You Know I can give you hundreds of scripts and lines, and jokes,, but if you dont' hav stuff together you'll have tough situations to handle with women, unless you are brad pitt or tom cruise...

and guess Wat I m thinking of putting some scripts or lines or jokes.... So if you wish it. It might get fullfilled... :P
If you still want to something to help you out in this... then get
Get Confidence MAX and
Seduction Science
Both Highly Recommended
Dating For Shy Guy

Don't Seduce, ATTRACT

2004-12-25T07:29:00.000-08:00

YOu know I have been dealing with lots of things lately... I m kind of person who always prefer to Learn more and more about stuff... So today I was wondering... Wondering about dating... and love, attraction, Seduction... and whole lot of shit...

I was just wondering why some guys do it without reading any books and why some just can't even after reading tons of books.. n self help stuff.... They just can't...
You know sometimes the toughest situations have simplest of answers... I found that true for every aspect of life,, Like for Computers... 80% of errors come from simple mistakes... or like Martial arts, 80-90% of techniques/situations can be handled with just simplest of techniques... But We just don't see it..

It's same for Dating and Romance... We try to find Pick Up lines, stories, jokes, tricks to charm chicks but it's far more easier than you might think...

Why I am telling this?
I m telling you this because This is DA TRUTH. This is one thing if you understand, you'll feel like enlightened.
Either you understand it or You don't....
So wat's the story?
Well Do simple things... You don't need to learn complex stuff...
SO how do you use this to dating.
well You use Simple things... like...
Be confident, Be Cool... BE YOU.
???? What did I missed??
You listend to this shit from every tom, harry and dick. WHen I talk about confidence, It's not something WOO WOO stuff... When you can have confidence...
Well as I said earlier Confidence is Choice. and You create that choice? I didn't talk about that.. So I'll do it today...
You create choices by finding Yourself.
Ask this to you. Who Are You? What is your Purpose in life? Are you just living just for the sake of living or You are living a life worth living? worth calling a LIFE?
if Not, Then GET A FUCking LIFE.
You know one guy I talked to, said this about Eating food " I Eat as much As I need to live"...
WOW such a fucking profound statement.and you know most people live with almost this sort of philosophy. "I am Living because I need to live". Seriously you don't want this attitude at all...
again, SO Get a Fucking LIFE.
If you can just handle this thing about your life... I can bet You'll have hottest chics diggin for you...why??
there is a reason...
Which I tell you later...
If you want someone to help you out from Rut then this is the thing, the Someone..
Confidence MAX : Confidence Max
Nonverbal Sexual Cuing: Non Verbal Sexual Communication or Cuing
Dating For Shy Guy

let's get to meaty stuff..

2004-12-19T23:46:00.000-08:00

Ok I know I have been procratinating about writing...
so today I m going to write something meaty..
ok if you have been following my assignments... UPtill today u have not fear of talking to stranger or new woman. specially beautiful one.s If YOu still have, then I can bet you didn't follow my assignments.

anyways I have 2 assignment for you...
1st is actual assignment which you have to do it in field and 2nd one is something you need to understand and realize.

1st assignment.
Ok. for whole next week you need to follow this assignment watever happens, even If I put another assignment or not... U have to follow this day..
1. go out daily, choose a place where you are totally uncomfortable. for some people it might be bars or it might be streets ... just think wat's place u r scared off??... ok...
2. Now of course the place should have lots of chicks. tons of tons of chicks.
OH BTW, You are supposed to go alone, No bear for loosening you up.
No sitting down.
3. approach the chick and say "Hi [pause], You know You have the kind of look [pause again], I find intresting. right now I m kind a busy [Pause again] but I would like to talk to you... write down your number"
Now Remember. You are supposed to look into her eyes all this time, keep smiling face(did u practiced it regularly??) and relaxed bodylanguage... relax like you just got laid by a woman.

4. after getting number, exit... find another girl..

5. do this to number of chicks(at least 15-20), if you can't find that many women, then find a place where you can... another club, or wherever u get scared..

some bits about bodylanguage...
Walk slow, ultra slow, like u just sscrewed harem of chicks... breathe deeply and slowly, blink slowly... talk slowwwly... lots of pauses while talking... try to talk in that manner before going out..

2nd assignment.:
figure out what are the things/behaviour that causes attraction in women,
Figure out what are the thigns/behavious that kills attraction in women. Right it down in a journal(ya did make one??)
let me tell you...
it's not money, height, or dick size.... I mean if you have one then it's just an advantage...

analyze this situation... again n again... its so ultra important.. i can list so many behaviours that you cant count...

one of the behaviors that kills the attraction is
Needi-ness(oh well there is no such word as neediness), DO NOT BE NEEDY.

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she is %$^&&$*% b!tch!!!!

2004-12-12T02:41:00.000-08:00

You might be wondering about the title?? right... I have something amazing to tell you.
Y'day I was out alone, when I want to ponder on something I don't like anyone besides me, I love my solitude. Anyways... Y'day I was out alone, and my feet took me to my usual coffee place. I went inside n got my coffee... and then sat down...
Normally I m into my own cocoon, but today I was just not.. I was just un easy...
Then suddenly I watched this guy walking towards this beautiful dame. I was impressed, hey at least someone is trying to talk rather than sit on their asses and wonder why doesn't girl come to them Doh... anyways... he said somthing to her which I couldnt hear... but I could bet she whiffed him off... lol.. so this guy pissed was walking off. when he was crossing me, I asked' Yo bro, wat happened?"
He was like "She is ho, man, ^&$^%% bitch, some high class ass",
"Huh???". I don't like referring to women as Bitches or HO. anyways I stopped this guy and started talking to him... I got an some Idea on his pick up style...
He was angry... he was pissed because things didn't went as he planned....
hey what did he thought? this is jenna jameson movie? He expected to show his ugly butt n in 10 seconds she'll drop n give him blow job....
well come out of the movie guys, it doesn't happened like that... You NEED to work hard.

anyways I noticed this about guys.... ANGER. they get angry when a girl whiff them, and then they spread rumors about her,,, how she's loose bitch...
Men have been always like that... We men try to save our small ego while making the ass out of ourselves... when we aren't getting pussies we are like that...
this is wat is killing them and making them look like fool... they are too much in their ego..

it happens for first time, we get angry, second time, more anger, anger keeps pilling up and we become full of anger.. anyone who looks at us, can tell we are pissed, hell pissed from world.
Just let go of that anger, I don't care for whom you had that. I got burned by gal too, I got shot down by women too. But I know better, I don't get angry. I take everything gracefully,
No need to shoot back, No need to bad mouth, No need of anger.. There are way too many girls I have to choose...
It was her bad luck that she didn't got me... Change the attitude guys and you'll go long way.
I can tell just by looking at guy walking up, nah... just by looking up at guy trying size the girl for hook up.. How good he is in dating?
It's so very obvious. Hey practice doesn't makes man perfect, rather right Practice makes man perfect.

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how to chat up

2004-12-06T20:19:00.000-08:00

How to chat up...?

1. Forget HI as start up line or anything like that... you know wat do this... get a picture of yourself scanned and put it on some free webpage... and then ask for women's opinion. "Hey, I need a quick opinion" will get you answer most of the time...

2. You know you are not supposed to give info like... i m 25 yr old, works as electrical engg at abs company, I think i hav some hobbies too.. cut that shit.. it's boring already...
what you need to do is talk nothing about yourself... You are not going to talk about school/college/work/your boring ex life/etc /etc...

3. Enjoy yourself,
4. This guy once I read his tips on talking... He gives advice to talk like cocky and funny. he said YOu need to be BOLD and then throw a dash of charming funny line too...
like for ex. Girl (G) , You (Y)
G : are you seein women?
Y: no only men.
or
G: What do you do?
Y: Pornographer (and change your answer everytime she asks you).
Or

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Author in this book takes apart some chatting scripts and tell you how to do in step by step
I'll give you more tips on this in next post
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dating assignment

2004-12-06T20:03:00.000-08:00

Ok I have 2 different dating assignments for you...
we'll be getting comfortable around women and flirting with words.
1st assignment...
Ok so you have been making small talks with strangers... now what you need to do is start small talks with women, doesn't matter their age/size/watever u care about.
this is the only way to Removing shyness from women. if you think you have problem then start asking time or about nearest macdonald... tell them you are bad with directions so they need to write the direction for you.
Now added to this assignment is that You need to talk to at least 10 women in a day.
listen when you start talking to women it'll take you sometime to get rid of small hesitation, after talking to 2/3 women youll find it's easy to talk to rest of 7 women. and this uneasiness will be there everyday you go and talk to 1st women. trust me, I've been there and done that...

2nd Assignment
So you've been going to social events? no... then start going .. because you'll need social company..
actually what I hav in mind is how to flirt with words.. it's hard for shy guy so we'll take long route...
we'll get online and talk to women...
Sign up for Yahoo/AOL or watever chatting service you like and start chatting with people...
and sign up for some free dating services because here we had better chance of talking to real women. but stay online for a while... try any of these free services
1.eHarmony
2.americansingles.com
3.DATE.COM

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dating : update

2004-12-06T19:56:00.000-08:00

oh I didn't update this blog from last week... I was busy... life was never better..
anyways let's talk about your assignments...
This is next step which is MOST IMPORTANT for your dating life. specially for shy guy.
let's review what you have done uptill now
1. asked time
2. eye contact.
3. created a goal for yourself
4. found a social hobby for yourself.
5. little talks with strangers..

Seriously if you have done upto this, then you are no more shy guy.. but Let me say this will not help your dating life.
You still need to get some things fixed.
1. Getting comfortable around women.
2. getting comfortable about HOT women.
3. Learning how to flirt with words.
4. learning how to flirt with body language(if you can even just learn this, it's 10 times better than any pick up line).
5. Learning how to avoid the so Dreaded "Freinds" Zone.
guys this list is way too big.. :-P

So on to next step....
Your Next Assignment.
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how chemical effects us in Dating

2004-11-30T20:02:00.000-08:00

You see it doesn't matter if the danger is physical or psychological, Your body will always react in the same possible manner...
Now if you are shy guy... this is wat happens to you.

when you see women, your heart rate goes up to 115 bpm, and you start loosing control over
your tongue.

when you start talking to women(she starts talking to you, let's say she got sweeped by your looks ;) ), your heart rate instantly jumps up to 155 bpm and you just stand there... looking... :o

Now if the Woman is Seriously HOT, your body skips the second step and ur heart beat goes upto 175bpm... now only toilet can rescue you....

So if you sit at home practice talking to women alone, you'll go through every step... because you are not used to(not proper training).

So How you can improve this situation?
Daily practice. No no.. Daily practice in Tense Situation.

So you need to practice daily, talk to lots of women, talks to lots of Hot Women. Because in real you'd perform worse than your practice. So we make our practice Real.

Well You should use this Book to practice a Lot
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understaing Chemicals in your body

2004-11-30T19:58:00.000-08:00

wat happends in our bodies when we r under threat. it's very much chemistry.this chart will gave u pretty good idea wat happens rite there in ur bodies..

When subjected to a threat, such as real conflict, your body will release chemicals and these will affect your body and mind in certain specific ways.

Bruce Siddle has studied this phenomenon, and found that heart rate, measured in beats per minute, is a good barometer of the other effects.Here are the rules of chemical fear:

If you get scared enough that your heart rate goes over about 115 BPM, you will start to lose your fine motor skills. That means your precision grabs and locks are gone.

About 155 BPM, complex motor skills deteriorate- you lose your patterns, combinations, traps and sweeps.

About 175BPM, planning and thinking are severely compromised. You lose your near vision, peripheral vision and depth perception.
Your hearing will deaden or be lost.
Above 175, if there is anything in your bladder, you will lose it. Most will freeze or curl up in a ball and wait for mommy to save them.

Only the grossest of physical activity is possible- running and flailing. In short, the more desperately you need your skills, the less you will be able to rely on them.

When it is for real, you will do much, much worse than in practice. The belief that people improve under stress is a myth. (THE IMPROVEMENT THINGS HAPPENS ONLY IN NON-LIFE THREATS SITUATIONS)

How the hell this related to Dating for Shy Guy?
well Read next post then you'll understand.

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Confidence....

2004-11-28T22:00:00.000-08:00

I was talking to one freind of mine(not about dating). He was like Getting confidence is toughest thing for him.
and This is sooooo true for so many people.
I think this word is over used and over abused by people.
Most people hav 2 options...
Yes. Or No.
just Think.... how u'll choose ur answer?
u want this job? Y
u want big house? Y
u want to live miserably? N

technically There is never time or space for "may be". Just think carefully, you can answer most questions asked in Either YES or NO.
It's about choosing the right Option/answers...
Remember Movie Matrix? Neo has the same problem
Should he save trinity or not?
what did he chose?

The whole movie was built on one important thing, CHOICE.
that's the powerful weapon NEO has...

now wat's all this got to do with Confidence??
actually a lot.
See how confidence comes? it's come by choices.. It's come by choosing the right choice..

Most people makes the wrong choice, but then they fail to understand they have made it... they put circumstances to blame.

and then they say they didn't have the confidence...
ok confidence depends on 3 most important factors...
1. Previous Experience(bad/good).
2. Your knowledge on the topic/subject
3. Your prepartion on the topic/subject.

anyone of missing you'll be short of confidence...
phew.. I m tired now.. I'll put more on this subject some other time
cya... Keep doing those assignments...

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Dating Assignment

2004-11-26T21:34:00.000-08:00

Ok up till now we learnt lot about changing attitude and stuff... did couple of assignments...
so far we did...
1. asked time to people
2. eye contact.

now today will come the hard part...
I want you to do both the above assignments for warm up..
then graduate to..... getting social...
we both know that u r not social animal.. so we are going to make you one...
did ya set up that goal I asked you to do in one of my previous posts? if yes then this step is easy for you...
anyways Now you know that wat kind of girls you like...
You should find out places those types of girls frequent...
i.e. theatre, clubs, dance classes, cooking classes... u get the idea....
now go there and enroll yourself for couple of months... make sure male to female ration is better than 1:1 ...
there are some places I frequent where M to F ration is around 1:3... whooping good for us..

Now feel good about urself.. remember 4 aspect of successful guy(attitude/smile/grooming/emtional talk)... combine all of them together in a single package(you). and present it there..

try saying just "Hi", remember about smiling face? create that first, then say Hi, then smile....
if u r in class set up.. then it's easy to conservate in this manner...
hi.
hi.
how do you do, I m x?
m fine, thnx. i m y..? blah blah blah...
forget wat u talk about... u just need to get talking to attractive ladies...

I have even tougher assignment next time..

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feeling of connection

2004-11-26T08:42:00.000-08:00

this is last aspect which every guy should learn... it's generating a Feeling of connection with girls. failing to do so, will result failing in getting girls.
isn't that sooooooo obvious....????
girls are emotional beings, they feed themselves on drama, emotions.... sometimes they hav their own, sometime from other people emotions...
crying, whinning, bitching... are all part of drama's they crave for... yup it does seems like they have nothing better to do... :D
above 3 parts were easy to build, this is toughest for a guy.
I can write for hours on this topic, but you see all of that is psychological stuff,,, borring..

anyways I'll have another assignment which you should do... but i'll post it tomorrow...
till then...

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Grooming or Good looks

2004-11-26T03:45:00.000-08:00

Ok we talked about good looks already... now of course grooming is a part of this...
there r some rules I follow..
1. always take good bath.
2. nails cut
3. shaved.(shaving tip : first take a bath in warm water then shave, it's softens up the pores n it doesn't get itchy)
4. good brushing
5. good ironed clothes
6. Follow my style of clothing(basically it's nothing big)
7. daily exercise makes you look healthy n vibrant.
8. deo or anti perperient

if you have sweat problem like me then you need to have anti perspirent. just the thought of workout makes me sweat...
I also shave my arm pits, it helps a lot...

you might think why I m so nuts about grooming... ok you see girls/women hav hightened sense of smell... they can spell good/bad like miles away... and they can get turned on(or turned off)by smell...
most men does't hav that high sense of smell.. so most often it doesn't matter much to them.
(I have very good sense of smell, I also like my girl to smell damn good, thnx to my nosy sister, I become like this)

Grooming is just a part of Huge Equation and the situation is called Non Verbal communication and If you want to get this place right thn get
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Smile : The Second most important aspect

2004-11-25T20:45:00.000-08:00

Men will always be Men, and they are supposed to act tough...
hmmm...
yup, we are always told to be "shut the fuck up and get down to our business". Sometimes I think, the more advanced our culture/race is becoming, the more we are going against the Nature.
There is no strictness in nature...
anyways
let's talk about smiling... Most ppl(esp guys) cant smile even if their lives depended on it... they are so stiff with the faces that expressions can't come out(other extreme of this is Metrosexual man, well we'll talk about him later).
the thing about smile is, it makes you look attractive. it makes you look lot like human, not like robot. But if you do too much, it'll make u look like stoned :D
Oh it's very necessary to put a nice n genuine smile on your face.

How you'll do that?
Lots of guys talk about 3 types of smile.
0. Restricted smile
1. smile through your lips.
2. smile showing ur teeth.. and then they conclude lot of bullshit about smiling... like how smiling showing ur teeth shows ur confident n blah blah...

anyways I prefer having a smiling face rather than smile on ur face... It's more powerful than smile itself... it tell others that u are approachable human.
Smile is an act... smiling face is something in itself... it cannot be acted.. and it's more genuine.

anyways there's tip for smiling...
1. stand in front of ur mirror.. try to smile... a good smile, a good genuine smile.... try to smile like that for next 1 minute.. I can bet u can't even hold that smile for like 5 seconds.
but try it.. try it anyways..
when you are done with 1 minute of smiling(at a stretch).... first check ur balls(still theree??) and make sure that u havn't become homo or something after this much smiling :D...
ok ok.. just kidding..

2. Now go out to mall, park or wherever u find lots n lots of people... with smile on your face... and note their reaction... do they look freindly to you? do you think now you can approach them(girls??) and talk...???
write down ur thoughts...
ok this much is enuff for today..

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Dating For Men

2004-11-24T18:27:00.000-08:00

Ok this is small list of things that a Guy should learn if he wants to create a good persuasive personality.
1 . Humour
2. Smile
3. Well Groomed / Good Looks
4. Ability to create an emotional connection/ Feeling of romance
With those Assignments already given, I can focus on other things which will help you in building a good charismatic personality.

Let's start with Humor.
You know when guys think about humor they think of some guy who's soooooo Hit with girls with his jokes,,, but remember You don't have to become Hit with Jokes, You are not a Joker.. ok??
We'll take very different Routine to Humor.
Just take a look inside, it not like you are always a super moron/dumb/watever.. you might have said things which people find really crazy and funny... if there is not... you better check out with some Psycho-doctor :-), there's obviously something wrong with u...

Now when we know that you have the ability to create humor(even a wee bit), we can rest assure that you have Humor ability.. But now we are going to take those humor abilites and use it to inenhance charisma.

as I said, Don't Over do it...
listen what you should do is not go crazy over learning new jokes/funny lines... we'll use Humor with scarcity prinicple..

Scaricity prinicple is : If A person don't have that something(girl,money etc), the desires in him increases more.
Remember girls giving hard time to boys, it based on the same principle.

Now Use humor just like that... If it doesn't come to you, it's ok... nobody's going to kill u.
more often when we just can't crack a good joke or punch line it's because we are tensed up with situation... not because we don't have good sense of humor.

So our first job is to be comfortable in the presense of Girls/Women, the humor will come anyway.
use humor with scarcity means simple, You don't need to become any girls pet Joker, best thing. is
crack a punch line when the tension is rising or when there is absense of humor. it's then the humor will have great effect and you don't need to jay leno or jim carry to get laughter in that situation...
but if somebody is already being a Pet Joker,, Don't crack a joke at all(some dating experts comments that this will loose power in joker presense, I do agree but it's not big deal, I'll explain this more in upcoming posts)

Remember whatever Joker does, Joker will always be joker, he's be used for musing by king(you), King ask joker to perform his acts for his courtiers so.. guess wat you'll do??

ask "hey, that's fuckin funny, can u do(x thing related to the act) that too" or "hey man, u told better joke last time" .
Just put Joker in his act. Now who looses power???

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Let's talk about Attitude

2004-11-24T04:50:00.000-08:00

We talked about having Attitude. but the important question is How to get one?
Now it's not easy to really get attitude... Some are just born with it... but where there is a will theere is way(I know it's cliche`, but u got wat i m saying).

Let me talk about Robert Greene's Book "48 Laws of Power". He talks about "Entering Action with Boldness"
If you want to set up a darn good attitude, you need to Master this law...

Entering Action with Boldness will create superiority in eyes of other. If you are in doubt. DO NOT DO IT. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execustion(remember about approaching the girl and u almost pissed in ur pants, thats wat he means).

The Main advantage with this move is whenever you commit some mistake they are easily corrected with more boldness :D .. we are getting tough... aren't we..

so why this move is important?...
well think from a girl's point of view... how attractive a guy would seem if he talks you while wiping his sweat off his forehead?...
or How attractive a guy would seem if stammer while talking to you, because he fears you...
no If I m a girl, I'll never find this guy attractive...

anyways I'll post more methods right here to change your attitude...
let me give you an example of some boldness and smoothness..

just couple of days ago, I was wandering in market, I saw this nice girl... she was watching me(they are always subtle, darn those girls :D ).. and so I went ahead and said "hey hun, if you can see me, you can talk to me"(I got this line from freind of mine, works most of time)... she was bit surprised and said smiling "No I wasn't" ...
me : "oh then why u are blushed ???(a lie psychological thing, I just assumed :D)..." and she really blushed... and rest was easy...

It wouldnt hav worked if I was hesitant or didn't move boldly(2 moves, 1st my first line, 2nd assuming about blushing)

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Dating tips : set up a goal

2004-11-23T05:33:00.000-08:00

Today I m not going to put any assignments at all... you ask why?
well I think the assignments I already gave u are good enough for 2 weeks... You should work it... I'll improve on those 2 assignments and put some more tips as the weeks progress...

Now today I want you to do one simple thing.

I was talking to a freind of mine.. I asked him "what kind of girl you want?"
he was like "hey every guy wants the same things :D"... Hmm.. I thought to my self... No wonder he's still wondering about dating... he dont even know what kind of girl he's looking for...
So I told him to write down the kind of girls he want...
Of course size of boobs and ass are very important issue...
but there are some other things you should remember... like for example when I look for girl... I look for some attributes...
like
1. Her attitude towards life.
2. Interesting, and Intelligent.
3. Good sense of humor.
4. adventourous... and so on... my list is kind a long...
anyways So What I want you to do is "Write down what kind of girl you want". So that you know what goal you are aiming for. and how to go about it?
Ok???

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Dating Adult...

2004-11-21T21:18:00.000-08:00

Dating like Adult people. or should I say mature people.. :D Adult gives birth to dirty mind ;)

Dating beautiful women like a Adult Man Not like a Boy :
This is not assignment but my thoughts on this... actually I was talking to my freind about this.. He was like how bitchy they are etc etc... hmm my guess He got burned by Hot babe.
Wat ever...
I don't communicate when people are stuck up on some issues, so too he was... I don't like when people goes over n say things about women(especially Hot ones) like "they r bitchy or too made up, Ho".
It happens almost every day I hear guys hitting on hot chic n then complaining.

Note : If you want to date Beautiful women, you have to stop complaining... You have to stop giving excuses(I m not rich, handsome etc).

You know beautiful girls get hit on like every other second. they have heard every damn line, they saw every darn move... now they are immune to lines and moves...
so that means you can't get beautiful women?
No you can, but not with ur Pick up lines or things like that... You have to forgot every damn lines.
If you can create a Persona, create a charisma. it's possible...
but how you'll create it?
hey what we are doing in this ?? we are working towards creating a powerful charisma which will blew anyone away :)

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Dating for shy

2004-11-21T03:27:00.000-08:00

Dating for shy guy. Assignment Part - II
Ok so in our last assignment, we asked time... right??
now I think You should do this for next 15 days... as a warm up.. ok... Ask time from at least 40 people... and You'll find you end up talking to someone..
anyways our main concern is killing your social inhibition. So this exercise is essential..
so on to our next assignment.
It's called stare at me :D...
oh well it's Eye contact assignment... Now what you have to do is make eye contact with everyone you meet in streets, buses, malls wherever u are.
What you'll find ???
1. it's hard to keep eye contact with people..
2. It's harder to keep eye contact with girls.
3. It's hardest to keep eye contact with Beautiful girls(ok shooo... stop looking at her breasts)
4. You'll find there's an Itch, nervousness in your stomach. You want to look away.. But DON'T
You are not supposed to look away until the other person does.

Oh BTW, one thing. when you look into other people's eyes, dont' stare... Just look into their eyes softly. Keep a smiling face (try it in the mirror before you go out.. it's hard to even do this)

So complete your assignment... You are supposed to do this exercise after asking time from 40 people and this assignment should last upto 100 peoples.
Hey number is high, but it's easy, because most people dont look at your eyes..
so happy staring
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hey what about the looks?

2004-11-21T01:43:00.000-08:00

oh.. I forgot... it's such an important factor... well, if you are a guy then you'll always like virgin beautiful girl with big boobs, slim waist, tight ass.
It's so obvious... anyways wat about girls?
do they expect, Virgin handsome guy, with big shoulders, slim waist, tight ass...???
well If the truth to be told... then "Yes".
Hey are you telling me that Girls told you beauty is skin deep n all they care is character... umm..well if that was true then one of my freind(ultimate character,avg in looks) would have at least all the girls in his college dieing for him...
Let me tell you, Looks Do matter But... Not to that extent when it comes to girls.. When girls love/like someone, they even can put themselves in denial condition ie. they overlook every fault in the guy( this is one of reason why bad boys get girls, bad boy fucks girl, bad boy dumps girl, yet girls go back to fuck him more). Ok I know I m kind of crude in talking like this...

But emotions are working here Not Logic. People(read girls) are motivated by emotions not by logic. if u want to find the truth... do one thing.
find a girl and tell her how ur computer works all the logical stuff... and see her reaction...
find another girl and tell her, how love happens?? how people fall in love, or what happen when people fall in love? and see her reaction...
in first case u'll bore girl to death... in second case.. man if you play ur cards right, she'll ........ Don't ask what she can do...

anyways we were talking about loooks... as I said Looks matter.. Even I felt it.. You see about an Year ago I wanted to get Big and powerful so I was following heavy protien diet,,, then my experiment kind a failed(oh I forgot to exercise :D). I ended up adding fat than muscles...

anyways I was thinking, it's good time I should test some girls,, how they react to fat guy(I was about 12(30 lbs) kgs overweight).. ok... girls reacted to me very neutral... I thought hey I might not be giving right vibes.. so I tried no of girls, none reacted like they are intrested in me... but when I started talking and showing some of my personality(ie. social status, attitude, leading) They felt attraction.
I was like oh man, at last I proved it's true, girls care about character more... hmm...
anyways fast forward to 2 months, I worked out and lost about 10 kgs of weight, I got slim and muscular, now the moment I m walking down the road I m feeling girls checking me out(very subtle, u'll know when You get through ur shy shell ok). I m getting smiles from girls, I m feeling they are more open towards me.

anyways I thought I was crazy... so I called up my freind(girl) and met her... she was like awww..........she literally blurted out.. "u look ....so sexy",
Ive met her when I was big, and she was like experiment in meeting girls. anyways she commented a lot on my looks n what not...???
Hey let me tell u(getting compliment from girls is like doing drugs.. even better than that...)

anyways I m telling you all this... becaouse I want you to know looks works but just to an extent.
it gives you step in the door, but then it's on to you to open that door and met some really wonderful girls...

oh.. I see this post become huge... anyways I'll give you another exercise for de-shying... in next post.. I m tired right now, and i need sleep before I go n meet my Gal in evening... cya

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Money...

2004-11-21T01:30:00.000-08:00

oh man, it's sooooooooooo obvious... that money will easily get u girl.. but getting you love..
kind a crazy... and now days I have seen this new trend... girls using guys a lot...
damn... I can understand couple of free drinks but then it went over board...

Girls use sooooo much of their power... wat the heck is their power?? pussy???
yup... she can do that...
anyways We were talking about Money... Money is self evident factor but if you are born in silver spoon, then there are things easy for you... You've already in +ve condition according to women, but if you got rich by ur own... U have no idea how women deals with rich Men... it's tottally different.
If girls says "I don't care about rich guy,, all i care is X Y Z" believe me she's lying right out of her ass..
so IF you got money, you do have power over girls but still it can be used by girls... we Men.. when it comes to women, we hands over our balls to them n tell them to Do watever they want.
so If you somehow stuck a lottery right now n end up being millionaire... Do Not Give ur balls in women's hand... she's tag u along with herself...
anyways We should talk about next factor...

Leading Ability
As I said in Attitude factor, It's the same, People are like sheep, they'll follow you long till the time you are leading.
The moment you stop leading, they'll start leading you(hey any one of us have to lead the group)..
So the onus is on to you to LEAD. When you lead people it creates Massive attraction. People become crazy after you(hey remmber Social status factor is also adding).
Think Ghandi, Hitler, Napoleon, Nelson Mandela, abraham lincoln... They were leaders some were good, some were bad.. But they were massive leaders.. They can move masses like no one can.

That's the power.. Ultimate power... When you combine all of these 4 factors you become Ultimate Attraction Machine. Attitude -> Lead -> Social Status -> Money

Listen if you just want to become Rich. Follow the above path... I can write a whole thesis on this why this path is right. but we have lots to learn in becoming Man from Shy Guy

Like I said Money is not the big part of equation, the major part is your attitude which you show off by your leading ability, body language and day to day activities which you'll be reading more in latest posts and How you can access to all the secrets Get this book thenSeduction Science
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Social status.

2004-11-21T01:14:00.000-08:00

Next in line is Social status..
Why it's attractive... specially to women...
hey we all are sucker for Social status.... we all run for those stars/actors/hero's
we tends to believe, If some one is well liked by masses, then he/she obviously is an attractive person(that's why they all want to talk to him/her)... Every College/School have this kind of girl/guy. He/she is nothing very special(not good grades, rich, handsome/beautiful) but more liked than others.
So what we do is follow is Sheep.. U know IF you are controlling Sheep herd, then you only need to guide the sheep which is in front of their herd. and every other will follow.

It's the same with people. None of them can think of their own. they prefer someone else do their work for them. Whenever someone think of their own and makes statement, he/she is outcasted or thrown out of soceity. History is evident in itself.

it's same to women, but a bit more than that...
see womenhood is like a cult... they all belong to this cult... even if they don't know themselves. They'll trust another stranger girl than their own BF/husbands/brothers...
They'll trust that if some girl is with this guy, then the guy must be real attractive... now imagine if 2 girls like the same guy.. wat'll happen???

when other girls come to know about this... they'll start liking him too... it keeps building... They all want to know what's so special about this guy... why 2 others girls are fighting over him?
it's like nuclear reaction, it keeps exploding... soon the guy will become expert player with girls...

this nuclear reaction goes other way too... if a girls dislikes you, you become unpopular fast.. This is crazy stuff....
You are screwed if you do it, fucked up if you dont... This is situation of men.
Let me tell u... I've been at the both receiving ends... it fucks up ur mind like nothing else...
anyways We'll talk about next social likeability factor.

PS: If I ever hav to trade looks, money and everything to one factor... I'll trade it for Social status... without even thinking twice... It's the same reason you'll see so many ppl trying networking in gyms and other places...

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Attitude for Shy guy

2004-11-20T08:31:00.000-08:00

Well What exactly about the Attitude that makes it charming? well Seriously I m yet to find that out... but people with Attitude(call it right attitude)...
People with Right attitude have different aura about things... they have the ability to Lead n go for success.

Attitude tells more about person... It also suggest that person is more open to ideas, He can think outside the box. People just take for granted that this guy is successful that's why he have attitude...

Attitude is very very sexy... It tells people that this Person has the ability to Create. Which is more powerful.. which gives the sense of power.

People are sucker for power... especially powerful people... Just notice to actors/stars/Rock stars.. they hav the right attitude...

PS: I c lots of guy making the same mistakes again n again.... they just don't get it... but hey if you are reading this then you can cut short those mistakes
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Pleasing Personality

2004-11-20T07:57:00.000-08:00

I was wondering over some things... and when I analyzed some really successful peoples lives, I found some common things in them. They all tends to have very pleasing personality. I can say this because I personally know some people who are very successful in their respective fields...
Bitterness comes in loosers basically, they whine, they cringe that Rich ppl get Rich n what not?
I m not talking about people in their love life... but in every part of their life...

Anyways I m talking lot of shit... Most successfull people have 4 major traits in them...
1. Attitude.
2. Social Status.
3. Money.
4. Leading ability.

You might wonder what new I found... this is so self evident... don't worry we'll talk about that...
You see people with these traits are often well known... but more often they are so self connected in itself...
If you miss one of them you'll not touch that Successful aspect. and you know the craziest thing. If you get even one of them you'll get all of them eventually.

Most of times shy people lacks these qualities(almost all of them). The moment they get money(one of the big reason) they get bitter that people now treating them differently.

They don't seems to enjoy their being wealthy. If you have any one of quality. cherish it and build from it...

anyways I'll talk about 4 traits in detail in my next 4 posts... how it effects your social circle...

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Conversation for Caveman

2004-11-19T19:58:00.000-08:00

Oh ha... I forgot, You have spent yrs in your cave alone... now you are shitless while talking to people...
anyways I have remedies to that too...
1. First check your vocal chords are in proper place...

check??
doh.. Dumbo...can u talk? good...
2. Now Go to Mall or anyplace where you can meet lots of people don't care about their gender, their race or age ... You just need people.

3. Ask them "what time is it?" or "do you have the Time?" or "Where I can Find X?"

4. Keep doing it untill the butterflies in your stomach dies, means till ur jittery feeling goes away.. it can take couple of people or even twenty... or may be 100.. I dont know you... just go out n find yourself.

5. Come back home and write down your feelings... are u dead? are u hurt? are your pride hurt(if u have one)?

with my experience, if you just ask people time, some mihgt just restart conversation with u... its like 1 out of 20/30 people... They are bored and want to talk... Just be pleasant and keep talking like their talks are intresting to you.

This exercise is part of Situational Opener Technology which you can easily get it herre
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Let's start shy guy

2004-11-19T19:49:00.000-08:00

I know It's sux to be a Shy Guy. So let's get started the De-shying process... It can take upto 1 week to get de-shyed :D
Mostly people become shy because they are not in touch with people. They hav activities which do not involve people(as I said in earlier post)... it's important to have hobbies and activities which encourage meeting up new people regularly...
For De-shying Some people do hypnosis, Nlp and what not.. but we'll do it by facing our fears..
You know it's hardest to face your own damn fear. You know you are shit scared of it, but you still going to face it...
Face it, If you miss this step... Do not read further. It useless. May you remain dick-less.
otherwise let's start talking...
yup...
Now it's hard to just go to any stranger and start talking...
Did u ever noticed how some old folks just sit close to you and tell you their whole damn story??
how easy it is? why...?? because they have nothing to loose
yup Nothing to loose? at most Wat you can do? tell him to shut up? or walk away... that's it...
You probably say "thnx for chat".. n walk away.. right??

Now you arent shouting on him? do You? Youll never do... Today in Almost every darn culture people are told to respect each other.. You ain't getting ur balls busted untill u do something horrible... hmm.???

so wat you have to fear? nothing... What you have to loose? nothing..
So start talking to people randomly... Do not care about ur love life right now.. I can see down the line about 3 months, you are enjoying the company of beautiful girls...

I'll tell you how you can do simple talk in next post.. just chill..

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Why I am telling you this?

2004-11-19T04:48:00.000-08:00

You see, I want to get this out of my system. Internet provides me good source.
I can be Invisible yet Visible. You wonder, If I still have fear. Yup we all do...

After a Change it's hard to convince Myself it was me yrs ago.
I m writing, so that If there is shy guy like me, he can read here n change himself.
There are countless books, which I think are just nothing to fluff...
It's the Action that counts.
I'll put these posts with every step I took in my learning.
Keep Reading Things will get intresting..

My recommended Books are

Seduction Science

Legendary Lover

Palm Reading

Nonverbal Sexual Cuing

Situational Opener Technology

Confidence MAX

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2004-11-19T04:41:00.000-08:00

The very thought of talking to stranger was enough to get my pulse beat up fast.. think about talking to girls... *jitters*
I was very nervous but wanted to change... Normally I m very talkative kind of person, when I talk people listen but when it comes in terms of strangers. I do get nervous.

but when I m freinds with people they see how facinating I can become.

I have lots of hobbies... like Martial arts, rock climbing, Astrology, Hypnosis, and what not??
but If you look at most of my hobbies they can be done without having people around you. right..

Yup... I wasn't social from the beginning. So it took me time...

I talked to one of good freind about this problem, to my surprise He didn't laugh, he agreed to help me. He told me I need to change a lot of things.
He told some good things n some bad things about me.

He told me It's good I practice Martial arts. You have a Strong guy's walk... ??? but when I communicate I become venerable.. hmm...

So we start working on every aspect of my life...
Body Language.
Verbal Communication.
Sexual Communication.
Style.
Confidence.
lots of minor things that I couldn't noticed...

I m trying to free my mind. wow...
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This must be crazy.

2004-11-18T07:09:00.000-08:00

I think this must be crazy... I m putting here for the first time, about me. Why it's important?
well you see, I was this shy guy. So shy that I couldn't even talk to person standing next to me even My life depended on it.

But I changed around my life... It wasn't Simple, It wasn't easy.. but I was determined...
so are you intrested in How I did it?
well I made a dairy out of what I was doing in those days... I still keep it and wondering "I did those things?" wow... But it's great change.... I m enjoying every bit of it...

My recommended Books are

Seduction Science

Legendary Lover

Palm Reading

Nonverbal Sexual Cuing

Situational Opener Technology

Confidence MAX
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